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Posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
I sometimes find myself thinking strange thoughts sometimes. Working as a cashier now during the summer, I see a lot of people wearing tank tops etc. I see girls with really big boobs and lots of cleavage and I cannot help but stare sometimes. I feel like I want to touch them. I have very small breasts and no cleavage. My breasts look like small cones instead of domes. I wonder what it would feel like to have big bouncing full breasts? I'm serious about the touching thing too...I'm seriously curious!
I sometimes admire the female body and find myself staring at beautiful women. I'm pretty sure I'm not gay though. I never get aroused or anything. Then again I don't get aroused when looking at men either!
Anyways, is this normal? Is it normal to not particularly like men or women?
Deneb
Posted by Susan47 on July 1, 2005, at 12:28:30
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
That was honest. I used to do and feel the same thing myself, isn't that weird? And I'm a lot older and a grown woman.. hah. I think it's just a bit of natural bisexuality poking through, nothing to worry about. Maybe try having an affair with a woman, maybe it'll get you over it.. it doesn't have to mean you're lesbian or staying that way or anything. Women with women is becoming more and more overt and I like it. I watched a couple of girls at the beach last week, openly being affectionate and fondling but not to the point of being lewd. It was lovely to watch, how they were just natural with each other's bodies.
You're allowed to feel this way, don't feel funny about it. Although if the women catch you looking at them that way, some of them will feel hostile about it.. which doesn't make sense, because dressing down in a tank top and having your breasts jiggling and bouncing for anyone to see just naturally invites looking, doesn't it. I wouldn't worry about your feelings. I'll bet your own boobs will develop more as you become more loving towards your own body. Mine did. But then, I started eating more and gaining weight all 'round .. are you eating enough? Loving your body enough?
Posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:53:30
In reply to Re: Boobs :-P, posted by Susan47 on July 1, 2005, at 12:28:30
> I watched a couple of girls at the beach last week, openly being affectionate and fondling but not to the point of being lewd. It was lovely to watch, how they were just natural with each other's bodies.
I agree that it is lovely. I saw a poster once of a photograph of two beautiful young women kissing in bed. It is called "Girls Kiss" by Tanya Chalkin.
I even thought of buying it, it was so nice to look at, but I didn't want the controversy it was sure to bring.
> Although if the women catch you looking at them that way, some of them will feel hostile about it.. which doesn't make sense, because dressing down in a tank top and having your breasts jiggling and bouncing for anyone to see just naturally invites looking, doesn't it.
I wonder why more people don't take it as a compliment?
> I wouldn't worry about your feelings. I'll bet your own boobs will develop more as you become more loving towards your own body. Mine did. But then, I started eating more and gaining weight all 'round .. are you eating enough? Loving your body enough?
I don't think my breast are going to develop anymore. I'm 23 and through with growing. I'm not thin, I just have small boobs. I suppose it is possible to have bigger boobs by gaining weight, but I don't want to be unhealthy. I kind of like my small boobs though. I'm just curious about big ones 'cause I've never felt them before.
I'm not sure how loving my body more will change things. Could you explain?
Deneb : )
Posted by Susan47 on July 1, 2005, at 13:08:03
In reply to Re: Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:53:30
I read something once that made a lot of sense to me. Actually I've heard instances where women really have changed their breasts with thought. I know it sounds weird but I have this theory, and to some extent I feel like it applied to me as well, but the change was gradual and I really don't know how much I want things to change anyway. Theory is that if you've been abused physically and or emotionally as a child, your body's hormones get out of whack from the stress. And you can actually go into a kind of stasis for many years. Not fully developing the way you were originally programmed to do, because of the stress.
Stress is relieved, you continue to develop.
So, one way of relieving stress is to learn to love yourself, inside and out. And physical changes happen, good ones. That's what I meant. :)
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on July 1, 2005, at 16:52:03
But I'll answer anyway. ;) I'm a busty girl and I am always envious of girls who are flat b/c they can wear little tank tops without looking like they are putting it all out there, you know?
It is so hard to love the bodies that we have.
Best,
EE
Posted by gabbii on July 1, 2005, at 17:12:34
In reply to This subject line makes me blush..., posted by Emily Elizabeth on July 1, 2005, at 16:52:03
> But I'll answer anyway. ;) I'm a busty girl and I am always envious of girls who are flat b/c they can wear little tank tops without looking like they are putting it all out there, you know?
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Yep, me too! And little summer dresses..
And besides...I know this wasn't written about breasts but "The bigger they are, the harder they fall"
Posted by ed_uk on July 1, 2005, at 18:28:56
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
>I see girls with really big boobs and lots of cleavage and I cannot help but stare sometimes.
