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Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 1:11:29
Anyone here know's what it's like to take care of family and then forget what value [you] had..
I mean think of person that...mmm disagreed but I want to be around, yet that's not going to happen because of social things, i rather be around people I know and have their say. This person, just has a achment to me that I cannot let go of, yet the person that they see [his family] isnt acceptable and I just have to go with that and live life. Yet i still, want a connection of somekind but it's going to happen because either rejection, or something will happen and it can't last. I'm starting work tommorow, and I don't know if should go see my brother at his office like I used to work for him. If he payed me a bit more, I would take the job again, yet i'm at eddie bauer, but I think he already has someone filled in.
Just to talk and sit around, how to do you accept that you ran away from a problem, yet it was actually for my health because i had breakdown, couldnt talk for a week, people didnt understand, there was alot of thigns going on. I want to be on the correct medication, that I was taking, and maybe go back to see my brother. And discuss issue that I know are going to be discussed.
Someone please give me some feedback...please!
Posted by manic666 on October 27, 2009, at 5:31:18
In reply to My brother..., posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 1:11:29
so does he think you walked from the job,Did he see you were heading for a breakdown,or thought you just quit, he is your brother how come he pay,s you crap.Is he cool with your mental health or dont want to no.Try work somwhere else then your not in each other face,You shouldent need a hand with your brother , only you a you alone no him we dont.It make,s it hard
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 13:14:25
In reply to My brother..., posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 1:11:29
Well,
Brother's I think spend time with eachother, yet you know I may just go and see him, and I don't know what the reaction is going to be....I can't be a stranger, but I don't want to get rebuked, and put off.
One thing, is I want to come back into life with my family, and it's shame that kept me from doing it. There are rules, which you follow by, but I just want to see my brother again, and not be any influence to something that he does not want, and people get tired of people who are boring [at least as I see myself] and what can I benefit intead of take, or run off and avoid a problem. I did have a "collapse" where I left work, and I just lost communication, and functioning in general, because of overload in my brain. And I don't want history to repeat it'self.
That's it, chrismas is coming up so...maybe that will be a good time, good time for giving to people. All, what I want is a friend as brother yet responsiblities and moving on with life, that just sometimes say's "bye". I think expectation's are higher of what he want's see in me. Yes, he is my brohter when it comes to "paycheck" and it will be low, that's how it was when I ate pizza with him, he got the bigger piece, because something called a "gold card" and I have the "wal-mart card"
Well, that's about it.
Posted by manic666 on October 27, 2009, at 14:33:11
In reply to Re: My brother..., posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 13:14:25
i hear you, You no something i dont talk to my old man an he is 97, yes you heard right it may seem weird to people but he put me down all my life.even now at 97 is brain is sharp. its about 6 months since i blew him out. . you see he is the cause of my problems with his life long put downs. families are sometimes the cause of a lot of pain. do what you think my friend an stay safe.
Posted by Phillipa on October 27, 2009, at 16:17:50
In reply to Re: My brother..., posted by manic666 on October 27, 2009, at 14:33:11
Matt do you want to work in that field again? How's the new job going? Phillipa
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 22:55:15
In reply to Re: My brother..., posted by Phillipa on October 27, 2009, at 16:17:50
Yes, your right on something's that families maybe can hurt, yet their is an aspect why they do, and you can't blame because they have their right's in making a desicion. I want to reconnect with my family but I know that I have some..on down the road, maybe it would get unstable again with something. I never really argued much with anyone in my family. See right now I'm sitting at home, and I'm not talking with my parent's because I just...am not in the mood to talk, and they can say bitter things, yet someone told me once have "duck-feather's"...which is the best advice I've heard, that was also a person I want to connect to, which is my uncle.
My brother is more of "loyalty" thing, the only thing is I overananylze things and if I don't...then i just do socially awkward things, and my brother would point them out, in a way to help, I don't know just at the time I was being prideful. I would talk about everything with him and would listen, but never tell "drama" to anyone when it's not relevent to their life, unless their a couselor being well-paid.
I regret, alot of impulsive things I did in the past, because they up to bite hard. How do you go to a family and say "hey, I did this, and i'm sorry" that just doesnt cut it...
Now...that's all I can put.
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 28, 2009, at 0:38:24
In reply to Re: My brother..., posted by Phillipa on October 27, 2009, at 16:17:50
i get my scheduel tommorow...
I don't know if want to work in that field, i'm better at other things and that would be kinda...hard to catch on. Some people like to read and study the law. I would, but i can't make a buisness out of it.
Thanks hope your doing good.
Posted by manic666 on October 28, 2009, at 3:58:18
In reply to Re: My brother..., posted by rjlockhart04-08 on October 27, 2009, at 22:55:15
he sounds cool your brother, when we go on one ,it not our fault an its not theres,But understanding from there side must be hard,i used to listen to my old man bring me down to one of my brotherinlaws, the guy would agree with my old man. it sort of stuck in his mind what my old man said an judged me that way.his wife my sister an me have a close bond, an he hated it. he invented thing to fallout an try to make my look small.You see i was the guy with the friends ,he hated it an caused a stupid argument, he new i would react an now i dont get to see my sister, so he won.jelouse is a tool used to distroy relationships,they win because are fragile minds are already distroyed with inner pain. stay safe my buddy
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