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Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 13:09:29
Okay, I have gone back to the webdating thing, yet again. Funny, I always hear of woman having luck, but not guys. So, I had to post a pic, and of course I hate doing that, But, it seems, they get one look at my pick and they run. It has me puzzled, because I have had a few very beautiful women love the way I look. But...well...here is my ugly mug...as I am just a few months shy of 40
(And I have been working out and have lost over 25 pounds so far.) Here is the pic:
Posted by manic666 on July 11, 2009, at 14:19:37
In reply to Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 13:09:29
jay you had better get the viagra in, if you hit the jackpot , you may need a bit of help in the snake dept, the meds are a bummer
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 19:44:27
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by manic666 on July 11, 2009, at 14:19:37
Posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2009, at 22:30:32
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by manic666 on July 11, 2009, at 14:19:37
Jay I have an older pic of you. You've shaved or what something is different and you appear to have lost weight. But a big Smile? Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 0:36:57
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2009, at 22:30:32
> Jay I have an older pic of you. You've shaved or what something is different and you appear to have lost weight. But a big Smile? Love Phillipa
Hey, thanx Phillipa. Yep, clean shaven, and thank GAWD have lost some weight. I try to work out if not daily, then once every 2-3 out various days. I am not one for big toothy smiles...unless I am really drunk..lol. Hey, you know what else...I have found the eharmony site to be 100000 times better then plentyoffish.com Eharmony women are more mature, and like to talk about various things. They want to develop friendships first, unlike plentyoffish women who seem to want kingdomcome in 2.5 minutes or less. Quite shallow. It makes me a bit sad, a bit angry, and a bit disgusted.
Anyhow...that's my rant....thanks for your kind thoughts hun...
Jay
Posted by manic666 on July 12, 2009, at 13:21:20
In reply to Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 13:09:29
what about a thai bride , they are cute an full of pleasure,but check down below first . them ladyboys are hard to spot,an you could get a nasty shock
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 18:31:15
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by manic666 on July 12, 2009, at 13:21:20
> what about a thai bride , they are cute an full of pleasure,but check down below first . them ladyboys are hard to spot,an you could get a nasty shock
Ha ha haaa...oh Manic....my gawd...lol. Am I that far gone?..lol. I'd like to think out of the billions here in N. America, I can find someone..lol. When I see these dumb stupid slobs get half-decent women, I am somewhat positive I can do well. I HAVE done well...that is the thing. It takes a certain kind of person. I don't just want somebody *for it's own sake*. Oh well...
Thanks dude..
Jay
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 18:33:22
In reply to Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 13:09:29
Posted by Phillipa on July 12, 2009, at 20:18:12
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,, » manic666, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 18:31:15
Jay your're a sweetie. Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,, » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Phillipa on July 12, 2009, at 20:18:12
I've contributed on this site for almost a decade, and I thought some people could help me in such a trying time. Others have their problems and get advice and such galore.
Posted by gobbledygook on July 12, 2009, at 22:27:22
In reply to Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-((, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
Me thinks you look very handsome, Jay! You've got a sweet smile...don't change nothing! Just be yourself and have confidence. Confidence and good heart trumps all! And smarts, too.
That's my $0.02 advice!
Posted by gobbledygook on July 12, 2009, at 22:35:28
In reply to Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-((, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
> I've contributed on this site for almost a decade, and I thought some people could help me in such a trying time. Others have their problems and get advice and such galore.
Jay,
I know it's hard when you put yourself out there, but I wouldn't take it too personally...it's summer and they're probably just busy.
You really do have a great smile though, and you seem like a very nice person here. :)
Ava
Posted by Bobby on July 12, 2009, at 23:25:41
In reply to Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-((, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
I don't know what to say Jay-I've always tried to throw in my two cents----but I see nothing wrong with your pic at all--nada--although people do like smiles(I'm just grasping for straws). all I can offer is how it worked for me. Worked too hard at it---gave despair signals---gave up----got lucky. Take it easy and be yourself above all else---in the end----that's all you'll/she'll be left with----who you really are. Looks count ---but not so much as you'd think----that's the Nitty Gritty of it. Not too fast too soon--and no sad stories. good luck man!