Don't worry about it.......I sometimes look at boobs myself.......and I'm gay.
~Ed
Posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 18:52:47
In reply to Re: Boobs :-P, posted by Susan47 on July 1, 2005, at 13:08:03
> Theory is that if you've been abused physically and or emotionally as a child, your body's hormones get out of whack from the stress.
I was never abused as a child...just super anxious and very wierd...self-made stress.
>And you can actually go into a kind of stasis for many years. Not fully developing the way you were originally programmed to do, because of the stress.
Is this also why I'm so short? :-)
> And physical changes happen, good ones. That's what I meant. :)
Cool, but I'm ok with my breasts. I like them small. I wish they could change in size according to fashion though. :-P
Deneb
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on July 1, 2005, at 21:11:35
In reply to Re: This subject line makes me blush... » Emily Elizabeth, posted by gabbii on July 1, 2005, at 17:12:34
Posted by Jazzed on July 1, 2005, at 21:15:21
In reply to Re: Boobs :-P » Deneb, posted by ed_uk on July 1, 2005, at 18:28:56
> >I see girls with really big boobs and lots of cleavage and I cannot help but stare sometimes.
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> Don't worry about it.......I sometimes look at boobs myself.......and I'm gay.
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> ~EdLOL, you're too funny Ed!
Jazzy
Posted by Jazzed on July 1, 2005, at 21:23:11
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
> I feel like I want to touch them. I wonder what it would feel like to have big bouncing full breasts? I'm serious about the touching thing too...I'm seriously curious!
You're curious, that's okay. It's just the way you feel, nothing wrong with that. It's not hurting anyone to look.
I have big boobs Deneb, and trust me, they can be wonderful, my husband is a boob man, he LOVES them, and that's nice, but they can be a pain too. My golf swing sucks! LOL Mine came from having 4 kids and nursing 3 of them.
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> I sometimes admire the female body and find myself staring at beautiful women. I'm pretty sure I'm not gay though. I never get aroused or anything. Then again I don't get aroused when looking at men either!I look at women and men. Women more for comparison, and men more for looks and wondering what they're like. I think it's natural to be curious. There are so many different body types out there!
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> Anyways, is this normal? Is it normal to not particularly like men or women?What IS normal? This was an interesting thread deneb. I wouldn't worry about whether or not you're normal, you sound wonderful, sweet, and caring to me! I just wish you didn't have to work for your uncle!
Jazzy
Posted by Jazzed on July 1, 2005, at 21:24:01
In reply to Re: This subject line makes me blush... » Emily Elizabeth, posted by gabbii on July 1, 2005, at 17:12:34
I know this wasn't written about breasts but "The bigger they are, the harder they fall"
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OMGosh, ain't that the truth! LOL
Posted by Jen Star on July 1, 2005, at 23:18:46
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
hi Deneb,
I think you're perfectly normal and you shouldn't worry about it!I think the human body is beautiful, and there should be nothing shameful or furtive about admiring the beauty of another person, be that person male or female. (Assuming you don't make that person uncomfortable with aggressive leering, which you are not doing!)
Think about this: Males and females alike love to watch Olympics, gymnastics, figure skating, ballet, modern dance, theatre, athletes, etc. Women love to admire women athletes as much as men athletes, and v.v. And it's considered "ok" to admire a famous person or love to watch dance, so why not OK to admire a "regular" person or think they are lovely?
Also keep in mind that many clothes are designed to draw the eye to the breasts and cleavage. It's hard not to look, even if you're not desiring that woman! I too find myself staring sometimes at a woman's body b/c her clothes are revealing or b/c she's beautiful. But I'm happinly married to a guy and don't feel physical sexual attraction to other women. Yet I do still love to look at lovely bodies regardless of whether they are male or female.
About touching - maybe it's just the desire to see what it's like to be another person. I think we're all curious about what we're not and what we don't have.
Of course, if you were gay that would be totally cool and OK and normal and accepted too. But it doesn't mean you are, just because you like to look at beautiful girls. :)
JenStar
Posted by Jakeman on July 2, 2005, at 0:56:06
In reply to This subject line makes me blush..., posted by Emily Elizabeth on July 1, 2005, at 16:52:03
> But I'll answer anyway. ;) I'm a busty girl and I am always envious of girls who are flat b/c
Hope you don't mind me buttin in..but it's a myth that guys want big busts. surely there's some researh out there..;-)
~Jake
Posted by Jakeman on July 2, 2005, at 0:58:47
In reply to Re: This subject line makes me blush..., posted by Jakeman on July 2, 2005, at 0:56:06
> > But I'll answer anyway. ;) I'm a busty girl and I am always envious of girls who are flat b/c
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> ~JakeEscuse me I spoke too soon. Some of yall say flat is better. Nevermind. We're all good.
