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Posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 15:58:10
I know I'm about as bright as a 15 watt bulb when it comes to this, but if you could be patient with me and tell me -- AGAIN -- how this works, I'd appreciate it.
Today, I'm getting awfully close to nothing done. (Besides forwarding more than 250 spams to my ISP. Which did take something close to forever.) I can't shower, because the water's off for repairs somewhere in this complex, so I haven't left the house. (Today, I *need* a shower to go outside, unless I choose to shave my head...) Obviously, can't do laundry, nor clean the bathrooms. But there are other things I could be doing, things I really want to get done, things I'm trying to drag my @$$ off this chair to get done.
But I haven't done any of them. Every time I think about actually doing them, I start to fold inward. And some of them are things I am pretty sure I'd enjoy if I did get started on them. It's not even "oh, it's a chore, no wonder you don't want to do it..."
As a result of my resistance to Doing Anything At All, I'm not feeling all that great about myself. In fact, I would say I'm feeling pretty negative about myself.
So, someone explain again -- in words of one syllable or less -- that whole thing about my worth not being tied to my achievements? My value not being measured by what I do?
Thanks!
^^^^
Guess that's a sign I do think I'm worth someone's time to answer me, as well as a sign I trust people here to care enough about me to repeat the lesson for a slow learner. ;-)
Posted by Jost on September 15, 2006, at 18:36:38
In reply to OK, someone try to explain it to me again?, posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 15:58:10
You don't have to do anything today. You can take it easy. Relax. Listen to some music. Take a nap.
Drink some of that lovely premixed coffee stuff-- you know the flavored ones, that affable women drink out of lovely china cups with incense and a cloth napkin? and a breeze coming through the lace curtains, possible from a petite tray, with a cookie?
Or, well, I can't help but be curious? what are the things you might like to do, if you got to doing them?
Jost
Posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 18:51:46
In reply to Re: OK, someone try to explain it to me again? » Racer, posted by Jost on September 15, 2006, at 18:36:38
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> Or, well, I can't help but be curious? what are the things you might like to do, if you got to doing them?
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> JostSewing, for one. I have several projects at varying stages of completion right now, and I do enjoy sewing -- especially with my fabulous new machine ;-). Believe it or not, I think I would enjoy doing homework, if I could get to it. There's a good feeling about working out those problems, and it brings a sense of confidence and satisfaction when I look at it and "see" that I'm right. Laundry -- honestly, I enjoy doing laundry. Not folding it, although there's satisfaction there, too. Physical therapy exercises, which leave me feeling stronger, and as though I've accomplished something FOR myself. Washing the Revere pots from last night, because they sparkle so much when the bottoms are cleaned. Brush the cat, who likes it and looks so handsome afterwards. Go out and buy a knitting pattern for some stuffed hedgehogs I want to make someone for Christmas -- and maybe some yarn to make them with, too. Go out and buy some fabric to make a ruffle to go around one of the sewing projects, also a Christmas present for someone. If I went out, I could also go through a carwash, because I love my car and like to see it when it's clean and shiny.
Nothing much, really. Not even anything I think most people would see as all that much fun. But, many of those are things I enjoy, so...
(I know: Laundry? Enjoyable? I'm nuts, remember?)
Posted by llrrrpp on September 15, 2006, at 19:57:01
In reply to Re: OK, someone try to explain it to me again? » Jost, posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 18:51:46
Racer, the night is still young-
repeat after me- pull the plug on the computerhey!! how come you're still reading this.
Okay, who cares if you were a potato today. I did enough work for both of us. I did laundry, and sorted 3 months worth of mail.
I reorganized my iTunes library and finished a mammoth data analysis project at work.
Oh yeah, and I think I might have uncovered a little thread that ties together multiple unpleasant psychological conditions from my earliest days on this earth to the present evening.
Now i'm tired. I sent the sun over your direction, though, so if you can say hello to the sunset, I'd much appreciate it.
And you can have some self-esteem that you are one of the finest, freshest couch potatoes that your couch has ever known :)
Posted by finelinebob on September 15, 2006, at 21:06:03
In reply to OK, someone try to explain it to me again?, posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 15:58:10
> So, someone explain again -- in words of one syllable or less -- that whole thing about my worth not being tied to my achievements? My value not being measured by what I do?