Posted by Phillipa on July 12, 2009, at 23:27:00
In reply to Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-((, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
Jay I don't think it's personal really I don't. I'd agree with Gobble And Also there has been a lot of dispute on admin have you been there? Might want to check it out. And it's Sunday so wait til tomorrow the comments will increase want to make a bet?????? Love Phillipa
Posted by 10derHeart on July 13, 2009, at 0:54:17
In reply to Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-((, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 12, 2009, at 22:04:09
So, Jay, we get around 30 hours - give or take to respond to your OP, or it's "no thanks to all other ladies?"
Are you sure?
It sometimes takes me 30 hours to even remember my own name, and that I am supposed to shower, dress, study, clean, and Lord know what else that's too much for me - depending on the day/week/month/mood/RL cr*p happening.
Then, there's Babble, and maybe it's overwhelming, or baffling, or confusing, or...can't get to all these boards yet...or whatever.
A day + a few hours isn't all that much time on a message board....is it?
Could all other ladies have more time?
Just sayin'...don't write us all off.
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 13, 2009, at 7:01:34
In reply to Moi thinks U very handsome-don't change anything:) » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by gobbledygook on July 12, 2009, at 22:27:22
> Me thinks you look very handsome, Jay! You've got a sweet smile...don't change nothing! Just be yourself and have confidence. Confidence and good heart trumps all! And smarts, too.
>
> That's my $0.02 advice!Ahhhh...geeee.....schuks thanx...:) Now I feel like a big dork...lol. I have some issues..yah...you could say...and they probably make me extra sensitive. I tend to feel isolated and misunderstood because of the past death of my child and future wife, so I seem to curl up into a ball and say "the h@ll with you" if they even mildly reject me. So....I'm working on it. And that was about the hardest thing I have ever had to say......wow...man
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 13, 2009, at 7:04:52
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-(( » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by gobbledygook on July 12, 2009, at 22:35:28
> > I've contributed on this site for almost a decade, and I thought some people could help me in such a trying time. Others have their problems and get advice and such galore.
>
> Jay,
>
> I know it's hard when you put yourself out there, but I wouldn't take it too personally...it's summer and they're probably just busy.
>
> You really do have a great smile though, and you seem like a very nice person here. :)
>
> Ava
>
>Thanks again....you are just too sweet..can I write you???...hahaaaha...sorry...just kinda kidding..;-)
Jay
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 13, 2009, at 7:17:43
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies : » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Bobby on July 12, 2009, at 23:25:41
> I don't know what to say Jay-I've always tried to throw in my two cents----but I see nothing wrong with your pic at all--nada--although people do like smiles(I'm just grasping for straws). all I can offer is how it worked for me. Worked too hard at it---gave despair signals---gave up----got lucky. Take it easy and be yourself above all else---in the end----that's all you'll/she'll be left with----who you really are. Looks count ---but not so much as you'd think----that's the Nitty Gritty of it. Not too fast too soon--and no sad stories. good luck man!
Hey Bobby...you *always* come through...you should run for Governor of Texas...I don't care the party...you are just good..and that is all that counts. You've supported, said and yes done things for me (remember you and I where on MSN 1 to 1 and you took off all your clothes and...)...oppss..haha..just kidding...sorry..:).Weird thing on the dating site is, is that women are just as bad as men, They sum you up by your pic. I've been told I have the most amazing profile by women, but then they gen my pic and it's like "ohhh...sorry you are not my type.."
I am always positive....no really personal things until 4-5 months. Urrrggg...I dunnooooo...
Thanks,
Jay
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 13, 2009, at 7:30:26
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :-(( » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by 10derHeart on July 13, 2009, at 0:54:17
> So, Jay, we get around 30 hours - give or take to respond to your OP, or it's "no thanks to all other ladies?"
>
> Are you sure?
>
> It sometimes takes me 30 hours to even remember my own name, and that I am supposed to shower, dress, study, clean, and Lord know what else that's too much for me - depending on the day/week/month/mood/RL cr*p happening.
>
> Then, there's Babble, and maybe it's overwhelming, or baffling, or confusing, or...can't get to all these boards yet...or whatever.
>
> A day + a few hours isn't all that much time on a message board....is it?
>
> Could all other ladies have more time?
>
> Just sayin'...don't write us all off.
>10der....look I honestly didn't really mean it so harsh. It's just been frustrating, as I am taking this very seriously. I SO badly want to start a little family and such. I know it doesn't happen overnight, but I've been working a couple of websites since last winter.
