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Posted by ClearSkies on March 19, 2008, at 18:20:20
I spend a lot of time reading these boards.
I find I'm comforted by the news that our LlurpsieNoodle is safe. I was even inspired to write a list of 10 on the Self Esteem board, something that I've tried to do 4 times this week already, and couldn't get past the first item on the list. So that's good.
And I've been so very quiet lately. Reading but not writing. Supporting but not asking for support. I'm not particularly asking for support now, but it's time for me to write, to fill these spaces up. So many people have fled; the halls are echoing. It makes me uneasy, and so I feel I need to add my voice to the boards when I'm not feeling very loud. But at least there will be something yellow and New! to read the next time the board comes up.
So, forgive my lame, directionless musing here and there. They're not meant to just fill up space, but to contribute - I want to contribute again. I don't always get the opportunity. I find, for example, when my DH is at home with me, that he's quite jealous of my Babble-Time, and so I portion it out so that my attention is turned away from the computer then. Not towards my DH, most likely, but towards the TV, or maybe out for a walk if the weather is nice. But I find I look forward to my alone time, so that I can read and catch up.
And now, so that I can post again.
Posted by Toph on March 19, 2008, at 19:44:00
In reply to During those evenings when I'm by myself, posted by ClearSkies on March 19, 2008, at 18:20:20
Hi cs.
Things have quieted a little until Bob returns and then I suspect they'll heat up again. I thought I'd leave for good. But like you I kept reading. And had to post again.
As a small aside, I guess I'm sorry to see your DH down on the priority list unless Im reading too much into what you said. He's jealous because he got to meet us, and I think he saw how interesting we can be (if I don't say so myself). He'd be less jealous if we had been a buch of boring stiffs. My DW (if i guessed the code correctly) isn't so much jealous of my friends here as suspicious, a natural thing when she only has her imagination to rely on.
Anyway, it's good to see you again.
Posted by ClearSkies on March 19, 2008, at 20:40:52
In reply to Re: During those evenings when I'm by myself, posted by Toph on March 19, 2008, at 19:44:00
> As a small aside, I guess I'm sorry to see your DH down on the priority list unless Im reading too much into what you said. He's jealous because he got to meet us, and I think he saw how interesting we can be (if I don't say so myself). He'd be less jealous if we had been a buch of boring stiffs. My DW (if i guessed the code correctly) isn't so much jealous of my friends here as suspicious, a natural thing when she only has her imagination to rely on.
Actually, my understanding of the dynamic is that my DH (and yes, you've got the terminology spot on) has problems with boundaries - that is, he doesn't have any. So if he's on the sofa watching TV, and I'm on the computer babbling, he's pretty much interrupting me the whole time and I can't string together a post that's the least bit coherent. I get pretty irritated at it in short order - and rather than ask repeatedly to be left alone, I've elected to walk away from the computer while he and I are having our together-ish time.
I don't get nearly as ticked off when he flips back and forth between channels on the remote control... really I don't!
It's likewise nice to see you, though I share your pain over the Dr Bob-Void.
CS
Posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2008, at 22:26:21
In reply to Re: During those evenings when I'm by myself » Toph, posted by ClearSkies on March 19, 2008, at 20:40:52
Good to see you and glad Lurpsie is okay too. Hope things do stay quiet. Phillipa mine is on his computer and I'm on mine. A little posting for business then so we hardly watch TV anymore.
Posted by Kath on March 20, 2008, at 21:00:54
In reply to Re: During those evenings when I'm by myself » ClearSkies, posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2008, at 22:26:21
Thanks for posting.
And thx to you others also.
Nice to see people posting. And YES it was feeling echoy (echoey)
sorry to hear how it is when the TV is on & your trying to do your own thing.
luv, Kath
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 21, 2008, at 5:47:27
In reply to Thanks CS » Phillipa, posted by Kath on March 20, 2008, at 21:00:54
my marriage counselor suggested two times during the evening. 30 minutes of quality time. no TV, followed by 45 minutes of ALONE time. no disruptions. so far it's working. my h is loving his ALONE time, and I get to play on babble and cuddle with kitty.
(sorry I disrupted. I'm so sorry I hurt people)
-Ll
Posted by Kath on March 26, 2008, at 15:59:18
In reply to Re: Thanks CS, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on March 21, 2008, at 5:47:27
sounds great llurpsie - you didn't disrupt. You had 'life' happen & we were worried. No need to apologize.
luv, Kath
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