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Posted by Mirror on May 23, 2004, at 21:27:23
Hey yall sorry i havent posted in a while but you see ive been A) really Busy B) Freaking out and C)Studing for stupid exams which i should be doing now but i thought it was more important for me to take a break(normally people do that in the middle of studing but i though it would be fund to do it before) and catch up well oh yea the freaking out part i will now explain first my parents are trying to plan a family vacation with my bros hectic schedule and i love family stuff which is weird for a teenager i know but it seems we never do stuff together without it ending with someone wanting to strangle another person and drag their bloody corpse across the floor and eat their liver. so the planning is ticking everyone off and im thinking no family vaction again this year( we havent had one for 3 years.) but im thinking i still might be able to have a vaction with just me and my mom. im sorta hoping my dads not going and i know that sounds mean but my dad pISSES ME OFF sorry bout the lang but i thought ticks didnt describe it right. and something happened today which makes me think he hates me. i have been running low on cash because i dont wanna get a job til summer so i can keep my grades as bs and as so i ask if my dad could supply me money for gas going to and from school. I was thinking that hed say yes because he does that with my brother but he doesnt think i know about that. so he said no and it wasnt until my brother asked my dad for the money my dad owed my brother because of the school thing that my flippin father gave me the money for gas. i truely think he doesnt like me. my freinds are acting very mean lately and crabby(lack of a better more volger word) im trying to cram for exams and do extra credit and everything is falling apart and im getting ahhhhhhhhhh.so offer any advice you can please.
Posted by deirdrehbrt on May 23, 2004, at 22:32:37
In reply to AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by Mirror on May 23, 2004, at 21:27:23
Hi Mirror,
I know this will sound trite, but BREATHE. Not just the breathing that you do to stay alive, but a conscious deep slow cleansing breath. It does wonders. Before you talk to someone who makes you angry, BREATHE. Before dealing with someone you're afraid of, BREATHE. When you don't think you can do something, BREATHE.
Exhale, 'till you can't anymore, and go a little further. While you're doing it, SEE all of the negative energy going out.
SEE yourself empty, no negativity, no anger, nothing expected, nothing owed.
SLOWLY start inhaling in through your nose. CONTROL the speed of your inhale. Don't give in to the temptation to fill your lungs as fast as you can. YOU are in control. It is YOUR body and YOUR lungs. INHALE slowly, feeling the air fill your lungs, first low, at the diaphragm. Let your chest expand, your shoulders rise.
When you cant inhale anymore, take just a little more air in. FEEL the stretching in your shoulders and chest.
HOLD the air in your body. Feel it. With your inner eyes, see the blood being filled with the oxygen.
SLOWLY, release your hold, and let the air come slowly through a small space between your lips. SEE the CO2 that was useless in your body coming out through your lips. Your shoulders fall, your chest relaxes. Your body is calm and relaxed.Now, you are calm. Now you can face the thing that seemed daunting with a little less anxiety.
I'm fairly certain that your Dad doesn't hate you. In fact, with a B average, I would guess that even if he doesn't say it, that he might just be proud of you. He may be difficult in your eyes, and you might just be difficult in his. Believe it or not, teenagers and fathers, mothers too, can have strained relationships. You are going through a period where you are finding out what it is like to be independent. They can see that as you not wanting to listen to them. You have lived your whole life, up to this point, completely dependent on them. Whatever you needed they provided. Now, you are becoming independent, and it's confusing for both sides. At one minute, you don't need them, and the next, you do. The lines get blurry. If you don't need them to drive you, why should you need gas money? It's weird.
You will though, one day, get it sorted out. It's a communication thing right now.
Good luck,
You sound like a great kid.Dee.
Posted by Mirror on May 24, 2004, at 1:21:08
In reply to Re: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by deirdrehbrt on May 23, 2004, at 22:32:37
dee you mentioned how i dont need them to drive me but why do i need the gas money? and really that wasnt why i was angry. I knew before i asked him that my brother was getting money for gas to go to and from school. I was short on cash and decided if he got the money to drive their that my dad would also have given it to me.(i really should have asked my mother though she was actually the one who talked my dad into giving me the money EVEN AFTER HE GAVE MY BROTHER THE MONEY FOR HIS GAS WITH ME RIGHT INFRONT OF HIM) So it wasnt that he didnt give me the money it was more along the fact that my dad gave my brother money for doing the exact same thing that i did except i didnt get it. He compares us alot. My brother was always the prefect one. he got the grades but has to play by the book while i get a very heavy creative side and dont do as well in school (My dad likes the book and doesnt think being creative is good. My mom is creative but thinks school is incredibly important too and understands me. Its alot easier to talk to her.) And with school its not a big diff. i mean he gets straight As and i get As and Bs(however last year it was more like B's-D's) and it never seems good enough for him if i get cs he wants bs if i get bs he wants as and even if i get As hed probably ask why im not in more honor classes. Ive never once heard him yell at my brother though because hes soooooooo great. I think my dad favors him because hes the oldest gets the grades gets to carry on the name.(Sr. Jr. III. so on i dont mean last name im a guy too) Err he doesnt see that my bro is a pompous errogant knowitall. well i feel alot better but i would still like some help so write back ok.
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