Posted by dj on October 6, 1999, at 1:17:55
In reply to There is no "why", posted by Bob on October 6, 1999, at 0:02:45
Bob,
You're in a scrappy mood tonight, my man, by the tenor of your postings. Looks good on you!
Further to your very eloquent comments to HELP he/she might want to consider the buddhist viewpoint which differentiates between pain and suffering. Pain is just pain, and suffering comes from not letting go of the pain or the pleasure for that matter. ie. -- always expecting things to be different than they are rather than accepting and dealing with them as they are. What is, is, as Janice and others would say. And as some teens put it, get over it!
So from my understanding of the buddhist perspective you need to quit nurturing your pain to lessen and perhaps let go of your suffering. Easier said than done but there have been many helpful suggestions made to you. So get over it and get on with it. Self pity can be very addicing, as I know only too well, but so can self affirmation, or so I am told... ; > !
> > May be. May be there is no reason great enough to justify the pain. May be there is no help. May be there is only all alone.
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> Why would you want to justify pain? There is no reason you were meant to be in pain. There is no reason you were meant to be alone. Why? You are not _meant_ to be either of those, that's why.
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> So stop trying to justify it.
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> Help starts with number one. If you're looking for a reason as to why pain is a just and proper burden for you to bear, then some small part of you, at the least, has accepted being a victim. Don't let your pain turn you into some helpless victim, passively accepting your "due". If you want help, then you have to grab it.
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