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Therapist retired a year ago and still grieving

Posted by friesandcoke on July 13, 2009, at 22:50:08

My beloved therapist retired a year ago and I am still grieving the loss of her. She referred me to a colleague and little did she know the colleague was going through a crisis and I have had to quit therapy with the colleague because she is crossing all sorts of boundaries discussing her crisis with me, taking off tons of time due to her crisis and other things such as discussing my case with someone who called there when I didn't sign a release of information for either of them!! My old therapist was truly the one I went running to. I was so lucky to have her. I was so blessed. I stayed with her colleague for a year but could not take the colleague and her crisis interfering. One time her cell phone rang 3x during a session. She kept looking to see who it was. I finally asked "are you expecting an important call"? And she said no, she was just looking to see if it was anyone calling about her mother. Her mother is the crisis. For a year now she has been saying her mother is dying and dragging me into it. I have had to tell her flat out " I don't want to talk about this". And had to tell her to put away the cell phone it was interfering with my session..if you want to call it that. The irony is that my own mother is in a nursing home with alot of illnesses not far from the office. But I am not going there anymore and don't have a therapist now. Wow, what trauma! Thanks for listening guys. XO

 

Re: Therapist retired a year ago and still grieving » friesandcoke

Posted by Voce on October 5, 2009, at 17:23:34

In reply to Therapist retired a year ago and still grieving, posted by friesandcoke on July 13, 2009, at 22:50:08

I am so sorry. Not only for your loss but because the therapist who was supposed to help you deal with the loss wasn't available to you in the way that she should have. That's unprofessional, and it sucks.

It's a deep loss, isn't it? I too am grieving a therapist who became so, so dear to me. It was 5 years ago that I last saw him and just recently I have been feeling his absence very acutely, despite having moved on, gotten married, and started a whole new life of sorts. But it still hurts and I still grieve for him.

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