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Posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 15:06:16
Am feeling I guess anxious. Hubby & I had said to son that he can live with us until October.
It had seemed as though he & a friend would be able to get a place together in Oct if the friend's disability pension comes thru' in Sept. That's why we chose Oct.
There've been various options of him living with friends that have fallen through.
I don't even know what to think. Was at my doctor today - told him I realize that I do NOT think I can tell our son to leave if he has nowhere to go. I do NOT think I can go through having him 'live on the streets' again. I just don't think I can. So now realize that I have to talk to hubby about that. STRESSSSSSSS.
:-( I don't want my son to have mental health & addiction & money-management problems. I don't want certain realities to be real.
:-( I'm tired of it.
It makes me feel like I don't want to do this 'life' thing.
:-(
I try to think of all the things I have to be thankful for. I try to do whatever I can to make myself be more positive & "in the NOW". Sometimes I do not too badly.
Today, I feel like I'm not doing too well with it though.And now I have to take antibiotics & am supposed to take them 2 hrs before or 6 hrs after calcium....and my 'drug of choice' is Tim Horton's steeped tea with cream & sugar. Whine, whine. How totally pathetic is THAT!!! LOL - at least I made myself smile!
Kath
Posted by Sigismund on August 28, 2008, at 16:00:37
In reply to Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 15:06:16
Hi Kath
>I don't even know what to think. Was at my doctor today - told him I realize that I do NOT think I can tell our son to leave if he has nowhere to go. I do NOT think I can go through having him 'live on the streets' again. I just don't think I can. So now realize that I have to talk to hubby about that. STRESSSSSSSS.
Well, FWIW, that's how I'd feel about it.
Let me be whiney too; it comes easily to me.
Posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 18:42:50
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually » Kath, posted by Sigismund on August 28, 2008, at 16:00:37
Thx for your support!
I actually did talk tonite with my husband about it. He works in computers in a huge company & said that if I want, we can sit down & do a sort of 'flow-chart' (it had some other name) to give some structure to the situation. As son has ADD, my therapist says he really will do better if we help in that way, so hubby was on-board about my feelings. I think the thing that we both want is for son to go forward in his life in a positive way & he does want to be independent. I'm sure part of him might not, but part of him does also.
That's quite the cartoonist. I'd never heard of him before. When I clicked on the link, my husband wondered what the sound was!! He was looking out the window, trying to figure out what was going on.
I send you hugs Dec. Luv, Kath
Posted by Sigismund on August 28, 2008, at 21:25:17
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually » Kath, posted by Sigismund on August 28, 2008, at 16:00:37
Yes, I noticed the sound too, and tried to close the window.
I suppose it's the sound of the end of the world.
Posted by Phillipa on August 28, 2008, at 22:24:46
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually » Sigismund, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 18:42:50
Kath read your last thread it is all positive so you have it in you and things will work out. Easier said than done I know!!! Love Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on August 28, 2008, at 22:25:54
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Sigismund on August 28, 2008, at 21:25:17
Dec what would I do without that humor of yours it cracks me up!!!! Love PJ
Posted by WaterSapphire on August 29, 2008, at 1:04:41
In reply to Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 15:06:16
One person's excuse is another person's reason.
Go ahead and whine. I would rather you get things off your chest, than turn into a pressure cooker. And hey sometimes that happens too. I feel like I whine too much lol, and am working on it...but still we are only human. I wish I could offer advice in regards to your son. I was sorta on the receiving end of something like that because of mental health problems and illness when we had to live with my parents for a year and a half. It might be a little different situation, but eventually we had to leave lol...as our welcome was worn out. It was bad in some ways, but ours was an extreme case. My parents however have helped us as best they could. All hard feelings have been put aside. What about a camper?
I don't know if you have room for one or not, but maybe that would be a good idea if he cannot get a place yet. I hope all works out for you in the end. You are a good person...Peace
chelle
Posted by Kath on August 29, 2008, at 10:25:30
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by WaterSapphire on August 29, 2008, at 1:04:41
Thanks for your support.
Hmm - I don't mind when other people 'whine' - so I should (a good kind of 'should') be more accepting of ME whining sometimes! :-)
Sorry you had those difficulties in your past & glad you had family support.
I think it'll be okay. What he'd really like is to share a place with a friend or 2. I think it's a matter of timing.
But after letting my husband know how I'm feeling, I realize that we're both coming from a similar place....help by coming up with a plan; sit down with son & talk about it; get his input, etc. This is triggering old stuff when he did end up on the streets & even last summer, when his plan was to be on the streets. BUT he's in a totally different space now. So I want to keep remembering THAT. But it feels hard because I guess I have a lot of fear stored inside. Time for me to do a lot of EFT & TAT & my various 'alternative' healing type methods. Oh - that made me think - I can make myself a Bach Remedy.
It sounds like things are way better for you now? I hope so.
:-) Kath
Posted by Nadezda on August 29, 2008, at 12:35:00
In reply to Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 15:06:16
I hate those antibiotics where you can't eat for 2 hours before and 1 hour afterwards. I'm an inveterate snacker-- and there's almost no three hour periods during my waking life when I'm not snacking at least two or three times. It's a real trial not to.
Even now I have a pill where I'm not supposed to eat within thus and so many hours-- and I'm basically cheating a little most of the time.
I'm so sorry about the problems with your son. I know that's been an ongoing worry. Reality is sometimes a b**ch.
Nadezda
Posted by TexasChic on August 29, 2008, at 13:03:00
In reply to Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 15:06:16
First of all I just wanted to say, antibiotics ALWAYS make me very noticeably depressed. So you may want to take that under consideration.
