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Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 22, 2008, at 13:32:09
Hi, babblers: i am still grieving after 4 years......over the loss of marriage; such as it was (LOL); verbally abuseive (and some physical abuse); I got the courage to get a divorce, and then experienced a kind of abuse I had never heard of; Spiritual (abuse).
My church of 31 years voted me out of membership, with my name up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." I fought the system for 18 months to try and stop the pastor (of disaster, LOL) from "counseling" any more women, because 2 of them wanted to commit suicide (because of his "counseling" skills).
I was the poster-child for the fear of being alone, and so getting a divorce was a monumental choice. It hasn't gotten any better; I still hate being alone.
I went back to school this Fall (age 61!), and recently won a scholarship (I was 1 of 10 recipients out of 1,600 applicants in the U.S. and Canada).
I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group.
Something lovely came from the church debacle: My faith-based website with over 14,500 hits.Elie Wiesel (survivor of Auschwitz) has written to me; I am both humbled and honored.
I've written my memoir: Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice).
I realize there is nothing that will help me heal any faster, and I really don't see myself stopping grieving, until I am in a loving relationship. I stay busy, etc.....but it doesn't work.Love to all........SassyFrancesca
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 15, 2008, at 1:33:37
In reply to Divorce after 31 years of Abuse/Loss of Church, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 22, 2008, at 13:32:09
That is an amazing story indeed! I am so sorry you had to suffer from abuse at the hands of your church. But, remember, Scripture often scolds the church for it's "meetings, organizations, and as 'bless-me' one-stops". People go to church for one day a week to cleanse themselves of sin, and then go back that week and do it all over again. It's written in the book of Psalms. Your relationship, on a very deep personal level, with your faith is what counts. I personally have little use for churches anyways.
Jay
Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 1, 2008, at 10:52:45
In reply to Re: Divorce after 31 years of Abuse/Loss of Church » sassyfrancesca, posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on June 15, 2008, at 1:33:37
Dear Jay: Thank you so much for your kind words. No one had responded until you did, so I didn't think anyone would.
Hugs and Love and thank you, again!
Unfortunately (this) spiritual abuse is a wound one doesn't recover from; I just live with it.
Posted by rnny on December 28, 2009, at 22:39:49
In reply to Divorce after 31 years of Abuse/Loss of Church, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 22, 2008, at 13:32:09
That church is nothing like the character of God! You poor thing. I have had a couple of horrible church experiences myself.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on January 11, 2010, at 10:04:54
In reply to Re: Divorce after 31 years of Abuse/Loss of Church, posted by rnny on December 28, 2009, at 22:39:49
Thank you for caring, sweetie!
Hugs, Sassy
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