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Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 11:24:41
Hi. I was supposed to volunteer for the first time today. But ended up calling and cancelling. I was a little nervous about it but I think I could have done it. I think I would have felt good afterwards.
I might do something with a friend today. But I'm thinking like...I don't know. I don't know why I'm in this funk. I think it would be good to go out with a friend.
I probably seem so weird to some people here. maybe. I don't know.
I'm in a funk. I can't focus, I think one that would help would be if I kept busy. I don't even know if I'm explaining myself well here right now.
I feel bad that I don't contribute more here. But if anyone has words of encouragement, please tell me.
Posted by manic666 on August 25, 2008, at 12:46:55
In reply to I need some encouragement, posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 11:24:41
you mean your on a downer. an you carnt get motivated. whats new thats normal if your ill , post some more you dont have to do F.A only think what to say. you may feel good after,ring a buddy an do you thing it could work. manic666
Posted by Phillipa on August 25, 2008, at 12:57:09
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by manic666 on August 25, 2008, at 12:46:55
I know how you feel. I'm the same way. But keeping busy helps but afraid of doing things alone why? Love Phillipa
Posted by TexasChic on August 25, 2008, at 13:24:12
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by Phillipa on August 25, 2008, at 12:57:09
I know how you feel too! Believe me, you are not alone! And you contribute ALOT here, don't ever doubt that! You've helped me out lots of times.
As for canceling, its okay, you're trying and that's something. I can certainly understand how the anxiety of not knowing what its going to be like would be pretty upsetting. Give yourself a break, and try again (or try something else) when you feel up to it. Try not to push yourself. That's something I had to relearn while being off of work.
And why on earth would anyone think you're weird? Of course, this is coming from ME, so, being a big old weirdo myself, I don't know how much that helps. Hey, we can just be big weirdos together!
Weirdos of the world, UNITE!!!
-T
Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 16:03:31
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by TexasChic on August 25, 2008, at 13:24:12
Thanks Manic666, Phillipa, and Texaschic. It means a lot to me that people care.
Texaschic, your post made me SMILE. Thank you so much. I guess I think I'm weird because I think "gee, I wonder if people are tired of me posting the same issue over and over?" Your post made me smile, especially the weiros unite :)
And I just realized that...we are all here because we have issues. And probably, the same issues keep popping up for us. I had a T who told me this once that she believed that you come back to the same issue.I ended up not going out with my friend. He's a guy and he's from my therapy group. I called him 5 minutes before I was supposed to meet him to tell him I wouldn't be coming. He sounded upset on the phone like...kind of like he was done with me maybe? I cried after I got off the phone with him because, I was afraid I lost a friend. I'm going to call him to apologize. I hope he still wants to be friends.
Posted by fayeroe on August 25, 2008, at 18:23:59
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 16:03:31
I agree with the above posters. You aren not alone in your fears.
It is hard to step out of one's comfort zone but it is nothing to feel badly about. We all have those moments where we call and cancel something or the other.
Hang in there. Tomorrow is a new day!
Pat
Posted by llurpsienoodle on August 25, 2008, at 18:25:21
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by TexasChic on August 25, 2008, at 13:24:12
Oooh! Oooh! Me!!! ME
Can I be in the Weirdo club too?
Angela, you do lots of great things around here, just by being YOU, and giving us the gift of getting to know you better :) Don't ever feel inferior in that regard. You're a kind, generous person, most definitely worthy of encouragement and support. Can you tell us something nice that you're going to do for yourself in the next couple of days?
hang in there, sorry you're going through a rough patch...
-Ll
Posted by fayeroe on August 25, 2008, at 18:35:11
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by llurpsienoodle on August 25, 2008, at 18:25:21
> Angela, I'm sorry that I didn't tell you earlier that you've always been very supportive of me on the boards. Thank you! xoxox Pat
Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 18:47:26
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement » Angela2, posted by fayeroe on August 25, 2008, at 18:23:59
Thanks Fayeroe. I guess I feel bad because I have cancelled a couple times with him recently. Thanks for telling me not to feel badly though. It makes me feel a little better :)
Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 18:55:45
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by llurpsienoodle on August 25, 2008, at 18:25:21
Thanks Llurpsienoodle. Weirdos unite! TC, I think you started my new favorite catch phrase. I'm glad I'm here! :D And I'm glad your here too Ll. Thanks for saying all that nice stuff. I am really glad you guys are here to encourage me. I just really need to hear it right now I guess.
I like that you say rough "patch." Because that means it won't be forever, yay! I'm glad you didn't say rough "forever"! lol.
OK, so today I am just kinda hanging out on my bed with my cat and I'm meditating on things that make me happy. So I guess that is something good I am doing for myself.
thank you again
Posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 14:40:05
In reply to I need some encouragement, posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2008, at 11:24:41
Hi Angela,
You don't seem weird or anything like that to me!
I'm always impressed at how you can express yourself.
I hope you ended up feeling okay.
I have done volunteer work a couple of times & I always felt nervous the first time - even somewhat nervous subsequent times.
Keep us posted - for example if you decide to give the volunteer work a try. If you need support regarding it, we're here for ya.
xoxo Kath
Posted by Angela2 on August 28, 2008, at 16:32:22
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement » Angela2, posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 14:40:05
Thanks Kath. I appreciate your encouragement.
Well, right now I'm feeling kinda crappy. But I know it will pass. Good things happened and then bad things happened too.
Good thing: my friend called me so I guess he's not mad I cancelled our meeting.
Good thing: I went to therapy group instead of avoiding it
Bad thing: I drove to volunteer today and turned around and cancelled AGAIN. I hope nobody there is upset I cancelled again.
Bad thing: I am doing an exposure for driving in rush hour traffic and am kinda avoiding it, lol
Kath. I really appreciate your support. You always have great things to say. Thank you again :)
Posted by Kath on August 28, 2008, at 18:33:52
In reply to Re: I need some encouragement, posted by Angela2 on August 28, 2008, at 16:32:22
> Thanks Kath. I appreciate your encouragement.
******You're most welcome! I think that you work really hard & deserve support & encouragement.***
>
> Well, right now I'm feeling kinda crappy. But I know it will pass. Good things happened and then bad things happened too.
>
> Good thing: my friend called me so I guess he's not mad I cancelled our meeting.
>
> Good thing: I went to therapy group instead of avoiding it
>
> Bad thing: I drove to volunteer today and turned around and cancelled AGAIN. I hope nobody there is upset I cancelled again.
>
> Bad thing: I am doing an exposure for driving in rush hour traffic and am kinda avoiding it, lol******well Angela - I'm glad good stuff is happening along with the not-so-good. I think it's great that you can see both & acknowledge both.****
>
> Kath. I really appreciate your support. You always have great things to say. Thank you again :)******thx Angela. And by the way - driving in rush hour traffic is no small thing!
luv & hugs, Kath
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