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Posted by ClearSkies on September 17, 2006, at 21:53:04
I guess this goes here. I have been feeling ok for the last couple of days and decided to buy groceries! and maybe cook. I don't cook fancy, just fresh. I go to one particular grocery store. Nothing special but I know where everything is, and which check out clerks are duds.
Usually I shop by myself because my husband gets so anxious and frustrated by grocery shopping that it completes freaks me out and I let it ruin entire days at a time.
Today, I shopped at another, smaller branch; and my husband accompanied me. I couldn't find fully half of my shopping list - things like apricots and fresh mint were NOWHERE. I don't substitute unless I have no other choice. I tried to do it with my incomplete list, and in dashing all over the store, figured out that I just couldn't fudge that much of a recipe.
I turned to my husband (who was really doing just fine, I think because my fit was keeping him otherwise occupied), and declared,"I can't handle this, I'm going outside the store," I walked out, sat on a chair, and cried like my heart was breaking. I haven't had a public meltdown like that in so very long. This utterly broke me.
Which leads me to this board. What is so weak about my control over emotions that I will blubber like this with an audience? I am so embarassed, even though not a single person noticed me with my head bent down. Which actually really made me feel more like a nobody.
Posted by Phillipa on September 17, 2006, at 22:39:58
In reply to Bad grocery experience., posted by ClearSkies on September 17, 2006, at 21:53:04
I'm completely serious as all I've been doing in cry in public lately. What is wrong or is this healthy? I had crying my eyes puff up and I feel all drained. Love Phillipa
Posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 0:45:11
In reply to Bad grocery experience., posted by ClearSkies on September 17, 2006, at 21:53:04
Grocery stores are heavy sh*t. I get really freaked out in Woolworths, and to make it worse have to face the gauntlet of 'how are you?' Every so often I'm heedless enough to say antisocial things like 'I feel like slitting my wrists', or 'just don't ask'. You must have ended up in front of all those ridiculous products with simultaneously too much and too little choice?
It is of course humiliating, but there are tons of reasons to freak out in such places, IMO.
Posted by ju§tyourlaugh on September 18, 2006, at 1:12:03
In reply to Bad grocery experience., posted by ClearSkies on September 17, 2006, at 21:53:04
..it is okay to cry..
..it is okay to be yourself and at that time you were upset..good for you for not projecting negatively on the cashier..feel good for being so aware and intune with your emotions. take care of them.
Posted by Racer on September 18, 2006, at 2:22:02
In reply to Re: Bad grocery experience., posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 0:45:11
> Every so often I'm heedless enough to say antisocial things like 'I feel like slitting my wrists', or 'just don't ask'.
And I'm the opposite: a clerk asks, "How are you today?" I say, "Peachy keen!" or "FABULOUS!"
Doesn't much matter how I actually feel, of course, and the superlatives get better as my irritation grows...
Posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 14:03:43
In reply to Re: Bad grocery experience. » Declan, posted by Racer on September 18, 2006, at 2:22:02
My gripe is that they ask you how you are. There are perfectly good and polite greetings for this purpose such as goodmorning, goodafternoon, hello, g'day, and hi, but some idiot in personell thinks so little of us that he thinks we will feel more cared for if we are asked how we feel. Maybe I should just say 'I don't know, I'm not sure that I exist', or 'how can you tell'?
Posted by curtm on September 18, 2006, at 17:29:37
In reply to Re: Bad grocery experience., posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 14:03:43
When someone asks me that, I reply "Not bad." I often hear other people reply "Not too bad." That is still a degree of BAD. "Not bad" doesn't necessarily mean good. It means just and only what it says.
Clear Skies, I hope the meal turned out fantastic.
Posted by ClearSkies on September 18, 2006, at 18:52:49
In reply to How are you? » Declan, posted by curtm on September 18, 2006, at 17:29:37
> Clear Skies, I hope the meal turned out fantastic.Er... it did, actually. And good leftovers.
Posted by Racer on September 19, 2006, at 1:24:20
In reply to Re: Bad grocery experience., posted by Declan on September 18, 2006, at 14:03:43
"Excited to be in the world!"
or
"Beside myself with excitement!"
(Heck, probably still does say those things... I just don't hear him do it very often anymore...)
My feeling is that, even if they've been told to do it, most of them mean it a little bit...
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