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Posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
I am a 23 yr ols female. I am engaged, but afraid we will not get married because of my jealousy. I read that SRRI'S help with obsessional behaviors, which I am afraid this has turned into. I know I don't have any reason to be jealous, it has gotten worse since he has given into it. He doesn't go out and is hardly ever away from me except to work. I know this is ridiculous and we plan to get counseling, will the med's help me overcome this?
Posted by SalArmy4me on April 17, 2001, at 16:32:12
In reply to SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
It could be that you have some sort of underlying depression that makes you very needy and totally dependent upon him. But only a doctor could diagnose that.
Posted by avoet on April 17, 2001, at 18:21:54
In reply to SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
> as a fellow 25 year old woman who is jealous, i can sympathize with your obsession. i have the exact same thing as you were describing. i am also engaged and am getting married in june. i have always been told that SSRI's tighten up your sence of self and give you a thicker skin. this may help with your jealousy. it will probably not remove it all together but it may remove some of the anxiety going along with the jealousy. it may be that you are anxious and not jealous - have you ever thought of that? sometimes anxiety masks itself as other things. chew on that!!!!! my anxiety causes all kinds of screwed up things. maybe in the meantime try to tell yourself why you should not be jealous, it has been proven (i was a psychology major) that talking youself out of stuff really works! i am sorry you are struggling but i think medicine is a great idea. do you have a psychiatrist? let me know who it goes okay.
Posted by vlvtelvis on April 18, 2001, at 2:17:08
In reply to SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
Meds can help. Therapy can help. Meds and therapy togather can help more than the sum of the two parts. Since you've recognized this as a problem and are willing to work to overcome it, I think it's fair to say you've got a pretty good chance of making things right. If you believe in the relationship, stick with it! Sometimes you gotta fight to make what's right, but it happens all the time. Good luck.
> I am a 23 yr ols female. I am engaged, but afraid we will not get married because of my jealousy. I read that SRRI'S help with obsessional behaviors, which I am afraid this has turned into. I know I don't have any reason to be jealous, it has gotten worse since he has given into it. He doesn't go out and is hardly ever away from me except to work. I know this is ridiculous and we plan to get counseling, will the med's help me overcome this?
Posted by Amber on April 18, 2001, at 9:40:37
In reply to Re: SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by avoet on April 17, 2001, at 18:21:54
Avoet,I really agree with you that you can talk yourself out of things. It works with everything but this. I always thought that because I was so jealous it made me have anxiety when actully, the anxiety may be causing the jealousy. What have you been doing to make this go away? In previous relationships I have just left the guy when I started to have the obsessive jealous feelings to avoid them altogether, I want to work through it this time. Any advice is welcome. My fiance is totally worling with me. He is going to go out for a couple of hours and call me and if I start to have bad feelings I am going to call him just to talk to him for a minute. I read about OCD being cured by just doing/not doing whatever the person is having issues with. I don't have a psychiatrist, but that is also an option. You can e-mail me if you want, it would be cool to have a pen pal. Amber54547@aol.com
Posted by mila on April 18, 2001, at 13:28:22
In reply to SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
hi Amber,
jealousy is hard to live with but it is quite easy to get rid of. it actually requires just one session of psychotherapy. I happen to have a videotape of a session where a woman is guided through processes that change her feelings of jealousy and establish a sense of self-worth and confidence in her ability to sustain her relationship. I can send you a copy if you'd like to or tell you where to purchase it. Watching it won't change you, but at least it will show you how it is done and what's possible.
mila
Posted by Amber on April 18, 2001, at 14:39:58
In reply to Re: Jealousy, posted by mila on April 18, 2001, at 13:28:22
Mila, that would be great, you can just tell me where to buy it at. I'll have to go check it out. Thanks alot! My e-mail is amber54547@aol.com or just post it here. > hi Amber,
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> jealousy is hard to live with but it is quite easy to get rid of. it actually requires just one session of psychotherapy. I happen to have a videotape of a session where a woman is guided through processes that change her feelings of jealousy and establish a sense of self-worth and confidence in her ability to sustain her relationship. I can send you a copy if you'd like to or tell you where to purchase it. Watching it won't change you, but at least it will show you how it is done and what's possible.
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> mila
Posted by jimmygold70 on April 19, 2001, at 13:53:37
In reply to SRRI'S/Jealousy, posted by Amber on April 17, 2001, at 16:26:58
They will proably do.
> I am a 23 yr ols female. I am engaged, but afraid we will not get married because of my jealousy. I read that SRRI'S help with obsessional behaviors, which I am afraid this has turned into. I know I don't have any reason to be jealous, it has gotten worse since he has given into it. He doesn't go out and is hardly ever away from me except to work. I know this is ridiculous and we plan to get counseling, will the med's help me overcome this?
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