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Posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
Hi, Y'all,
I was just wondering if we want to let this board go. If we don't post then it WILL (I believe) be let go.Do we not all mean something to one another? Do we all not care anymore? Well, that is impossible, IMHO.
To me, this board is like a special place where I can come and 'talk' (type) about what's on my mind. My mind that seems to turn against me with relative frequency! And, my illusions/delusions and so forth!
It is a GREAT comfort to me to hear from folks from olden days, no matter what shape or form they are in, but...just to know they are still here, out and about, still kicking, and all that. [Keeping in mind Gracie no longer being with us has a big impact on that...I am sure you're sick of hearing...]
If we feel good...or too bad...it seems we tend to let this place go, and I believe that the history we all have means something. I am feeling bad, and some of you are feeling good (which I am SO happy about!), but I don't want to lose any of you.
OK, I totally understand (being 53 now--3 years past my 'over 50' rule, but don't ask me why!) I can lose anyone at any time, but, in this forum, we don't HAVE to. (ok, I do know that is a dangling participle.) And, I don't want to! (oh, no! another one!)
So many folks here are SO dear to me, and this is the only contact I have with them. Please don't let this get extinct. Or, us, either.
Oh, I should say that the local public access radio station I listen to has been fund-raising, so that may be the Format of this message, but certainly not the significance!!
xoxoxoxo, you Oldies!
Shar
Posted by Phil on April 8, 2005, at 9:13:21
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
Shar, I thought about your post until I was late for work. My theory is that these forums need 'new blood' to survive unless, like the original board, new topics come up because of new meds being introduced or because there are so many unique problems with med combos, etc. Of course, there are always the 10,000 posts on Effexor withdrawal.
I don't know why people burn out or fade away but there seems to be a limited amount of time that people want to stick around. I wish so many of our friends would return but I'd be willing to bet that even this post will only get a few replies. Even that could take weeks.
I've gone back to posting on Social so I can survive here, but I don't know how long that will last.
I compare this board to my small town high school.
Even though those people were my best friends, most of us couldn't wait to get the heck out of town after graduation.
Evidence points to this board fading away. Sad but true. I hope I'm wrong.Your pal,
Phil
Posted by Phil on April 8, 2005, at 9:42:05
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
By the way, I'm starting therapy again at 2 p.m. today. It's been 3 years or more since I've been in therapy. I'm giving this guy 3 hours to 'fix' all my issues. : )
Posted by NikkiT2 on April 8, 2005, at 10:35:42
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
No
And No!
I would hate to see this board die.. and to be totally honest, if this one closed, I think its pretty likely I would stop visiting.
I have my own issues with posting on social, which I know are MY issues, but they're still there..
I don't like the fact I have to double check everything I say incase its taken to Admin though, and so that has pushed me off posting alot of what I normally would..
I guess I just got burnt badly when I was in a really bad state, and thats stopped me from really opening up here anymore..
Plus, I feel guilt for posting on here when it's a "closed community" and it hurts other people that we post in here..
I guess I will always be around here in some shape or form.. posting occasionally to other people.. But I don't tend to come here for "me" anymore.. I haven't found anywhere else to go with the feelings I need to discuss, and maybe its wrong that I now just internalise them.. *shrugs*
Ach, I'm not a happy bunny today (had cortisone injection in my elbow on Tuesday evening and the tendon it was meant to be helping has rebelled against it slightly so I have to type one handed and it feels like someone is standing behind me with a little hammer banging my funny bone.. will get better within a couple of days I know, but its got me down today)..
I think I'm just missing the babble of a few years ago.. Which I *know* wasn't perfect.. but less over whelming than it is these days.
I dunno the answers.. sorry
Nikki x
Posted by Racer on April 8, 2005, at 20:00:30
In reply to Re: Should this board die? Should we?, posted by NikkiT2 on April 8, 2005, at 10:35:42
I gotta admit, I'm still kinda in a cave-dwelling phase. But I'd be very upset to lose this little getaway where I can come to touch base with all here.
Unlike Nikki, though, I don't feel guilty at all for posting here where others can't -- we've earned the right because we've been here longer. I liken it to one of those quiet rooms for grown ups at family parties, you know?
And in case anyone wonders, I'm still trying to write my complaints. It's hard without someone wielding a cattleprod near my buttocks, but it's coming along...
Posted by Shar on April 9, 2005, at 1:09:11
In reply to Re: Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Racer on April 8, 2005, at 20:00:30
Wow, those are very interesting concepts that have been expressed! And, I'm SO happy to see everyone!
Phil, I'm sorry you were late for work! But, really, I have little sympathy since you're going to be 'fixed' with your new therapy session! Plus, we really can't get 'new blood' here, unless we can tap into that space-time dimension where people who were not here in 2000 ARE here now. BTW....You simply must let us know if you got 'fixed.' NO...not in THAT way!!
