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Posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
I received a phone call today. My psychologist, the only person in this world who truly understood my brain, had a massive stroke and was not expected to live through the day. They called because I had a 4:00 appt with him today.
I will miss him more than anyone can understand.
Posted by Brenda on February 24, 2000, at 21:56:20
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
> I received a phone call today. My psychologist, the only person in this world who truly understood my brain, had a massive stroke and was not expected to live through the day. They called because I had a 4:00 appt with him today.
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> I will miss him more than anyone can understand.Oh my God - I am so sorry. I can't begin to imagine how you feel. How can we help? My thoughts are with you.
Posted by Noa on February 24, 2000, at 22:06:15
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by Brenda on February 24, 2000, at 21:56:20
> Oh my God - I am so sorry.
These words came to my mind, too.
Posted by Cass on February 24, 2000, at 22:14:57
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
I think all of our thoughts are with you, Sef.
Posted by Renee N on February 25, 2000, at 0:28:26
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
Sef, How horrible. If you would feel better by telling us more, we're here. If you'd rather not, we will still be thinking of you... Renee N
Posted by jd on February 25, 2000, at 0:57:35
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by Renee N on February 25, 2000, at 0:28:26
Sef,
With everyone else I'm so sorry to hear your news. I can sympathize--nearly the exact same thing occurred while I was seeing my first therapist (both a psychoanalyst and MD) several years ago. It's only in retrospect that I can fully comprehend how hard it was on me: my natural concern at the time was for him and his family, of course, but it's a very tough thing for a patient to go through as well. The best advice I can give is to allow yourself to grieve over this very real loss, but at the same time to make sure that you take care of yourself and your own state of mind. As bleak as the field may seem sometimes, there definitely ARE other dedicated and understanding doctors out there, and this is only what he would have wanted for you anyhow.Our thoughts are with you,
jd
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> Sef, How horrible. If you would feel better by telling us more, we're here. If you'd rather not, we will still be thinking of you... Renee N
Posted by ChrisK on February 25, 2000, at 7:07:51
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
So sorry to hear this Sef. I assume this was your therapist and will not have an effect on your meds. I know you were looking forward to starting a trial of Naltrexone next week and hope that this will not affect your meds.
Hopefully your pdoc can reccomend a new Psychologist.
Posted by CarolAnn on February 25, 2000, at 8:37:41
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
Sef, I think most of do understand your pain. We all live in a constant state of wishing there were someone who truly understood us. To have someone like that and then lose him is devastating. Probably worse then losing a family member. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Bless you. CarolAnn
Posted by Cindy W on February 25, 2000, at 9:40:43
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by CarolAnn on February 25, 2000, at 8:37:41
> Sef, I think most of do understand your pain. We all live in a constant state of wishing there were someone who truly understood us. To have someone like that and then lose him is devastating. Probably worse then losing a family member. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Bless you. CarolAnn
Sef, I'm so very sorry to hear about your psychologist. My first psychiatrist died of cancer while I was in therapy, and I lost a good friend (psychiatrist) last summer. My thoughts are with you.--Cindy W
Posted by peter on February 25, 2000, at 10:06:53
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
> I received a phone call today. My psychologist, the only person in this world who truly understood my brain, had a massive stroke and was not expected to live through the day. They called because I had a 4:00 appt with him today.
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> I will miss him more than anyone can understand.Sef,
How terrible, but you need to know that you will continue and that your therapist wants you to get through this. Let yourself feel, 'cause with feeling comes the healing. And you're right, we can only imagine the shock, loss, anger, etc. Also know that for every response you see here there are many sympathizers who can't express much more than has been said, and who feel awkward trying. Time and work will help. Sef, if good thoughts help balance the cosmos, know that we're out here pulling for you.
Posted by saka on February 25, 2000, at 10:30:19
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
> I received a phone call today. My psychologist, the only person in this world who truly understood my brain, had a massive stroke and was not expected to live through the day. They called because I had a 4:00 appt with him today.
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> I will miss him more than anyone can understand.Sef, what sad news. I am so sorry--will say prayer
Saka
Posted by Noa on February 25, 2000, at 12:54:45
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by saka on February 25, 2000, at 10:30:19
Will there be a funeral or memorial service you can go to? Do you want to go?
Posted by kelly on February 25, 2000, at 17:44:19
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
> I received a phone call today. My psychologist, the only person in this world who truly understood my brain, had a massive stroke and was not expected to live through the day. They called because I had a 4:00 appt with him today.
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> I will miss him more than anyone can understand.sef,I'm sorry to hear that your pdoc died,I just had my psychiatrist died last month & it was like losing a best friend. I felt back cause i saw him two day before & was joking around about that he finish med school in 1940, I felt that if i didn't remind him of his age he wouldn't of died, but I know that not true. I hope you are ok & if you need to talk were here.
Posted by Noa on February 25, 2000, at 18:51:36
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by kelly on February 25, 2000, at 17:44:19
Hey, Kelly, how are you? I have been thinking about you a lot.
Posted by Sef on February 25, 2000, at 21:11:16
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
Oh my God, I am truly touched by all the responses. Thank you so much. I couldn't type more last night because my eyes were filled with tears and I could't see the key board. I feel like I have to grieve in private, because no one understands (except for you guys).
He was like my best friend...he understood everything and he always knew just the right things to say. When I heard the news I felt like now I am alone...but I am not thanks to you all.
I want to go to his funeral but I don't know if that would be appropriate.
The psy office said they would not abandon me, that they have another therapist I can see who my psychologist was mentoring. That made me glad because I hope his technique will not be lost. He was truly gifted.
At my last appt with him he gave me a book to read "How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything" by Albert Ellis, Ph.D.
I feel like he left me with something to take care of me.Thanks again everyone. If you don't hear from me for a few days...it is because I just need to grieve. I still have my pdoc appt on the 29th for the Naltrexone. I wish I had some now.
Posted by Noa on February 26, 2000, at 3:29:48
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 25, 2000, at 21:11:16
I think it is perfectly appropriate to go to his funeral, at least to the part of it that is public, not just for close family. Just my personal POV.
Posted by sarah on February 26, 2000, at 4:03:19
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
That is a true pisser!! I hope to god that you find another truly educated induvidual you can talk to...
Sarah
Posted by medlib on February 26, 2000, at 10:31:28
In reply to My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 24, 2000, at 21:51:38
I, too, am so sorry about your devastating loss. Hope you decided to go to his funeral..Do you think it might help you to write some of your feelings in a brief note of condolence? If you wanted to, but weren't sure about its reception, you could send it to his office. They could answer or forward it to his family as they thought appropriate. Just a thought.
When my father died suddenly of a massive stroke years ago, my mother was very comforted by the hundreds of people at his funeral, and by the even larger number of notes sent. She said it helped to know what a difference his life had made; she kept every note.
Maybe it will help that you will have something in common with your new therapist--you will both miss a good man.
Wishing the best for you
medlib
Posted by amy on February 26, 2000, at 22:05:49
In reply to Re: My psycholgist died today, posted by Sef on February 25, 2000, at 21:11:16
I am sorry for your loss. The abandonment issues this brings up is the core of the loss. He was not your best friend - afterall, you were paying him. You will find someone to replace him...and perhaps grow more than you ever thought you could. As one who has been to many, there are many good ones and many bad ones. You, luckily know what to look for because you have had a good one.Think of this as a growth opportunity for yourself.
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