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Posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 12:54:48
Well...to start off with..as I posted above..my Dad now REALLY does have major health problems. No "if's" or whatever.
Yep, he is getting Cardiac Catheterization, right at this moment, and Angioplasty, if needed. His odds are 1 in 100, as he has kidney problems and the radioactive dye they use could cause kidney failure and other damage. SHI*.... 1 in 100...that is kinda close...damn. My Mom...I know she is frustrated, but she seems to be taking it out on my poor Dad. I think she is soft Bipolar like me, but she will never dare touch a psych med outside of the odd clonazepam. Wine is her medication of choice. Last night before I left for work, and wouldn't be seeing my Dad this morning because he and my Mom had to go to the hospital before I got home, I hugged and kissed him and told him how much I love him. I cried on the highway to work.
It's lightly snowing outside, and even his little dog is curled up, looking so lonely and sad, on the couch. I am not a religious man, really, but if some of you could say a prayer, or a little thought, or something...I'd be forever grateful.
Peace and love and all......
Jay
Posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2006, at 13:23:18
In reply to Dad is under the knife right now...:-(, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 12:54:48
Jay I'm praying for your Dad. Can't you take off work to be there? Love Phillipa
Posted by fayeroe on December 8, 2006, at 14:51:09
In reply to Dad is under the knife right now...:-(, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 12:54:48
Jay, i hope that your dad is out of surgery by now and doing well. please keep us updated. fayeroe
Posted by Honore on December 8, 2006, at 15:23:56
In reply to Re: Dad is under the knife right now...:-(, posted by fayeroe on December 8, 2006, at 14:51:09
I hope your Dad is doing well, and will soon be feeling much better.
Honore
Posted by Poet on December 8, 2006, at 16:02:34
In reply to Dad is under the knife right now...:-(, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 12:54:48
Hi Jay,
I hope your dad's surgery was successful and his recovery will be quick. I'm surrounding him and you with a white light of healing.
Poet
Posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 16:50:05
In reply to Dad is under the knife right now...:-(, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 12:54:48
Thank you all kindly for your thoughts, wishes, and such. Well, Pops made it through this one...so they all must have worked..:-) Kinda sucks now, though, because he has to go in for *major* surgery. This day surgery determined he had a massive blocked artery, and I don't know all the details yet, but they are likely going to have to have a bypass or something. I am *not* even going to read up what the chances are on that one! Sigghhh....thanks so much again...I may need you again soon..:)
Jay
Posted by madeline on December 8, 2006, at 17:53:39
In reply to Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 16:50:05
Jay,
While no surgery is routine, bypass surgery is done a lot all over the country.
My dad had a quadruple bypass over thanksgiving of last year.
It's hard at the holidays to see everyone so distracted when all you can think about is your loved one.
Hang in there, I'll say a prayer for you and your dad tonight.
Love
Maddie
Posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2006, at 19:20:56
In reply to Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 16:50:05
Somewhere I read or saw on TV that stents are less dangerous? Love Phillipa
Posted by fayeroe on December 9, 2006, at 14:45:12
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet » Jay, posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2006, at 19:20:56
thanks, Jay, for the update. still sending good vibes up north........xoxoxo pat
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 10, 2006, at 0:18:25
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet, posted by fayeroe on December 9, 2006, at 14:45:12
Jay, sorry it's so hard. It's so difficult when it seems like one thing goes wrong after another.
Your dad is strong enough to survive the first procedure. If the doctors say he's ready, then trust them that he's ready for the bypass.
I'm sending your family warm thoughts. This is a hard time, but you are all together. Also, be grateful that his blocked artery was discovered now. Too often blocked arteries are 'silent'. I'm glad that your dad's getting good care.
Give your mom a hug and hold her a bit, if that's your style. Sometimes human touch is more therapeutic than any amount of talking or clonazepam.
best wishes,
-Ll
Posted by TexasChic on December 10, 2006, at 11:58:57
In reply to Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet, posted by Jay on December 8, 2006, at 16:50:05
I'm thinking of you Jay and sending healing energy vibes to your Dad. I know how trying this is, handle it as best you can. That's all any of us can do.
-T
Posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 12:55:13
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet » Jay, posted by madeline on December 8, 2006, at 17:53:39
Hi...thanks very much. My worry though has come from what the surgeon said just after my Dad's catheterization. He said that the bypass was "all they could do"...and that he had so much damage they couldn't do anything more with his heart. Not even a pacemaker or anything like that. I *hope* he is lucky and somehow manages to get a good number of years yet. But, there is my depressed, pessemistic side that counts every single breath.