Phkmg.
flb
Posted by Phillipa on September 15, 2006, at 21:18:30
In reply to Re: OK, someone try to explain it to me again?, posted by finelinebob on September 15, 2006, at 21:06:03
I do know the feeling. But who wants to do laundry? Maybe a short walk? Love Phillipa
Posted by Racer on September 16, 2006, at 1:29:39
In reply to Re: OK, someone try to explain it to me again?, posted by finelinebob on September 15, 2006, at 21:06:03
> > So, someone explain again -- in words of one syllable or less -- that whole thing about my worth not being tied to my achievements? My value not being measured by what I do?
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> Phkmg.
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> flbI'm sure that, once I've decyphered that, I'll never have to ask this question again....
;-)
Hope you're doing better this weekend, Bob. My own anniversary grief on 11 Sept is my beloved grandmother's death. 8:10 AM, Sunday, 11 Sept. It was bright and shining out there -- and it felt as though my world had ended. Still hits me sometimes, although not as hard anymore. Sometimes, though, I find I'm more depressed leading up to the date, but don't really know why.
And then it'll hit me.
Just, after all these years, it doesn't hit as hard. And mostly, I have more peace about it.
I wish that increased peace for you.
xoxo
Posted by Poet on September 16, 2006, at 11:14:50
In reply to OK, someone try to explain it to me again?, posted by Racer on September 15, 2006, at 15:58:10
High Priestess and Keeper of the Knowledge of Pencils
I'll be happy to explain it to you as soon as someone explains it to me. First session with my T in three weeks and I frustrated her on this same topic. I've been frustrating her on it for four years, I am stubborn and boring. What a combo.
When the tough are out of water, the tough sharpen pencils. Okay that was pathetic, but what do you expect from someone who can't get a job that uses her brain? See paragraph one above.
Poet
Posted by Jost on September 16, 2006, at 12:27:09
In reply to Thank you. Maybe I've got it now... » finelinebob, posted by Racer on September 16, 2006, at 1:29:39
This is a day late, but just in case it happens again:
You can wear a scarf, or a large hat, and possibly sunglasses-- blue lenses work, even at night, I think. People won't notice your hair.
Also, maybe your school has a gym? Showers in gym? go to gym, wash hair, hang out wherever.
Go to supermarket. Buy cheapest bottled water. Wash hair with bottled water.
Then, even if you take a nap, you'll have clean hair.
Jost
Posted by Racer on September 16, 2006, at 13:05:37
In reply to Re: OK, someone try to explain it to me again? » Racer, posted by Poet on September 16, 2006, at 11:14:50
Posted by finelinebob on September 16, 2006, at 21:35:40
In reply to Thank you. Maybe I've got it now... » finelinebob, posted by Racer on September 16, 2006, at 1:29:39
> > > So, someone explain again -- in words of one syllable or less -- that whole thing about my worth not being tied to my achievements? My value not being measured by what I do?
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> > Phkmg.
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> I'm sure that, once I've decyphered that, I'll never have to ask this question again....Pronunciation key: P as in pneumatic; H as in ghost; K as in know; M as the first m in mnemonic; and G as in gnome.
It's a word I invented for a sound that has no word in English, perhaps in any language. A bit of onomatopoeia. Even a famous song about it back in 1965 -- lots of irony in the song, and the ironic thing is that a song could hardly expess it. And by using it here, I think I've actually given you an explanation in the "or less" part of that "one syllable or less" request ... one word, no syllables.
> Hope you're doing better this weekend, Bob. My own anniversary grief on 11 Sept is my beloved grandmother's death. 8:10 AM, Sunday, 11 Sept. It was bright and shining out there -- and it felt as though my world had ended. Still hits me sometimes, although not as hard anymore. Sometimes, though, I find I'm more depressed leading up to the date, but don't really know why.
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> And then it'll hit me.
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> Just, after all these years, it doesn't hit as hard. And mostly, I have more peace about it.
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> I wish that increased peace for you.I can appreciate how you feel ... sounds far too familiar, particularly this year. But yeah, this year was different. Still processing that.
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