Posted by KarenB on June 13, 2000, at 23:18:53
In reply to Re: Avoidant personality disorder--Karen, posted by Janice on June 13, 2000, at 22:14:44
> I'm having a hard time discerning between depression and avoidant personality disorder. Maybe the avoidant personality disorder is when you still have the anti-social feelings but no depression?
Have you ever felt like that? I just quietly disappear and don't want to see or talk to anyone when depressed but I'm reasonably friendly and outgoing when not. I've always considered it part of the depression.
> Karen B,
> Same deal with weddings. Although I've never put it together before, I think it is ADD. Though there is alot of stimulation for your senses, you're spending your time doing things like making small talk and waiting for something to happen (yawn). Stimuli and boredom are a painful combination. To avoid this, I used to get really drunk and make a complete a*s of myself. Took care of the boredom, plus no one tried to small talk to me afterwards.
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> just kidding (last 2 sentences),
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> JaniceJanice,
You're very funny...and I'll bet you're not kidding!
Since I stopped drinking like that(long, long time ago...), weddings and parties - especially company parties when I was working (oh, the torture...)- are perhaps the only activities that have just not gotten any better for me. In fact, I dislike "events" SO much that I planned my own wedding in four days, inviting only immediate family and grandparents. It was great! Beautiful. Just what I wanted and I didn't have to smile and kiss 200 people. Now, THAT is worth avoiding!:) Afterwards, we had a wonderful dinner at our favorite French restaurant for everyone. That was 14 years ago and I have NEVER regretted not having the "gala affair" and being "queen for a day." I actually had a great time at my own wedding - many women I know didn't because of the incredible stress of planning a party for 250 or so people and wanting everything to be "perfect." Geez, who really needs THAT?! Truthfully, if it weren't for family and consideration of their feelings, I wouldn't have invited anyone at all! Is that
"avoidant?" I don't think so - if so, it's never hurt me to be that way so I guess it's normal - for me.Karen
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