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stuck in a therapy rut

Posted by youngaddict on January 2, 2007, at 21:37:40

i feel like i talk abuot the same stuff all the time with my T, it never changes.. i feel like i am skimming the surface of what is really bothering me...and even though i have been in therapy three times a week for about five months now, I still haven't gotten to the core of where i am in life, what my problems/issues are... i feel like i am wasting my time, but i really want to work through this stuff. anyone else feel this way? my T says that everyone goes through their stuff differently at their own rate... that i will get to it when i am ready? how much money and waste of time do i have to be to start being ready?

 

Re: stuck in a therapy rut » youngaddict

Posted by sunnydays on January 2, 2007, at 22:25:21

In reply to stuck in a therapy rut, posted by youngaddict on January 2, 2007, at 21:37:40

Well, I'm still not done and I've been going 2 years. It really is true that everyone takes their own amount of time to work through things. Some people can walk right in and open up to a therapist, but it took me almost three months before I said more than about five full sentences in a session. I would really try to relax into it, if you can. Also, maybe you are going too often. I'm surprised that you are going so often if you've only been going five months - it takes a lot of time to build up trust, and going more than once a week takes a lot of trust if you are going to open up. I don't know, maybe it's what you need, only you know that, but maybe cutting back would give you a little more space between sessions to reflect? Sometimes deeper thoughts and feelings take some time to develop as you digest all the different layers and undertones of a session.

Good luck! But try to relax - it really really is going to take a while, unfortunately.

sunnydays

 

Re: stuck in a therapy rut

Posted by youngaddict on January 2, 2007, at 22:54:31

In reply to Re: stuck in a therapy rut » youngaddict, posted by sunnydays on January 2, 2007, at 22:25:21

thats cool if its normal. i mean i think that -but sometimes i wonder what is SO wrong with me. i was going two times a week and then i asked to come 3 times because i was not in a good place. then i got better (which corresponded with me getting clean). so now i don't want to go that much but i'm afriad to tell her i have such a fear of rejection that i do things i don't want to do all the time.

but now i am getting high agan and i think falling into such a deep depression. so maybe i need to go.

but i have such a problem opening up. i want to trust her. i do. but in some sick twisted way shes become like my primary caregiver and i want her approval so i am censoring things. and i need her to push me harder to talk about things, because i don't want to and i need that push or i won't talk. you know?

thanks for listening.

 

Re: stuck in a therapy rut » youngaddict

Posted by Dinah on January 3, 2007, at 9:48:37

In reply to Re: stuck in a therapy rut, posted by youngaddict on January 2, 2007, at 22:54:31

I think I'd take your post immediately above this one to therapy and tell her what you wrote. There's no quicker way out of a rut than discussing the rut itself.

 

Dinah has an excellent idea (nm) » youngaddict

Posted by sunnydays on January 3, 2007, at 12:47:19

In reply to Re: stuck in a therapy rut, posted by youngaddict on January 2, 2007, at 22:54:31


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