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Posted by Lou Pilder on July 22, 2002, at 20:55:24
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » OddipusRex, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:49:49
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:57:43
In reply to Dinah---Brilliant, Lou (nm) » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 22, 2002, at 20:55:24
Posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 20:58:01
In reply to Re: Perhaps....., posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:16:48
who has said anything they may later regret?
Posted by OddipusRex on July 22, 2002, at 21:01:06
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » OddipusRex, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:49:49
Well Dinah Jesus wasn't accepted by many when he was here the first time either was he? Personally I answer to a higher authority than Dr bob :-)
Posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 21:01:59
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » OddipusRex, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:49:49
> First of all, see the link Dr. Bob provided. It is by no means clear that Jesus called all Pharisees hypocrites.
The link that Dr. Bob referred to, is not the Bible I was talking about.
>
> Second, there were many instances where Jesus may not have fallen under the guidelines Dr. Bob has established for this board. Were Jesus have said to a fellow poster "You are much like whitewashed tombs, which appear fair outside, but inside are full of dead men's bones and everything foul.", I'm certain he would have received a Please Be Civil. Had he said it more than once he may have received a block. And if anyone on this board were to say that to another poster, explaining that he was quoting Jesus, that person would also get a please be civil. Dr. Bob has certain standards of behavior that he expects on this board. Quoting the bible does not excuse anyone from following them. Jesus would have had many other forums for his message. If he wanted to speak here, he would have to abide by the rules.I did quote the Bible, I was asked to be supportive, but I've not received a PBC post. I think this is getting a little out of hand...
Kiddo
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:05:39
In reply to Re: Hmmm., posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 21:01:59
I was answering Oddipus' post about whether Dr. Bob would issue Jesus a PBC. It had nothing whatsoever to do with you.
I was the one who said long ago that this was out of hand.
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:09:14
In reply to things we may regret..., posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 20:58:01
I imagine everyone, kk. I'm afraid I don't quite understand...
Posted by Phil on July 22, 2002, at 21:12:07
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » OddipusRex, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 20:49:49
"Were Jesus have said to a fellow poster "You are much like whitewashed tombs, which appear fair outside, but inside are full of dead men's bones and everything foul.", I'm certain he would have received a Please Be Civil. Had he said it more than once he may have received a block."
>>I don't know if you meant it to be but that is one funny paragraph.
If Jesus returned today he would be playing a much bigger venue.
Please don't block Jesus if he posts for obvious reasons.
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:13:04
In reply to Re: Hmmm., posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 21:01:59
And darn kiddo. I thought we had an agreement in principle that all Pharisees were not hypocrites.
:(
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:14:18
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » Dinah, posted by Phil on July 22, 2002, at 21:12:07
Posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:16:49
In reply to Re: things we may regret... » krazy kat , posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:09:14
i can't speak for anyone else, but i imagine many folks think about what they post, reread it, and feel comfortable with it. no regrets usually I would imagine. i rarely have regrets. i regret losing my temper. that's about it, because i do reread my posts and try very hard to be reasonable and logical, and to keep my emotions, which may interfere with the clarity, out of the way.
Posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 21:21:51
In reply to Re: Kiddo dear... » kiddo, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:05:39
> I was answering Oddipus' post about whether Dr. Bob would issue Jesus a PBC. It had nothing whatsoever to do with you.
>
> I was the one who said long ago that this was out of hand.I was the one that used the term hypocrites in that post, it looks as if dr. bob pasted some of my comments into the same one.
I think a *lot* of ppl said that a long time ago as well...
Posted by kiddo on July 22, 2002, at 21:24:19
In reply to Re: Hmmm. » kiddo, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:13:04
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:39:12
In reply to i don't know... » Dinah, posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:16:49
> i can't speak for anyone else, but i imagine many folks think about what they post, reread it, and feel comfortable with it. no regrets usually I would imagine. i rarely have regrets. i regret losing my temper. that's about it, because i do reread my posts and try very hard to be reasonable and logical, and to keep my emotions, which may interfere with the clarity, out of the way.
