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Posted by DannaB on March 8, 2007, at 19:31:04
Hi all,
My T is away for a whole week. He's my biggest support right now so this stinks.
My boyfriend is still giving me mixed signals!! Last week he told me that I'm one of the three most important things in his life but then, as usual, didn't call me all week or make plans with me for the weekend--and I specifically asked him to call this week. He says one thing but then he does another. He SAYS it's because he's so busy with work. What kind of a relationship is it if you don't speak all week?
I am so mad I could scream. If he doesn't want to be with me why don't we just break up? Why does he insist on saying that he does want to be with me but then not make any effort to show it?
Posted by DannaB on March 9, 2007, at 21:04:16
In reply to T is away, so frustrated!, posted by DannaB on March 8, 2007, at 19:31:04
We've really broken up this time. This is the worst relationship I've ever been in. I've never had someone treat me with such disregard. The only person who's feelings mattered in this relationship were his!!! I think it's for the best but it still really hurts.
Anyway, I called my T and he called back right before his vacation. He is the best. I can never find a nice guy...why can't I just marry my T? :(
Posted by annierose on March 9, 2007, at 22:02:39
In reply to Update, posted by DannaB on March 9, 2007, at 21:04:16
Sorry you broke up with your boyfriend. It does sound like he was confused --- "You're the best" then a break-up - no fun at all.
I'm glad you were able to talk to your therapist before his vacation.
Remember, Camp Comfort is always open. I hope you can hold onto better memories to get you through the week.
Posted by frida on March 10, 2007, at 11:15:00
In reply to Re: Update » DannaB, posted by annierose on March 9, 2007, at 22:02:39
I am so sorry you broke up and had such a bad, painful experience. =(
As painful as it is...if it was for the best, it must mean that there is someone out there...for you..who will treat you the way you deserve.
I know it's painful, though...I hope you can soon see your T.
Frida
Posted by Dinah on March 10, 2007, at 12:14:52
In reply to Update, posted by DannaB on March 9, 2007, at 21:04:16
I'm glad your therapist called you back before he went away. I'm always wishing my therapist would leave me with a substitute therapist when he was gone. A nice motherly figure who would just fill in and help me feel safe till he came back.
I think our therapists can be just as insensitive as the next person with their own families. I'm always hearing of spouses and children wishing they were clients instead of relatives. :(
Posted by widget on March 10, 2007, at 15:07:40
In reply to Update, posted by DannaB on March 9, 2007, at 21:04:16
To you comment, Why can't I just marry my T?, Amen. I know exactly how you feel. I know there are many reasons this would not work but oh, what a wonderful solution it seems. Been there. Widget
Posted by DannaB on March 11, 2007, at 17:08:51
In reply to Re: Update, posted by widget on March 10, 2007, at 15:07:40
Thanks, everyone. I'm still so mad!!! It just feels like there wasn't a resolution. If he would at least have admitted he wasn't giving me what I wanted and couldn't/didn't want to, but instead he was acting like I was asking too much. I asked him to make an effort to call me ONCE during the week and he would never do it!!
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