Nik, I am SO sorry you feel guilt about posting in a closed community. IMHO, all the boards are closed in a way. In other words, if you want to post on faith, it has to be faith-related, and on grief, it has to be grief-related. So, although, those boards are not closed on the basis of time, they are closed in other ways. And, I guess I don't understand how others are hurt by our touching base with each other....if someone (not an oldie) sees something here they want to discuss, they are free to do so on Social or a myriad of other boards, so it's not like a secret society.
However, Nik, I totally accept that you feel that way and honor that. I'd just so love to see you 'guilt-free.'
Racer, I love the idea of touching base with oldies. I don't know what we've earned (except maybe having dealt with this longer than some others), but, the important thing to me is the contact, exchange of info, and being able to talk about things without having to give a whole 'history' like you have to with a new PDoc (sheesh...is that exhausting or what??). It is a great relief to me to be able to talk to folks who 'know' me.
Oh, well. That is just my take on things. And, I don't want to see 2000 end, so I'd like us to do at least a minimal amount of posting (I don't know how much) to keep it going. And if we do, we have the pleasure of hearing from folks 'who knew us then.'
To all of you, my great thanks for your (as usual) unique replies.
xoxoxoxo,
Yer ever lovin' ...
Shar
Posted by allisonm on April 9, 2005, at 19:34:35
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
I think a little part of me would die if this board dies. I don't participate on the other boards at all anymore.
The questions are always the same on the original board...does Remeron cause weight gain???? I remember when I was taking Rem and no one knew much about it. LOL.
The other boards don't feel safe to me anymore. The community has grown too large. I don't see the old names anymore. I don't want to be attacked. I don't want to have to repeat my story 30 more times.
I feel safe and comfortable checking in here to see how ya'll are doing, even if I don't post. I love to see your names because it proves to me that there are others out there who are hanging on. Most of the time I don't feel what's going on with me is worth posting, because it's usually the same ol' s---. Up, down, up, down, bed of roses, bed of thorns. You all know how it works, I know from reading your posts all of these years. I don't want to bother or bore you. But I do depend on seeing what's going on with you.
I don't want this board to expire.
alli
Posted by coral on April 10, 2005, at 4:40:01
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
No,no, no.
Only my WH, therapist and the people here know what I went through. I cannot imagine starting over.
The people here mean a lot to me and I don't want to lose contact.
So, no, no, no!!!!
Coral
Posted by Abby on May 31, 2005, at 22:46:07
In reply to Y'all are so cool !, posted by Shar on April 9, 2005, at 1:09:11
I've been gone for a good long while. For a while it was because I had everything together, and I felt like I needed to work on real-world stuff. Then cause I was struggling.
I wish that there were groups for other years too, like college classes, because sometimes you want to talk about things that don't fit in a category.
How you deal with your doctor's approach could be about a specific med or it could be a social support issue. And, I need some help right now. Would anyone mind helping me with some referral stuff?
And has anyone seen this site?
Posted by shar on June 6, 2005, at 22:31:34
In reply to Re: Y'all are so cool !/ gosh I hope not, posted by Abby on May 31, 2005, at 22:46:07
So sorry! Not familiar with that site. I'm just an oldie! But, if you have a question about a particular issue, please don't hesitate to ask!
Shar
Posted by kath on July 13, 2005, at 10:23:59
In reply to Re: Should this board die? Should we?, posted by allisonm on April 9, 2005, at 19:34:35
Jeez - I'm here so SELDOM that I don't even feel like I should comment,
BUT - I sure hope it doesn't die!!! I just come back every once in a while & it sure feels good to see the old names.
I truly care about you guys & will try to come more often to do my part.
Kath
Posted by afatchic on December 3, 2005, at 22:33:34
In reply to Should this board die? Should we?, posted by Shar on April 8, 2005, at 1:55:53
I am hoping that our benevolent leader, Dr. Bob, will not euthanize us. Just knowing that this portion of the board exists gives me great comfort.
I love doing a search and looking at all the messages I've posted over the years. The best part was when I was contemplating taking a new med. I thought about one med that I'd tried a couple years before but didn't stay on it very long. I couldn't remember anything about the drug or why I quit taking it. I did a search of my posts from that period and (you're going to love this part) I discovered that I had to stop taking the medication because it caused severe memory problems! Priceless.
Namaste
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2005, at 14:32:27
In reply to Re: Should this board die? Should we?, posted by afatchic on December 3, 2005, at 22:33:34
Posted by finelinebob on August 14, 2006, at 20:52:10
In reply to Re: Should this board die? Should we? » Shar, posted by Phil on April 8, 2005, at 9:13:21
Maybe new wine in old bottles. Let some newbies log in as old f*rts.
Hiya folks, btw.
A lot of harmony here, so I'll repeat it anyway: this place is a comfortable, safe spot. Especially for old fogies like me coming back from a long absence.
This is the end of the thread.
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