Thanks for your kindness again...Jay
Posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 12:58:08
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet » Jay, posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2006, at 19:20:56
> Somewhere I read or saw on TV that stents are less dangerous? Love Phillipa
Possibly Phillipa..but the surgeon said there is only one thing they can do, and that is the bypass. He said his heart is so badly damaged, nothing else would make a difference.
Thank you for your kind thoughts though..:)
Jay
Posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 13:00:04
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet, posted by fayeroe on December 9, 2006, at 14:45:12
> thanks, Jay, for the update. still sending good vibes up north........xoxoxo pat
Thanks so much Pat...that is *exactly* what we need right now. Medicine has failed..heh.(((pat)))
Posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 13:04:27
In reply to Jay's dad, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 10, 2006, at 0:18:25
Thank you so kindly LB. Like with many people in bad situations (and yes, of course there are many with FAR worse problems..), we just hope for the best. His heart is so badly damaged, it's like he is riding on just a bit above "empty". Thanks so much again for your kindness and thoughts...it honestly means A LOT!
Jay
Posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 13:09:42
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet » Jay, posted by TexasChic on December 10, 2006, at 11:58:57
> I'm thinking of you Jay and sending healing energy vibes to your Dad. I know how trying this is, handle it as best you can. That's all any of us can do.
>
> -TThank you so much TC. The "thoughts" are really what counts, now. "A homeward angel on a wing and a prayer." Take care...Jay
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 10, 2006, at 14:10:00
In reply to Re: Phillipa, Fayroe, Honore, Poet » TexasChic, posted by Jay on December 10, 2006, at 13:09:42
hi Jay,
so often when a loved one is seriously ill, concerned family and friends ask "How's your dad doing?" and you might give them a rundown of his latest diagnosis and procedures.How's Jay doing?
I hope that you are not in too much pain and inner conflict to see the little beautiful things every day. Things like holiday decorations. a certain kind of look that your dad gives you, that means "I love you". A long-lost family member who is able to reconnect after so much time passed. A nurse who goes a little above and beyond to provide comfort for you and your family. A really good cup of coffee. Invest some of your heart's energies in seeing the little things that make every day of our lives precious and beautiful.
How is Jay doing?
Sending you and your loved ones warm thoughts, and hoping that you notice the angels on the tops of the trees right now.
_ll
Posted by Phillipa on December 10, 2006, at 17:49:30
In reply to For Jay » Jay, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 10, 2006, at 14:10:00
Jay how did it go? Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay on December 14, 2006, at 7:59:38
In reply to For Jay » Jay, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 10, 2006, at 14:10:00
> hi Jay,
> so often when a loved one is seriously ill, concerned family and friends ask "How's your dad doing?" and you might give them a rundown of his latest diagnosis and procedures.
>
> How's Jay doing?
>
> I hope that you are not in too much pain and inner conflict to see the little beautiful things every day. Things like holiday decorations. a certain kind of look that your dad gives you, that means "I love you". A long-lost family member who is able to reconnect after so much time passed. A nurse who goes a little above and beyond to provide comfort for you and your family. A really good cup of coffee. Invest some of your heart's energies in seeing the little things that make every day of our lives precious and beautiful.
>
> How is Jay doing?
>
> Sending you and your loved ones warm thoughts, and hoping that you notice the angels on the tops of the trees right now.
>
> _llThank you so kindly for the wonderful response. I usually have my "cry" just before sleep. I know how scared my poor Dad is, and how awful and unfair it is because he was raised in an abusive home with abusive step-parents, and lots of fear as well. It's like, all of the type of feeling coming back to him. He doesn't say much, mainly because he is a very hardened soldier, but don't get me too wrong, as his emotions bubble close to the surface. If I could be there, every second of the way, even when he is having his operation, to hold his hand and kiss his cheek, I would. "If I could wave my magic wand.."..really...I wish so bad I could. Okay...I gotta stop now because I am getting quite teary. Thank you, again for your thoughts...Jay....
Posted by TexasChic on December 19, 2006, at 20:33:21
In reply to Re: For Jay » LlurpsieBlossom, posted by Jay on December 14, 2006, at 7:59:38
Posted by Phillipa on December 19, 2006, at 20:35:09
In reply to How's your Dad doing? (nm) » Jay, posted by TexasChic on December 19, 2006, at 20:33:21
Yes Jay how is your Dad? Love Phillipa
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