~J
Posted by ed_uk on July 2, 2005, at 7:21:08
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
Small boobs = pert boobs?!
~Ed
Posted by GreySkyEyes on July 2, 2005, at 23:03:20
In reply to Boobs :-P, posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 12:09:58
Boobs come in 2 sizes: too big, and too small.
~gse
Posted by gabbii on July 3, 2005, at 13:24:53
In reply to Re: This subject line makes me blush... » gabbii, posted by Jazzed on July 1, 2005, at 21:24:01
> I know this wasn't written about breasts but "The bigger they are, the harder they fall"
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I know, and it's not nice!It's bad enough that I feel like Helga the Beer Frau whenever I try on a pretty little summer dress, but now I have to deal with gravity too!
Posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 16:38:51
In reply to Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » Jazzed, posted by gabbii on July 3, 2005, at 13:24:53
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>Okay, that's it breast reduction and breast lift later this year!!! Seriously!
Jazzy
Posted by gabbii on July 3, 2005, at 17:15:30
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » gabbii, posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 16:38:51
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> JazzyDo you think you, and Emily and I could get a group discount?
Posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 18:00:00
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » Jazzed, posted by gabbii on July 3, 2005, at 17:15:30
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> Do you think you, and Emily and I could get a group discount?I don't know, but I'm serious, I already have an appt to see a plastic surgeon in Sept., so if you want to join me in my pain, let's go! LOL Have you ever seen HOW they do the surgery? You have to want it really badly to do it. Yikes!
I like my boobs, just wish they were a teeny bit smaller, maybe 2 cups sizes? And, the gravity thing - that's just a bad joke on women! Oh, and what the heck is up with the nursing? So ya give the kid your right one just a little more often, and they're never even ever again! Geeze! What's up with that?! It all kinda sucks ... get it, sucks? LOLJazzy
Posted by TamaraJ on July 3, 2005, at 18:14:34
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » Jazzed, posted by gabbii on July 3, 2005, at 17:15:30
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Hey, count me in for the group discount, please.
Posted by TamaraJ on July 3, 2005, at 18:23:56
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » gabbii, posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 18:00:00
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> I like my boobs, just wish they were a teeny bit smaller, maybe 2 cups sizes? And, the gravity thing - that's just a bad joke on women! Oh, and what the heck is up with the nursing? So ya give the kid your right one just a little more often, and they're never even ever again! Geeze! What's up with that?! It all kinda sucks ... get it, sucks? LOL
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A friend of mine had it done last year (no reduction, but a lift). She said it was a bit painful after the surgery, but it was worth it. Another woman I work with had a reduction, mostly because she was starting to have back problems. Me, I figure I've lived with them big for this long, I can put up with them a while longer LOL. But, yeah, I do envy those who have perky ones and can wear skimpy shirts and stuff.Tamara
Posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 18:49:30
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » Jazzed, posted by TamaraJ on July 3, 2005, at 18:23:56
> A friend of mine had it done last year (no reduction, but a lift). She said it was a bit painful after the surgery, but it was worth it. Another woman I work with had a reduction, mostly because she was starting to have back problems. Me, I figure I've lived with them big for this long, I can put up with them a while longer LOL. But, yeah, I do envy those who have perky ones and can wear skimpy shirts and stuff.
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> TamaraI figure if I get a lift, I better get them reduced a bit, or I'll be in the same boat some years from now. I also run, so I worry about how long it will take me to get back to that activity. I hope the recovery time isn't bad.
Jazzy
Posted by Phillipa on July 3, 2005, at 19:51:15
In reply to Re: Thissubject line makes me blush...Emily Elizabeth » TamaraJ, posted by Jazzed on July 3, 2005, at 18:49:30
I have to laugh! When my husband and I look at girl's and women's boobs we wonder if they are real or natural. With boob jobs so popular you never know. But when someone is lying on the beach and they stick straight up in the air they're fake no doubt. I also see really skinny women bend over to tend to a child and they look really fake, I mean really fake. Hear a lot of teens are getting boob jobs for graduation. That's sick. The real thing reguardless of size is what's best. Who wants to squeeze a fake hard boob. Now if they are really large and causing back problems that's a reason to get reduction. My husband's twin is huge with back problems. She definitely needs them reduced. She's a double D. As far as pleasing a man is concerned I don't think many of them really care. Most men unless they're boob men don't care about size. If you want to satisfy yourself with how you look that's another issue, but I've felt them in the plastic surgeon's office and they look and feel like I don't know rubber? silicone? Fondly, Phillipa
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