Posted by Niniveh on August 4, 2003, at 18:17:09
In reply to Re: What IS this???, posted by Henryo on August 3, 2003, at 21:00:16
You mean, like AA or NA meetings?
Around here, that's where you go to get hooked in with the worst of the worst -OR- blame everything on Mama... Most local AA-ers are sentenced by the courts and show up high as a kite, and there's this creepy inner circle that visits you to say how you aren't responsible for your actions that everything is because of your childhood.
If I knew more perhaps I'd be more willing to very gently, and invisibly, prompt her to go, but the things I've heard have been major put offs.
In her case, however, there is mitigating childhood trauma that someone SHOULD have protected her from, so perhaps that gives an opening.
She totally refuses any sort of psychological evaluation on grounds of "I've made it this far without them quacks...." Initially, I hoped to simply match her needs with a handful of drugs, hand her and my research over to my doctor, and see if they couldn't straighten things out.
Now, I'm more concerned. Although she'd never physically harm herself or her family, I'm worried that she'll create a rift in her marriage that will cause her hubby to "betray" her by having to leave to save himself.
I'm also an in-law; our husbands are brothers, so I'm "last in the loop." I never know what's happening until it's too late.
They "rescued" their daughter from Michigan. Initially, I thought she really wanted to come, but I'm begining to think they emotionally coerced her to some degree to leave her life and keep the family together.... However, I know she's better off here because she'd been hit on two occasions by her live-in, mooching lover, hence the rescue.
From all appearances, the daughter is normal, healthy and rebelious, a quintessential eighteen-year-old tom-boy. However, the 14-y-o son is unstable and moody like his mom... This is getting interesting --- a real-life drama, daily.
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