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Posted by TherapyGirl on April 22, 2010, at 19:33:39
Work is so very, very stressful these days. And I'm so angry at my former friend/co-worker and I have no idea what to do with all this anger. I really don't.
I do have an appt. next week with a CBT therapist. I guess I'll see how that goes. The DBT one hasn't called me back, so I don't know if I'll hear from her or not.
I did watch the video from my T last week and it was unbelievable. She really, really nailed it. I can't talk about it much because I cry, but it was the best gift I've ever gotten.
And I miss her like crazy.
Posted by obsidian on April 22, 2010, at 21:59:30
In reply to Stressed out of my mind, posted by TherapyGirl on April 22, 2010, at 19:33:39
I'm sorry you're missing your T. I hate sitting with anger too. :-(
feel better soon,
sid
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 22:19:02
In reply to Stressed out of my mind, posted by TherapyGirl on April 22, 2010, at 19:33:39
I'm soooo glad she gave you that video. It's just not easy to lose someone like that in your life. But to lose them without a trace would be so much worse.
How would your therapist have helped you with the anger? Can you think of some way to distill the essential elements? It's hard to do I know. But I sometimes try to summon my inner therapist. He says it's probably better than the real thing. :)
Of course, it's not.
What on earth is it about therapists not returning calls to potential clients? It seems like a good way to weed out potential therapists.
Posted by annierose on April 23, 2010, at 11:48:47
In reply to Re: Stressed out of my mind » TherapyGirl, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 22:19:02
It sounds the part of therapy that you looked forward to was the relationship, the relating part. Besides the CBT type, you can put phone calls into regular old talk therapy too. I'm afraid with CBT you'll feel more clinical, less cared for.
I agree with Dinah. It was so VERY thoughtful of your former t to make you a tape. I'm so glad she reached out to you in a tangible way ... she can always be "there" in your home, reaching out to you.
As hard as it is, when I'm dealing with hurtful people, I try to focus on myself and my own interactions. What they say and do, says more about them than you. I know it's hard not to get sucked into their negative thoughts, but it is truly their problem.
Posted by rnny on April 23, 2010, at 17:33:10
In reply to Stressed out of my mind, posted by TherapyGirl on April 22, 2010, at 19:33:39
It is going on 2 years since my old T retired and I can say that only now the "despair" of not having her in my life has lifted. I still miss her, but I am not despairing the fact. As for the anger, OMG! I can't believe you feel the same way I do about certain things. The level of anger gets to the point where I feel I am losing my mind. I worked alot with my old T about my "Irish temper" and we got to the point where I could identify what I was feeling besides the anger. Since I had so much anger, there was always plenty of new material to work with an I actually got very good at figuring out what was going on. But to feel intense anger and have to live with is is a holy nightmare. I have been angry about a couple of things lately. For example a neighbor. Completely enraged that the 'new tenant' is a loud person who has a girlfriend that is worse than he is. That, coupled with the fact that the rental office does not give a darn. Combined, those two things can put me into a walking rage. And no way to get rid of it, I swear. I wish I was an exercise person. I hated gym in high school but man, I wish I was one of the people I see running all the time. I use food as my outlet for everything. People can think I am so sweet because I have a superficial pleasant disposition. But sometimes the anger I am feeling inside is so intense and I really have to use what I learned from my old T to get at the root of it. I had a job for 5 years where I was in intense anger the entire time. The boss hated me, made it known not only to me but others and that kind of unprofesionalism on her part (letting others know she couldn't stand me) let others to want to pick on me so they could be in with the boss. I feel your pain and am so so sorry you have this inside you.
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