But kk, how can you regret losing your temper if you keep your emotions out of the way? I'm sorry I still don't quite understand.But I would think that most people have a lot of regrets in their lives. I congratulate you on having so few.
Posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:49:05
In reply to Re: i don't know..., posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:39:12
i guess the key word is "try". emotions are key to our humanity, but in certain situations, they are better kept "checked". this board seems to be one of them since it is often when people let loose their emotions that they get pbc'd. i'm talking a range of emotions, not just niceties.
so, here, it is best to be distant and polite and sweet. that's how it's become over the last six months and why i don't fit in very well (i am by nature very polite, but the issues here are close to the heart). so i try to be rational and reasonable with my posts so that i don't regret them. when i loose my temper, i regret it.
i hope that clarifies my thoughts some.
and, in a general sense, if one has many things to regret, then i would hope one would reconsider how they are living their lives. that sounds like either a potentially bad life being lived, or a huge amount of shame that needs to be banished. just my very humble opinion of course, and not directed at anyone in particular.
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:56:59
In reply to i try to keep my emotions out of the way » Dinah, posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:49:05
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> and, in a general sense, if one has many things to regret, then i would hope one would reconsider how they are living their lives. that sounds like either a potentially bad life being lived, or a huge amount of shame that needs to be banished. just my very humble opinion of course, and not directed at anyone in particular.Well, maybe it just suggests that the person has a well developed conscience. Guilt was put in mankind for a purpose, to let us know when we have done something worthy of regret. Of course those of us with OCD have a biochemical problem with the whole anxiety/guilt system. I don't actually consider it a character flaw. After all that's what this site is here for.
Not that I am in any way implying that anyone on this board considers OCD to be a character flaw.
Posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:59:41
In reply to Re: i try to keep my emotions out of the way, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:56:59
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 22:03:53
In reply to shame is very different than guilt (nm) » Dinah, posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 21:59:41
yes it is kk. are you trying to say something?
you're more cryptic than dr. bob.
i believe the topic was regret though.
Posted by tabitha on July 23, 2002, at 0:13:04
In reply to Re: please be civil » Lou Pilder , posted by Dr. Bob on July 22, 2002, at 18:34:52
> (To digress a bit, I think there's some tension between administration and support. I can administrate better if people inform me about questionable posts, but that's inevitably somewhat accusatory.)
You know, that's a good point. I think from now on I'll just trust you to either catch things or not, and keep myself out of it.
-tabitha
Posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 7:48:13
In reply to Re: i try to keep my emotions out of the way, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2002, at 21:56:59
> Guilt was put in mankind for a purpose, to let us know when we have done something worthy of regret.
That's one way to look at it, but what if it's a bad purpose? I bet most therapists will tell you that guilt is actually unhealthy and counterproductive. Guilt is usually imposed on us by others who don't like us or our actions, and it's manipulative. I have rarely felt guilty. When I say something that might have come out wrong, I apologize and explain, but I don't feel guilty or have regrets.
A lack of self-confidence can make one more susceptible to feeling guilty AND to making others feel guilty.
> Well, maybe it just suggests that the person has a well developed conscience.
I would say we do the right thing initially because we have a conscience.
I know lots of people who often feel guilt and often have regrets. I also know a lot who rarely feel guilt and who rarely have regrets. It's just what makes you you. I believe KK when she says she has few. I don't have many either.
beardy
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2002, at 8:10:36
In reply to regrets and guilt » Dinah, posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 7:48:13
Hi Beardy, I was expecting you. :)
I certainly never said I didn't believe KK. And I believe you as well.
Now I do have regrets. I regret being drawn into this discussion. It must make newcomers to the board feel very uncomfortable.
