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Posted by messadivoce on July 7, 2005, at 1:01:37
Okay, so I'm a recent college grad. I have a B.M in music performance, which is really not very useful in the work-related world unless I go to grad school, which I'm not doing right now.
So I applied for lots of jobs and one of those jobs was at my former university in the registrar's office. Now, I have office experience, but I've always worked under like 2 levels so I really haven't had responsibility for stuff when it goes wrong.
So I apply for this job and I actually get an interview (I know for a fact that they got a million applications). In the interview they stressed that the position is high stress and people are always walking in (they hired someone who lasted 2 days and I think they wanted to be clear how busy the office is).
The interview goes well, and I spend the weekend trying not to think about it since they've put the fear of God in me about this job.
So today I get a call from the office manager, and she offered me the position. And I said yes.
And yet I'm scared to death that I'm not going to be able to learn the job, that I'll look, feel and act stupid, that people will hate me and yell at me and that I'll cry.
What is wrong with me?!?! I think I'm afraid of success.
Posted by thuso on July 7, 2005, at 12:29:01
In reply to Freaking Out, posted by messadivoce on July 7, 2005, at 1:01:37
I'm right in that position too. I actually just got an interview for Monday for a job I don't know if I'm qualified for. I've been learning over the last few days that this company pretty much only recruits from Ivy League schools and rarely looks at anyone else. Here I am from a lowly state school with only a little experience. And not only that, I actually never applied to this company. They just happen to find my resume online and called me to set something up. I guess what I've done has impressed them to some degree, and I'm guessing your resume did the same thing. Why else would they interview you or even offer you the job? They obviously see something in you that matches well with the responsibilities of the job.
I think we are both just underestimating ourselves because of our lack of real job experience. Even if you are responsible for some screw ups here and there, that's how you learn. At our levels, it is very understandable for mistakes to happen. Stressing about it will only cause you to make more careless mistakes. I'm learning that! In 10 years you'll look back on this job and think, "what was I so scared of?!" Just relax and enjoy the new responsibilities that come with this job. :-)
Posted by Damos on July 11, 2005, at 1:25:20
In reply to Freaking Out, posted by messadivoce on July 7, 2005, at 1:01:37
You can only do the best you can on any given day.
I feel like I fail a thousand times a day every day in so many ways but people here still tell me what a wonderful job I'm doing. Don't believe a word of it, but if that's what they want to believe, who am I to argue.
You'll be fine. I have complete faith in you. Just give yourself time to find your feet and find the natural rhythm of the place. Try to imagine the smooth running of the office to be like conducting an orchestra. The various departments are the various sections, the key players the soloists and leads, etc. Each has a part to play and it takes a fair bit of effort before the music sounds the way you want it to. And the normal rhythm of life means that some days it will will be effortless perfection and others nothing'll go right - and that's okay.
Just be you and you'll be brilliant.
Posted by rainbowbrite on July 11, 2005, at 2:18:30
In reply to Freaking Out, posted by messadivoce on July 7, 2005, at 1:01:37
Im sure its just panic, there is nothing wrong with you! everyone goes through some form of anxiety starting something new, and you are in such a hard transition phase of your life. Im sure you will do fine, try to avoid psyching yourself up too much. That always makes it more stressful only its really hard not to at times.
good luck
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