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Posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 19:28:43
Ahhhhh, we had to talk about it all session last time. I was so nervous to tell him I liked him, not like a boyfriend but as a father type figure. I felt so nervous about it right after and then I felt relieved and now I am all nervous again. I keep crying and can't stop. What is wrong with me????
anybody have any suggestions?
rachel
Posted by happyflower on February 2, 2006, at 20:22:05
In reply to The theraputic relationship, posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 19:28:43
Oh, my, you sound just like me two weeks ago. I told my T how I felt, then I felt relieved, then I was very sad about it all. Check out the thread about talking about the elephant.
But you did good today! It takes a lot of courage, I know all too well now. People on Babble told me that it would deepen the relationship, which is scary to me, but they were right, I have even a stronger bond to him then ever. Be proud of yourself! :)
Posted by Dinah on February 2, 2006, at 20:34:35
In reply to The theraputic relationship, posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 19:28:43
Good for you!
Did he respond appropriately?
It sounds not unlike what happens to me after a particularly emotional session. But in the end it really *is* worth it, I have found. It adds a depth and flavor to the interactions that just isn't there if you're trying to keep something to yourself.
Posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 20:59:17
In reply to Re: The theraputic relationship » rubenstein, posted by Dinah on February 2, 2006, at 20:34:35
He asked me what it would take for me to understand that he liked me. I said, nothing, because I am so afraid it is fake and just that unconditional positive regard that therapists are supposed to have with their clients, but deep down I guess I know he likes me, and I did let all the elephants out, including the one "I wish that he liked me as much as I like him." He asked how could anybody prove that....
I hate when he is right
or perhaps that is what I like about the man
rachel> Good for you!
>
> Did he respond appropriately?
>
> It sounds not unlike what happens to me after a particularly emotional session. But in the end it really *is* worth it, I have found. It adds a depth and flavor to the interactions that just isn't there if you're trying to keep something to yourself.
Posted by Dinah on February 2, 2006, at 21:02:26
In reply to Re: The theraputic relationship, posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 20:59:17
That sounds like something my therapist would say. That it wasn't productive to try to compare amounts, and there was no way to measure.
But if he shows you that he likes you, then I think that that is what matters. My therapist told me several times that he cared about me, but what finally got through is that he *cared* about me (through his actions).
Posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 21:35:47
In reply to Re: The theraputic relationship, posted by rubenstein on February 2, 2006, at 20:59:17
> He asked me what it would take for me to understand that he liked me. I said, nothing, because I am so afraid it is fake and just that unconditional positive regard that therapists are supposed to have with their clients, but deep down I guess I know he likes me, and I did let all the elephants out, including the one "I wish that he liked me as much as I like him." He asked how could anybody prove that....
> I hate when he is right
> or perhaps that is what I like about the man
> rachel
***That exactly what I been thinking before. That its the unconditional P. regard thing. I didn't know if she was just being nice to me because of that. She says no. I guess I beleive her.............Anyhow thats so cool that you could talk about it and that your T was so nice about it and all. Real nice to hear such things.
Take care
Muffled
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