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Posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
I know it's silly, but I'm kinda feeling neglected, or unpopular, or something. I've posted a couple of things on the psych board lately, and only gotten one or two responses to some of them. The last one was actually a big deal to me, because it was about a traumatic event -- OK, a nightmare -- and I was hoping to see what others had to say.
Now, I know this is silly. This is a bulletin board, it's not a cocktail party. And it's probably some combination of no one having anything to say, or my usual over-long post being too much for people to read. I don't know. Tonight, though, it's bothering me.
I think it's because my self-esteem is in a low patch right now. In fact, it's getting ruined, because I can't keep it from dragging on the floor. But I wonder if I'm doing anything "wrong," something that is keeping other people from responding to me?
I think I might want to know. But I'm not sure I really do... Be gentle with me, I guess...
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 31, 2006, at 7:45:48
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
Yeah I feel unpopular here most of the time, but hey. I don't really get the American way of being friendly, but I still post and stuff, I'm not particulary bothered about being popular - I've given that up circa age 6!! I'd rather have two close friends than a bunch of less close friendships.
I often only get two or three responses to threads, although i do ask quite specific questions about herbs usually. I wouldn't take it personally. Sometimes you get more, sometimes you don't. Perhaps enough time has not elasped? I've noticed that I'm quite often a 'thread-stopper' ie my post is the last one for quite along while.
Oh well.
Kind regards
Meri
Posted by ClearSkies on October 31, 2006, at 9:57:22
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
Come join me on the comfy couch Racer, because I feel exactly the same way, and I was *just* telling someone about it. My self esteem hiccup is preventing me from posting at all. Thanks for drawing me out.
Posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 9:58:13
In reply to Re: I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 31, 2006, at 7:45:48
If I thank you now, you'll lose your reputation as the Thread Stopper!
Thanks, Meri. I appreciate your response.
Posted by ClearSkies on October 31, 2006, at 11:31:01
In reply to I'd say thank you, except » Meri-Tuuli, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 9:58:13
so this is what chopped liver feels like.
Posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 12:38:39
In reply to Re: I'd say thank you, except, posted by ClearSkies on October 31, 2006, at 11:31:01
> so this is what chopped liver feels like.
We crossed posts, sweetheart. I only saw one post, and responded to it. I'm glad I checked back, though, because now I can answer you.
And I love calves liver. One of my very favorite foods. So, if you're organic and don't contain all those growth hormones and antibiotics and so on, then I guess that makes you feel like something I love, huh?
Posted by rainbutterfly on October 31, 2006, at 14:31:12
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
Racer, I can certainly relate to feeling unpopular here.... too unpopular to even read here mostly.
Thanks for drawing me out of my ever present cocoon (it's there even when I try my hardest to fly)
I've seen no indication that you are not "popular" here (but then, like I said, I don't read much)
Take care,
butterfly
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2006, at 14:42:14
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
Unpopular? I guess we all feel that way sometimes. I know I do. But I hope you give yourself a nice CBT reality check. :)
For example, I rarely respond to posts about certain topics, while I nearly always respond to posts about certain other topics, no matter who is doing the posting.
I'll confess to having posters whose posts and responses I look for to *read* for one reason or another. But I doubt that translates into how often I reply to those posters.
So doing a popularity check on Babble by how many responses you get might not be the best method, if there is a best method at all. One thing I like about Babble is that once people get to know someone, that someone tends to be valued by many for whatever it is that makes them them.
Posted by NikkiT2 on October 31, 2006, at 14:50:57
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
I hope you know that, in reality, you're not unpopular right?
I can't do fluffy stuff easily, but I hope you know you mean a hell of alot to me..
Nikki, who can really be a cruddy friend at times..
Posted by ClearSkies on November 1, 2006, at 6:33:45
In reply to Are you organic? » ClearSkies, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 12:38:39
> > so this is what chopped liver feels like.
>
> We crossed posts, sweetheart. I only saw one post, and responded to it. I'm glad I checked back, though, because now I can answer you.
>
> And I love calves liver. One of my very favorite foods. So, if you're organic and don't contain all those growth hormones and antibiotics and so on, then I guess that makes you feel like something I love, huh?
I'm as organic as the next human bean, I guess. Except for the titanium pins in my feet that keep my big toes on (gross!). Oh, and all the crowns and fillings I have in my mouth.Yesterday was a grand day for a pity party for me and I celebrated suitably. Hence my pathetic post. I've got a severe outbreak of self loathing, and neosporin just isn't working on it.
ClearSkies
Posted by 10derHeart on November 1, 2006, at 19:27:52
In reply to I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Racer on October 31, 2006, at 1:47:04
Your feelings are *not* silly! They just *are,* as you well know - missy! (Damos - don't you read this and call me cheeky!)
I stayed away 'cause of the trigger warning (thanks, BTW) That "t" stuff (not therapist, the other "t") can get to me at times...
But I feel better now, so I'll go have a read.
Posted by Phillipa on November 1, 2006, at 20:18:16
In reply to Re: I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now » Racer, posted by 10derHeart on November 1, 2006, at 19:27:52
I know I've been unpopular this week. But as someone said you can't please all of the people. I've received a lot of positive feedback. I need to focus on that. And Racer I haven't noticed what you're describing at all. Now I'm not talking about liver ickkk!!!Love Phillipa
Posted by Lindenblüte on November 8, 2006, at 21:40:32
In reply to Re: I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now, posted by Phillipa on November 1, 2006, at 20:18:16
Hi Racer,
I read your nightmare post, and I wasn't in a position where I was able to feel my OWN feelings, much less any empathy.It's a complicated dream, and I think it was a little too close for me to comment on supportively.
When I post to you, I would want to say something of substance, but just scanning your post I knew that I was not ready to process it yet.
And I didn't want to say anything generic, because I respect you, and don't feel comfortable posting things that don't feel sincere.
that's all- I'm sorry if it felt like people were ignoring you. I think you were on a different level than I was that week.
Sorry you (and the other thread contributors) are feeling low right now. You are ALL wonderful folks, and I'd eat pancakes with you all in a jiffy. organic free-range pancakes. With BUCKETS of real Maple Syrup (I like grade B- has more mapliciousness).
Cats invited? my cat would appreciate the chopped liver, I'm sure. If in the form of "pate" I will join in too
-Li
Posted by ClearSkies on November 9, 2006, at 7:43:53
In reply to Re: I'm feeling kinda unpopular right now racer, posted by Lindenblüte on November 8, 2006, at 21:40:32
> Cats invited? my cat would appreciate the chopped liver, I'm sure. If in the form of "pate" I will join in too
>
> -Li:-)
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