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Posted by Racer on December 19, 2008, at 0:56:32
Recently, a number of people here have posted some very nice, very supportive things to me. I would like to take this opportunity to say thank you.
For those who felt bad that I no longer felt like a poster here, I've found it to be a mixed blessing. It gave me an incentive to find alternate ways of meeting the needs Babble used to meet for me, which I think is good. I also believe in what this site is about, and I believe in the rules, and the deputy system, so I am still part of the community, doing something I believe in, even if I don't come here for support anymore. I consider that a fair deal, and hope no one will feel bad for me about it.
It really meant a lot to me to read some of the nice things said in support of deputies, and in support of me. I think sometimes I see so much of the other side of things, it's easy for me to forget that there are people here who appreciate what the deputies do. Reading that reminder left me with a very warm, comfortable feeling, and I thank everyone who took time to say so.
I won't name names -- even if I tried, I'm sure I'd forget someone, leading to hurt feelings, and that's the last thing I want. All I want is to say, your words left me feeling warm, and cared for.
Thank you very much for taking the time to say something so generous.
Posted by rskontos on December 19, 2008, at 10:11:46
In reply to I'd like to say thank you to many here, posted by Racer on December 19, 2008, at 0:56:32
Racer,
I have missed you too. Your posts are always insightful and helpful at least they have always been to me.
As I see it, and I don't proclaim to be an expert in anything except maybe negative thinking, is that this all started because a fellow Babbler that I think we all have concern for got into trouble at least as many of us saw and a lot of us felt we could not help. Or at the very least did not know how.
And that led to some hurt feelings. I wish there could have been a way to avoid this but I don't know of a way.
I am glad though that out of the ashes in all of this, the information of why you don't post as often emerged.
I thought you were not doing well still and that was why you stayed away.
I am saddened to think it is because of your dual roles conflicting.
Babble is sometimes a complex place I guess.
But most often it has been a place of comfort for me.
I hope you find a way to come here more often as poster.
And if not, maybe it helps knowing you are missed.
rsk
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 19, 2008, at 10:52:34
In reply to Re: I'd like to say thank you to many here » Racer, posted by rskontos on December 19, 2008, at 10:11:46
Racer,
If you ever decide to change your status as a poster, I hope you know that this babbler will welcome you with open clauses. or something.loving your grammar. :)
And happy that you are able to get your electronic support needs fulfilled through other means. It's okay to have needs.
You've helped me lots. You've got an analytical sense to how you see things, and that's helped me gain a lot of perspective when I've been floundering and ambivalent. Thank you for that
open arms, really. I was just kidding about the clauses. 'tis the season.
warm tidings,
and nog,
-Ll
Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2008, at 12:29:27
In reply to I'd like to say thank you to many here, posted by Racer on December 19, 2008, at 0:56:32
I really have appreciated the supportive things that people have said as well, especially since they balanced support for deputies with support for posters. It does mean a lot to me.
I wish you'd feel more free to act as poster too, Racer. It's the board's loss that you don't. I think it happens all too often with those who volunteer. I work really really hard to maintain poster status, because I *do* need that incentive. It's as a poster I grew to love Babble, and continue to love Babble and Babblers. But I know deputies are faced with that dilemma every day. I regret the results.
Posted by elbee1 on December 19, 2008, at 15:17:16
In reply to I'd like to say thank you to many here, posted by Racer on December 19, 2008, at 0:56:32
I miss you Racer! I always get a lot out of your posts. You are so thoughtful. You have a really interesting life and have had a lot of struggles. But, unlike a lot of people, you're really in touch with yourself and your struggles and are working on things a lot.
I really have always enjoyed your posts and followed them.
Thanks for all your posts.
Posted by SLS on December 20, 2008, at 8:39:09
In reply to I'd like to say thank you to many here, posted by Racer on December 19, 2008, at 0:56:32
I agree with the others:
You're pretty cool.
:-)
- Scott
Posted by Racer on December 20, 2008, at 13:03:56
In reply to Re: I'd like to say thank you to many here » Racer, posted by SLS on December 20, 2008, at 8:39:09
Thank you to everyone who's taken the time to post on this thread.
Honestly, I find I don't miss being more of a poster here these days. In fact, as I've found more offline resources, I am grateful to be a deputy here -- because Babble means a lot to me, and being a deputy provides a way for me to remain connected to it. This seems the best of both worlds for me -- I get to be part of something I believe in, even though I may not need the poster role anymore. How great is that?
As for Babble, I've been here so long -- I think my first post was during the very first month this place existed! (I think Scott's was, too, for that matter ;-) ) I've watched it evolve, and its evolution has been fascinating and rewarding for me. What I see now is that it's taken on its own identity -- it has become something pretty amazing.
And do you all know what I think Babble is? It's not something that Dr Bob runs. It's not a collection of online bulletin boards. It's a collection of PEOPLE who POST here. The POSTERS here are what make Babble what it is. When I see posts suggesting Dr Bob shut this place down because he can't be here as often, I feel so very, very sad -- because Babble is not just what Dr Bob made it. Babble is what the people who post here have made it, and its evolution continues in directions we all influence.
I see that as a good thing -- and it's one of the reasons I support the civility guidelines. In my -- admittedly rather eccentric -- view, the guidelines prevent those of us with very strong "personalities" (in quotations because we only get the online personality, the written personality) from steamrolling over those more tentative, more timid, more reserved. The civility standards help keep Babble a dynamic community, with a variety of different perspectives. I've learned a lot here because I was willing to consider the validity of other views than my own. For that matter, as Scott said some time ago, I have learned a very great deal about more effective communication strategies specifically because I've had to consider the posting guidelines here.
I still consider Babble a truly precious community, really almost a miraculous entity. I'm very glad I've had a chance to be part of it, and I am grateful to be a deputy here, because it allows me to remain connected to it -- and to all of you. And by "all of you," I very certainly do include all the posters who disagree with me, as well as though who do.
Peace.
This is the end of the thread.
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