Secondly, its not whining, its venting and sharing with friends who understand where you're coming from. I write here not only for those things, but because writing it out is a catharsis of some sort for me. For some reason I don't get the same feeling from just journaling, I need to be writing TO somebody. I guess I need that support, just someone to say, "I understand", "I would have done the same thing", or even, "maybe you should rethink this".
As for your son, I can't even imagine how bad it would be to know he's living on the streets. I mean, you can understand the thought process of: don't be a crutch, don't be an enabler, he has to find out the hard way. But still, its your kid! You'd have to be a robot or something not to be freaked out about it.
I'm really glad your husband was understanding about your feelings. That should make a big difference for you. And making that chart sounds like a fantastic idea. I have something tangible to refer to when my mind gets all cluttered and confused.
>It makes me feel like I don't want to do this 'life' thing.
I've been experiencing the same thing lately. It sucks. I guess all you can do is keep on trucking. I'll hang in there if you will.-T
Posted by Kath on August 30, 2008, at 21:12:16
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actually, posted by Nadezda on August 29, 2008, at 12:35:00
> I hate those antibiotics where you can't eat for 2 hours before and 1 hour afterwards. I'm an inveterate snacker-- and there's almost no three hour periods during my waking life when I'm not snacking at least two or three times. It's a real trial not to.
******Yes - I hate that also. I was relieved when I read the hand-out that the pharmacist gave me - to read that if I take a pill WITH a meal, calcium is okay!! So what I've been doing is taking 1 around 7 am when hubby leaves for work (then I usually sleep for a couple more hours unless I have to get up to go somewhere; even then I can wait to eat until around 9 usually & 2 hours is okay). Then I have the other one around 6 or 7 pm with supper!***
> Even now I have a pill where I'm not supposed to eat within thus and so many hours-- and I'm basically cheating a little most of the time.
******I'm a snacker also - well sort of - I guess I should say that I never know when I might eat! These days I'm having trouble making myself eat sometimes...except supper; that one's always okay.**
> I'm so sorry about the problems with your son. I know that's been an ongoing worry. Reality is sometimes a b**ch.***Thanks. I don't know if folks here have any idea how much even a simple comment like what you just made means to me!! Thank you!***
> Nadezda:-))) xo Kath
Posted by Kath on August 30, 2008, at 21:18:09
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actual » Kath, posted by TexasChic on August 29, 2008, at 13:03:00
> First of all I just wanted to say, antibiotics ALWAYS make me very noticeably depressed. So you may want to take that under consideration.
****yes - thx - I am keeping that in mind. I really noticed at the Pinery, when taking the 3 days of Cipro from the walk-in clinic that it affected my mood.***
>
> Secondly, its not whining, its venting and sharing with friends who understand where you're coming from. I write here not only for those things, but because writing it out is a catharsis of some sort for me. For some reason I don't get the same feeling from just journaling, I need to be writing TO somebody. I guess I need that support, just someone to say, "I understand", "I would have done the same thing", or even, "maybe you should rethink this".*****Thx!! Yes - it helps me also to tell someone - either verbally or here.***
> As for your son, I can't even imagine how bad it would be to know he's living on the streets. I mean, you can understand the thought process of: don't be a crutch, don't be an enabler, he has to find out the hard way. But still, its your kid! You'd have to be a robot or something not to be freaked out about it.
*******Yeah. You're right. **
> I'm really glad your husband was understanding about your feelings. That should make a big difference for you. And making that chart sounds like a fantastic idea. I have something tangible to refer to when my mind gets all cluttered and confused.
*******Yes; and I'm really glad that I spoke up & said that I simply can't do it. For me, speaking up is hard. Especially if I think the other person might get upset or teed off or whatEVER! :-)
We'll probably do the chart tomorrow.******> >It makes me feel like I don't want to do this 'life' thing.
> I've been experiencing the same thing lately. It sucks. I guess all you can do is keep on trucking. I'll hang in there if you will.
>
> -T***Okee dokee - we can be 'hang-in-there' buddies!! I send hugs!!! luv, Kath
Posted by tina on September 15, 2008, at 20:36:30
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actual » TexasChic, posted by Kath on August 30, 2008, at 21:18:09
Hey Kath
Have I mentioned lately that you're awesome?
Posted by Kath on September 17, 2008, at 16:56:25
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actual » Kath, posted by tina on September 15, 2008, at 20:36:30
> Hey Kath
> Have I mentioned lately that you're awesome?
*********No LOL LOL LOLThanks Teena Beena. You are too ya know.
I hope all's well with you hunee.
xoxo Kath
Posted by Phillipa on September 17, 2008, at 20:00:11
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actual » tina, posted by Kath on September 17, 2008, at 16:56:25
Kath so you're home how was the trip? Love Phillipa
Posted by Kath on September 17, 2008, at 20:06:50
In reply to Re: Separate not-so-cheerful post. Whiney, actual » Kath, posted by Phillipa on September 17, 2008, at 20:00:11
Hi P,
It was really nice. The weather was good & the bay that the cottage overlooks is very pretty.
Here's a link to their website.
They have some of the "galleries" labelled wrong.
It's on Sand Bay - on Georgian Bay, which is a huge bay on Lake Huron. Lake Huron is the THIRD largest lake in the world. All 3 places we went to on holidays this year were on Lake Huron. 2 are on Georgian Bay & are hours away from each other.
Here's the link:
www.rockwoodresort.ca
:-) Kath
Posted by Phillipa on September 18, 2008, at 19:24:45
In reply to Hi I'm home- Link with photos of where we were » Phillipa, posted by Kath on September 17, 2008, at 20:06:50
Thanks Kath and glad it was a good one and thanks for the link. Love Phillipa
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