Now, also, my Grandmother died Saturday night, and it is really affecting my Mom, who is elderly herself, at 71 years old. I badly want to bring some *life* into this family...because my parents have been the most amazing people in the world to me. And I KNOW I will make a good, loving Dad.
So, sorry for letting my nerves get the best of me. You know I don't want to argue. That IS WHY i STAY away from admin....I think it is toxic arguing...just IMHO.
Best,
Jay
Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2009, at 12:11:05
In reply to Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,,, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 11, 2009, at 13:09:29
I think people are at their most attractive when they're relaxed and doing something they enjoy. Very few computer cams take flattering pictures.
Do you have any snapshots of you when you are relaxing with your family, or looking at your dad? Where you're smiling and relaxed? If I were you, I'd scan one of those in and isolate your face.
The pictures I've got of my husband that I most love are when he's with my son. Even if I crop only his face, there is a warmth about him that appeals.
There's nothing wrong with the basic ingredients, Jay. But presentation is everything. If this is something that you take seriously, it would pay off to invest some of your time in coming up with a photo that shows off your best features.
One of my favorite expressions ever about presentation was this clip.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrRUXsDumrM&feature=channel
Starting at 1:40.
I'm not saying your current picture presents you badly. Certainly not on a garbage can lid. But I am saying that if you want this to reap maximum benefits, you probably want to provide the best possible presentation. Have a bit of fun with it. It's a good time to review recent family photos, or to take new ones.
Posted by manic 666 on July 13, 2009, at 14:31:45
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies : » Bobby, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 13, 2009, at 7:17:43
now then jay a little advice from the master, if the lady is a doll ,tell her she is , say you could bathe in her beauty,caress her like a flower,an every night tell you dream of her and she is in you mind always. but if she is a dog?shag her an go for a burger???????????????????
Posted by Phillipa on July 13, 2009, at 19:25:40
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :, posted by manic 666 on July 13, 2009, at 14:31:45
Manic is the first part of your comment directed to me???? Love Phillipa
Posted by olivepit on July 13, 2009, at 23:15:55
In reply to Re: Need help Ladies (Guys?)..re dating website,,, » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Dinah on July 13, 2009, at 12:11:05
> I think people are at their most attractive when they're relaxed and doing something they enjoy. Very few computer cams take flattering pictures.
>
> Do you have any snapshots of you when you are relaxing with your family, or looking at your dad? Where you're smiling and relaxed? If I were you, I'd scan one of those in and isolate your face.
>
> The pictures I've got of my husband that I most love are when he's with my son. Even if I crop only his face, there is a warmth about him that appeals.
>
> There's nothing wrong with the basic ingredients, Jay. But presentation is everything. If this is something that you take seriously, it would pay off to invest some of your time in coming up with a photo that shows off your best features.
I 100% agree with Dinah, Try getting a relaxed non-webcam photo while you are doing something you enjoy, maybe outdoors. I tried online dating once and to be honest, I deleted all guys who used a webcam, I dont know why but there is something about the way a webcam picture comes accross that I don't like. Go more for a more natural photo.
Posted by manic 666 on July 14, 2009, at 3:41:21
In reply to Re: Thanx Phillipa. NO thanx to all other ladies :, posted by manic 666 on July 13, 2009, at 14:31:45
ok enough of the fooling around, let me tell you something jay, i prefer womens company to men i find them warm a open , if you can make a woman laugh your halfway there , complements are always loved,my wife knows me well ,i can talk to any lady , im not really hansom ,my wife says im ruggedly hansome,in your car always have mood setting music even if its not your preference , it just difuses the situation,if you like her tell her , if you dont still give hear a good time then let her down slow. why did you laugh at thai women ,i have buddies with gorgess thia wifes an are loved to the max,the superstore is a great place to met ladies , when your shopping ask about a product as if you dont no, she make react to you, look my friend dont try to hard it puts them off be yourself an chill, there is a woman out there for you. i have probably had her first but you will have to put up with that.?????????
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on July 14, 2009, at 10:35:11
In reply to great post Dinah, posted by olivepit on July 13, 2009, at 23:15:55
Good advice, thankyou. Instead, I used my digital camera, on a timer, and took some pics at reall different angles. The one I chose I thought was really great, as it perfectly showd the outline of my jaw, face and forehead, and my smile really comes right through. Thanks for the idea :)
Jay
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