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Posted by so on July 11, 2005, at 12:14:29
There is one thing that has confounded me about this Do Not Post To Me provision since I first understood it to be an option. I recognized it merely as a way to disengage, but later was show evidence that a DNP request implies a person might feel they are being harassed. On the occassions I recall using the request, I intended it only as a way to disengage. It seemed to me that to suggest someone was harassing me could lead them to feel accused.
How is it one can impose a request intended to stop harassment without accusing someone of harassing them? Does it seem to anyone else to invite a potential defacto allegation if the request only implies a perception of harassment? On the other hand, if the request only implies an arbitrary desire to disengage (maybe because one is too busy to reply at length to lengthy posts), it can be used without insinuating any perception at all.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2005, at 15:10:58
In reply to Do not post and harassment, posted by so on July 11, 2005, at 12:14:29
> a DNP request implies a person might feel they are being harassed... It seemed to me that to suggest someone was harassing me could lead them to feel accused.
It's like with I-statements, someone saying they feel harassed is different than accusing someone else of harassing them.
Bob
Posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2005, at 15:10:58
my dnp left me with my mouth open..
i was asked to leave the party..
"i feel" many posts were hurtful to me...being doomed with borderline pd...casual death chats..implications of blame....
i was hurt and left feeling guilty...
can i babble mail a dnp request member and tell them to f*uck off..
i am totally kidding!
j
Posted by Ron Hill on July 11, 2005, at 16:49:18
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
> can i babble mail a dnp request member and tell them to f*uck off..
You're a hoot jyl!
You made me laugh out loud. Thanks!
-- Ron
Posted by AuntieMel on July 11, 2005, at 16:55:57
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
That one got a snort and a half. Thanks.
Posted by Deneb on July 11, 2005, at 19:22:32
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
Can we still be friends? I want to make it up to you. How can I make this up to you? I'm sorry I really don't know what is appropriate to say sometimes. I also know it must seen easy for others, but maybe I'm stupid or something.
I beg you for your forgiveness.
I don't want anyone to feel bad, but somehow I'm made things such that everyone including myself is extremely upset. I'm sorry I don't know how to interact with others in a healthy way. :-(
Please tell me what I can or cannot do...explicitly please.
I still do not entirely "get" it so in the meantime I need very specific rules to make sure I don't upset others again.
A list would be helpful.
Thanks
Deneb
Posted by TamaraJ on July 11, 2005, at 19:44:36
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
> can i babble mail a dnp request member and tell them to f*uck off..
> i am totally kidding!
> j-- I second AuntieMel's snort and a half, and I will add a happy chortle :-)
But, I am sorry that you felt hurt by the DNP, etc. :-(
(((jyl)))
Posted by Deneb on July 11, 2005, at 19:55:16
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 15:37:40
> can i babble mail a dnp request member and tell them to f*uck off..
> i am totally kidding!
> jI don't get the joke. Can someone explain it to me?
(I really don't) :-)
Deneb
Posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 19:58:20
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by Deneb on July 11, 2005, at 19:55:16
i thought i was not allowed to post to you?..
does dr bob allow take-backs? does he larry?
oh my!
deneb...take care of yourself..
j
Posted by Deneb on July 11, 2005, at 20:08:12
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment » Deneb, posted by justyourlaugh on July 11, 2005, at 19:58:20
> i thought i was not allowed to post to you?..
> does dr bob allow take-backs? does he larry?
> oh my!
> deneb...take care of yourself..
> jI was only going to keep the DNP for a little while, until I got some of my sanity back. I didn't want either of us to be more upset. I hope you understand.
Oh jyl...I do love you you know. You are a sweet sweet person. I will try hard to be good and I will remember that I hurt you very much.
Deneb
Posted by so on July 18, 2005, at 13:46:12
In reply to Re: Do not post and harassment, posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2005, at 15:10:58
> > a DNP request implies a person might feel they are being harassed... It seemed to me that to suggest someone was harassing me could lead them to feel accused.
>
> It's like with I-statements, someone saying they feel harassed is different than accusing someone else of harassing them.
>
> BobYou are wrong. Saying one feels harassed is code talk for accusing someone of harrassing them. You actively promote this code talk with your convoluted twisted rules. You are not qualified to administer therapy even to a private individual in a discreet setting. Your perpetration of a so-called therapuetic community on-line is not only a violation of medical laws in states where you are not licensed, it is a part of a program to erode mental health in the United States so that civil unrest and suicide warfare can justify expansion of power by the overlords whose deadly chemical compounds you push as medicine.
You ridicule clients capacity to understand their inner self with the very name of your site -- labeling everything anyone writes here as "babble". You need to find a new job.
You are a child-killer bob. Your current picture reveals the face of a murderer confronted by his own guilt but unrepentant. Quit it.
This is the end of the thread.
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