So to elucidate, I was trying to ascertain if KK's pointed references were to my various meltdowns on the board, which I do regret and find embarassing. However, I also am proud of myself for overcoming my embarassment and continuing to try to contribute to the board. I am not again going to explain the relationship of my meltdowns to my OCD. I have done that at least one time too many already. I was rather hoping however, that she was not referring to my meltdowns, as such reminders would not be in keeping with my image of KK. And so I was giving her a chance to explain what she did mean before leaping to conclusions.
I hope that leaves those who have come to the board since my last meltdown feeling less like they are in the presence of those who are speaking in code.
Posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 8:25:51
In reply to Re: regrets and guilt » beardedlady, posted by Dinah on July 23, 2002, at 8:10:36
Dinah:
I wasn't speaking about you at all! It had nothing to do with anyone's meltdowns or disorders or anything else. And I wasn't even implying you didn't believe KK.
My response was about guilt and regrets and how different people deal with them.
Was I really that cryptic?
beardy
P.S. And about those newcomers: What did we say that would make a newcomer uncomfortable? I guess that's where the guilt thing comes in. But people who are uncomfortable with debate or discussion will simply avoid it and post what they like elsewhere, won't they? I don't really understand what you mean.
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2002, at 8:30:30
In reply to But it wasn't about you! » Dinah, posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 8:25:51
KK and I were involved in a long discussion last night in which I tried to get her to explain more clearly what she meant and she continued to make highly pointed statements.
I was hoping it wasn't about me.
I do not intend to explain again. You may believe me to be self centered if you wish. And you are not going to make me angry.
I also stand by my statement about guilt. Healthy guilt is a good thing.
Posted by Mashogr8 on July 23, 2002, at 11:48:30
In reply to But it wasn't about you! » Dinah, posted by beardedlady on July 23, 2002, at 8:25:51
beardedlady,
I think you underestimate the calmness and understanding of newcomers. As a newcomer, I would approach the administration board first. First, because I would want to see how the whole system worked and then again, because reviewing the board becomes a way to see who the "most posting" people are. While the topics here are generally administrative, they definitely veer off topic at least, as I read them. It is difficult to keep track of whom is on one side and to an OUTSIDER, there definitely appears to be sides. For myself, I pretend that it is 1999 and all is calm and all is bright on these boards because I need it to be for my hope and sanity. I've seen it that way in the past. The turmoil used to be our feelings and coping with the world. Now, at times, I feel like a debate club where sometimes facts are overcome by opinions. My gosh, some points are made so many times, I don';t see how you people can keep it straight. To say that we, newcomers, should not read is really difficult. For one, I want to know whether the discussion ends. Is there a winner or does everyone agree to disagree? And two, I personally am compulsed to read everything just in case I miss a clue to eternal happiness :(.
That however, is definitely my issue. I just thought perhaps my thoughts might help you understand why people may feel the current discussion is worrisome to the new guys.
Thanks for listening. I meant no disrespect to anyone. I just wanted to offer my thoughs. And, I just can't decide whether to use whom or who after that preposition of ;).
MA
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 23, 2002, at 12:18:59
In reply to please be civil Dr. Bob, posted by krazy kat on July 22, 2002, at 19:50:55
> Maybe I'm misunderstanding something, Dr Bob.
> It's beginning to get confusing. Are you saying a Christian can't say that Christ is the only way?
> That's central to the religion.
>
> PhilYes, that's what I'm saying. I'm sorry if something central to a religion can't be discussed here, but as I've tried to explain, the *primary* purpose of this site is to provide support.
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> I think it was great of you to set up the faith board. However, you do not like debate here
Thanks. No, I'd rather see support than debate.
> > Christians have come to consider all Pharisees as hypocritical due to the stories in the Gospels, but this is seriously unfair to the majority of Pharisees.
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> That is absolutely, unequivicaobly bashing Christians. It does not even state "SOME Christians. Please acknowledge this.
>
> krazy katGood point, yes, they should've qualified that.
Bob
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