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Posted by capricorn on July 26, 2006, at 21:17:54
It's been systematically raped out of existence. All that's left is a facade of hollow bravado behind which lies a decaying dwelling piled high with the rotting corpses of self belief.
Posted by Racer on July 27, 2006, at 1:19:08
In reply to I have none, posted by capricorn on July 26, 2006, at 21:17:54
Honestly, after reading a number of your posts here recently, I find it hard to believe that you hold yourself in no esteem. I believe that you believe that, but I don't believe it's objectively true. I think behind the jelly that's behind the bravado, there's probably a core of Capricorn, and that core probably has some pretty good cohesion.
I don't mean to sound as though I'm dismissing how terrible it feels to feel totally lacking in S-E. But if you come right down to it, don't you recognize the qualities you value in yourself? Your intelligence? Your verbal ability? You may dismiss those as being worthless, but I find it very difficult to believe they don't have worth for you.
All this I'm saying because it's largely what I do. And I kinda punish myself with it -- "sure, I'm smart, but fat lot of good that's done me..." You know? Honestly, when I read this post, my gut took me back to that place in empathy.
Whoops! I'll have to spank myself if I don't get to bed right now. Sorry to type and run, but this is a bad habit I'm trying to break...
Posted by 10derHeart on July 27, 2006, at 9:06:13
In reply to I'm not sure I agree » capricorn, posted by Racer on July 27, 2006, at 1:19:08
>Whoops! I'll have to spank myself if I don't get to bed right now. Sorry to type and run, but this is a bad habit I'm trying to break...<
The staying up too late posting habit, or the spanking yourself habit?
;-)
(sorry, I'm awful, but you just opened that door ......)
Posted by 10derHeart on July 27, 2006, at 9:14:27
In reply to I have none, posted by capricorn on July 26, 2006, at 21:17:54
sorry to use your thread for a little Racer-teasing...hope it's okay...
I also think your writing in your posts and the excellent links you find for us, show some of your fine qualities. Yet, if you think on it like I tend to do, it won't matter much if 100, or 1000, Babblers sincerely agree, not until *you* truly see the positive things and *esteem* them in yourself. <sigh> I know, I view *me* like that some days, too.
Maybe posting about it here will help untangle the twisted mess so many of us have inside when it comes to this? I'm been trying to get up the courage to start a thread, but I guess I'm going through a timid phase....
Hang in there, capricorn.
Posted by Phillipa on July 27, 2006, at 11:58:39
In reply to And capricorn, I agree with Racer » capricorn, posted by 10derHeart on July 27, 2006, at 9:14:27
l0der make it your goal for the day. Love Phillipa
Posted by Declan on July 27, 2006, at 14:18:02
In reply to I have none, posted by capricorn on July 26, 2006, at 21:17:54
The voice in you that speaks with anger and scorn has some oomph, and I would guess that that part of you has some belief in itself, enough to speak out, certainly.
Posted by finelinebob on August 19, 2006, at 23:17:25
In reply to And capricorn, I agree with Racer » capricorn, posted by 10derHeart on July 27, 2006, at 9:14:27
... there ARE things more important than self-esteem.
I don't know you at all, capricorn, but I know you well enough from the respect others have shown you here in this thread that you HAVE those things that are more important than self-esteem. By having those things you have, contrary to your own opinion, earned a great deal of esteem.
It's a simple thing to hate yourself. Choose the right methods, and it can be an easy thing to make others hate you as well. Instead, you've gained the esteem of your peers and friends, and that is most certainly NOT an easy thing to do.
So, are you going to call them all liars? Or are you going to start to learn from them? If you've blinded yourself to your own merits, use the sight of your friends and see yourself through their eyes.
(psssst!! I've tried it myself ... it really does work!)
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