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Posted by judy1 on January 30, 2001, at 11:40:38
Just some thoughts... I am fairly scrupulous in avoiding threads where certain people post whose tone (or sometimes content) is a trigger for me. Being a given that I am hypersensitive, hypervigilant, etc., I wonder how many other people feel the way I do. I have posted on boards for those who self-injure and they often put 'possible trigger' in the subject line. I am sure that I am in a distinct minority in how I react and I'm not suggesting posting a warning, particularly because some people lack the sensitivity to do so. I guess I am just putting out a feeler to see how other people think, and if this is so far off base- please ignore it. Take care all- judy
Posted by Noa on January 30, 2001, at 15:23:13
In reply to avoiding messages, posted by judy1 on January 30, 2001, at 11:40:38
I do that too. Nowadays, I usually operate with the idea that I don't have time to read everything anyway, so why not avoid the threads that are on topics that aren't a priority for me right now, or that might be too long and involved, or that might be controversial if I don't want to get involved in controversy at the moment.
Does this make sense?
Posted by danf on January 30, 2001, at 17:06:33
In reply to avoiding messages, posted by judy1 on January 30, 2001, at 11:40:38
We learn faily early that we get wet when we go out in the rain... so we stop doing it.
too bad that there is often someone with a water hose waiting to squirt even inside...
well, it is warmer today & the lime bushes have the first new blooms of the year.. new limes soon.. a complete & gratuitous change of subject.
Posted by stjames on January 30, 2001, at 19:07:50
In reply to avoiding messages, posted by judy1 on January 30, 2001, at 11:40:38
> Just some thoughts... I am fairly scrupulous in avoiding threads where certain people post whose tone (or sometimes content) is a trigger for me.
James here....
Well said and good point. I feel that I have the right and RESPONSIBILITY to avoid things if they push my buttons. In this conxext, people can only make me mad if I let them; if I get baited into something it is my fault for allowing this to happen. This may be a little strict but I am making a point. Ignore those who sing the same sad song, everytime.
In a normal day I receive ~ 1 meg of e-mail. I long ago learned to set up kill files to delete mail from people I don't want to hear from. I use an extensive filter system so 1 meg is distilled into useful info. Why let a few apples spoil an otherwise excellent list serv ?
James
Posted by Shell on January 30, 2001, at 22:09:43
In reply to Re: avoiding messages, posted by stjames on January 30, 2001, at 19:07:50
I find that I will read most posts, but when a single post contains more than 4 or 5 paragraphs, lots of links, excerpts from articles, etc., I just tune out. It really doesn't have to anything to do with the subject matter; it is more a case of information overload. When I see that much "stuff" in one post, my brain switches to the "off" position (which makes me feel slightly guilty since someone obviously put a lot of time and effort into it).
Shell
Posted by judy1 on January 31, 2001, at 12:51:01
In reply to Re: avoiding messages, posted by Noa on January 30, 2001, at 15:23:13
I think this was my perhaps unsubtle way to suggest to people whose opinions I value and who I see getting upset, to check and make sure they aren't being baited or "triggered" in some way by 1 or 2 posters. We all carry enough pain without anyone deliberately causing more.- judy
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