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Posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 14:49:09
This is no joke. I swear it's true, and it's so embarrassing I can't even tell my therapist. I left my wife for a Thai transsexual prostitute. My wife and I had been married for 11 years. We hadn't slept together in over 4 years. I travel a lot on business and one night I went looking. She found out, now we're divorced.
I used to think I was fairly intelligent, well educated, etc. Now I often think I've gone completely nuts. I'm afraid of what huge mistake I'm going to make next. I'm going to propose marriage to my new Thai girlfriend.
What the hell happened to me?
Posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 15:11:05
In reply to I left my wife for a ..., posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 14:49:09
Hey Mike,
Whoah!
I think you need to talk to your T bout this.
Its your life.
I wouldn't be in no hurry to get married either.
It can wait.
Thats just my opinion.
Muffled
Posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 15:39:22
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ..., posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 15:11:05
I understand. Your reaction is exactly what I should expect given the fact that I'm now completely nuts:)
> Hey Mike,
> Whoah!
> I think you need to talk to your T bout this.
> Its your life.
> I wouldn't be in no hurry to get married either.
> It can wait.
> Thats just my opinion.
> Muffled
Posted by fairywings on February 2, 2006, at 20:34:39
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ..., posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 15:39:22
not nuts, but why go to a T if you don't intend to tell them something that big?
fw
Posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 21:44:53
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ... » Michael_Chicago, posted by fairywings on February 2, 2006, at 20:34:39
>
> not nuts, but why go to a T if you don't intend to tell them something that big?
> fw****Ah, FW has a good point.....back to you Mike... ;-)
Posted by fires on February 2, 2006, at 22:53:45
In reply to I left my wife for a ..., posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 14:49:09
> This is no joke. I swear it's true, and it's so embarrassing I can't even tell my therapist. I left my wife for a Thai transsexual prostitute. My wife and I had been married for 11 years. We hadn't slept together in over 4 years. I travel a lot on business and one night I went looking. She found out, now we're divorced.
>
> I used to think I was fairly intelligent, well educated, etc. Now I often think I've gone completely nuts. I'm afraid of what huge mistake I'm going to make next. I'm going to propose marriage to my new Thai girlfriend.
What many say (and I agree with) is what will happen if/when you have troubles with your new girlfriend? Find another woman?Some experts believe that most adulterers become serial adulterers.
> What the hell happened to me?I don't know, nor does anyone else.
Posted by milly on February 3, 2006, at 6:54:31
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ... » Michael_Chicago, posted by fairywings on February 2, 2006, at 20:34:39
Surely whatever drove that action also influences the rest of your life, is it possible to say anything to your T that is remotely real if they don't know this?
milly
Posted by bailey777 on February 3, 2006, at 7:08:29
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ..., posted by milly on February 3, 2006, at 6:54:31
MC --
This happens all the time, so you are NOT the only one. It's all about the heart and the not the head... I would share these things with your T. It is your space place now and you should ultilize that. Respect yourself and your feelings. Things will work out.
best
Posted by B2chica on February 3, 2006, at 8:53:48
In reply to Re: I left my wife for a ..., posted by bailey777 on February 3, 2006, at 7:08:29
i think the big question here is do you love your new girlfriend??
is she someone you want to grow old with? i agree with the others, i would slow down with the marriage idea, not cancel, just postpone. you obviously have many questions, concerns and maybe doubts that's why you're writing.
do you have a T? if you do i strongly suggest talking openly with them about this. maybe it will help sort things out for you.and you keep referring to yourself as crazy...is this cuz of a diagnosis or because of who your girlfriend used to be.
as for the latter, i think love isn't all that easy to come by and if you've found it, hang on to it. have you talked to your girlfriend about how you are feeling about your relationship?HTH
b2c.
Posted by fires on February 3, 2006, at 10:00:31
In reply to I left my wife for a ..., posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 14:49:09
>> I'm afraid of what huge mistake I'm going to make next. <<
My suggestion: then be very careful about what you do next. And as always-- do the right thing.
Posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 14:34:05
In reply to I left my wife for a ..., posted by Michael_Chicago on February 2, 2006, at 14:49:09
> This is no joke. I swear it's true, and it's so embarrassing I can't even tell my therapist. I left my wife for a Thai transsexual prostitute. My wife and I had been married for 11 years. We hadn't slept together in over 4 years. I travel a lot on business and one night I went looking. She found out, now we're divorced.
>
> I used to think I was fairly intelligent, well educated, etc. Now I often think I've gone completely nuts. I'm afraid of what huge mistake I'm going to make next. I'm going to propose marriage to my new Thai girlfriend.
>
> What the hell happened to me?
>
How did you let yourself down?
What are your new girlfriend's values in life, do they match yours? What's so fascinating about the two of you as a couple? Are you happy together? Are you out hurting people, embezzling money maybe, or raping, murdering and pillaging? If not, what on earth makes you think you're not intelligent, well educated, etc? Has that changed, about you? Why are you embarrassed? Did you have a negative view of transsexuality and prostitution before you decided the person behind the label and the facade was more important, and you could live with that, you had the courage to live with what's right for you?
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