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Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 11:25:28
So much to say, but past experience tells me that it would be unwise to say it.
Maybe this is one board that should be private.
Posted by karen_kay on January 1, 2007, at 11:43:05
In reply to Sigh., posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 11:25:28
if it's going to make you feel better. it's never unwise to say how you're feeling dinah. and don't forget you got a lot of people just dying to know what you're thinking sweetie (me especially!!!)
Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 15:54:32
In reply to say it, posted by karen_kay on January 1, 2007, at 11:43:05
Oh, I posted a bit about it on Social. My husband and son seem to constantly be fighting. And my husband said some things to me privately that frankly shocked and saddened me. And overall I'd love to shove them into couples therapy and not let them out till they agree to a cease fire.
And I'm tense and back in the peacekeeping mode I was in as the daughter of warring parents. I don't like the role.
And I have no hope that things will ever be better.
I should mention that my son and husband are both terrific people, and have great times together when they aren't fighting like my parents.
Posted by Daisym on January 6, 2007, at 18:54:00
In reply to Re: say it » karen_kay, posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 15:54:32
I think this is a huge topic to learn about, Dinah. Fathers and Sons have intense and weird relationships. I clearly remember yelling at my husband (in private) "Why don't you just p*ss in one corner and have him p*ss in another so you've both marked your territory?! Then you can stop snarling at each other." It is painful to watch them negotiate the manhood thing. And it is painful to see their flaws through each of their eyes. I feel so protective, and then angry, and then sad for it all.
I know it isn't "that bad" but I think women just have such different styles of relationship. My son said to me last night, "I'm a momma's boy, aren't I?" I said "yes, but not a weak, pansy kind of guy that is usually meant by that term. You love your mom and that's cool." He wasn't convinced, I don't think.
Posted by Dinah on January 6, 2007, at 21:28:26
In reply to Re: say it » Dinah, posted by Daisym on January 6, 2007, at 18:54:00
That *is* cool. :)
I was hoping to have a bit longer before he started being too grownup to have a mama.
They have so much in common, and yet there's so many ways that they're very different. And each thinks the other could value from being a bit more like him.
This weekend they're back to being pals. There's something about holidays that brings out the worst in everyone, I think.
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