Posted by PL on August 4, 1999, at 11:37:34
In reply to Effexor Withdrawal, Donut's situation & comp.progm, posted by janey girl on August 3, 1999, at 20:15:39
Have you tried finding out it there are any programs in your town or county to help? Sometimes there is free counseling available.
It sounds like most of your problems stem from a family situation. It's hard to go to people and ask them for money, but your dad has it. And he is your dad! You should ask him how much you are worth to him. Have you told him about your withdrawal problems from Effexor. Have you told him how bad you feel? It sounds like your worried about the "family grapevine and judgements that go with it". Don't. It sounds to me like you have some judging to do. If you were your dad would you give you the money and without all the hassel it seems your getting? If you say yes then you are a far Better Person than your father is and if the rest of your family is so judgmental then you rank high above them too! Don't put yourself down.
I can identify with you to some extent. I lived alone for quite a few years. I had no savings, made low wages and took a bus or walked to work. But my parents were dead. When I asked by older brother (who had a house, 2 cars, wife, family, vacations, etc.) for a small loan he said he didn't have any money. Then he turned around and gave his son $50 to go out partying.
Anyway, you have a new job. Things are looking up! The side effects of the Effexor will pass. And if you can, tell your father how you feel, even if you are judged by your family. Who knows, maybe they'd judge in Your Favor!
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