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Posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 20:28:06
In reply to Re: Oh good heavens! » Fallen4myT, posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 20:19:09
Dinah thank you..I think I fixed it so please dont regret helping me out :) I just get lost in these fuzzy areas
Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 20:48:58
In reply to Civility, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 12:50:51
Ok, my concern was that these statements were going to earn you a block, since Dr. Bob had already warned you to be civil.
> Clearly SHE has issues she needs to work out as my T said..
Even if your therapist said it, it's against the civility guidelines to "jump to conclusions about others".
> after I emailed him her nasty post which was that he felt she was insensitve and well its all on that thread.
That first part of that statement would be fine if you leave out the "nasty". I'm not sure about the word "insensitive", since Dr. Bob has blocked people for quoting even on board statements before.
> I spoke from experience MINE on what my T said about her inflammarory post. I am confused.
Again, if you left out the word "inflammatory" that statement would be fine.
Since you asked for clarification of my original post...
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 20:54:29
In reply to Re: Civility, posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 20:48:58
Dinah thank you I get it yet to be honest don't but at this point I think I did all I can. I wrote a sorry post and changed it a bit. I am lost and will watch my words but the post was insensitive the poster has since agreed so I am lost there but will watch it ..So, what else do you think I should do? And really thanks :) Youre very sweet to waste your time on my issues with writing
HUGS
Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 21:05:02
In reply to Re: Civility » Dinah, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 20:54:29
Well, the problem is, that the guidelines still don't allow you to say that someone's post was insensitive, even if the other person has agreed that it was insensitive. Someone once got blocked for doing *exactly* that. So the third sentence in the below post would be in accordance with the civility guidelines if you ended it with "watch my words". Or at least that's my take on it. I could be wrong, and I'm going to let Dr. Bob sort it all out. I must be too tired to be explaining properly. And overall, I think I may do more harm than good when I try to give a heads up. :( So I'm going to get out of the warning business.
> Dinah thank you I get it yet to be honest don't but at this point I think I did all I can. I wrote a sorry post and changed it a bit. I am lost and will watch my words but the post was insensitive the poster has since agreed so I am lost there but will watch it ..So, what else do you think I should do? And really thanks :) Youre very sweet to waste your time on my issues with writing
>
> HUGS
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 21:19:35
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 21:05:02
Dinah please don't give up helping and warning people cause of me, I am just stupid and I am sure anyone else would get it. Being it is the same post he told me to be civil on I don't know why he would go back to it (?) and the same word he posted on me to be civil on but I did say sorry and thats really all I know how to do. Anyhow, thank you and do not give up you will reach others some people like me are too dense :(
Sorry :(
{{{ Dinah }}}
Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 21:24:13
In reply to Re: Civility » Dinah, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 21:19:35
I'm certainly not saying that. I just think that my warning started a firestorm and it would probably be wiser in the future to say nothing.
Posted by gabbix2 on March 6, 2004, at 21:26:23
In reply to Re: Civility » Dinah, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 21:19:35
hey hey hey...
I don't know how long you've been aroung babble
but please don't be so hard on yourself. If you look at the past admin threads you'll see how many people have been baffled by the "I" statement rules.
I think it's the biggest ongoing subject on this board
SO many people get tripped up by it and they aren't dense or even Uncivil in the true sense of the word most of the time IMO.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 21:29:02
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by Dinah on March 6, 2004, at 21:24:13
I know YOU'RE not saying that...I AM AND DID...I really am kinda stupid...that is really all. You were JUST NICE and helpful...nothing wrong with that. Like I said before I said I am sorry on the thread. That is really all I know to do.
HUGS AND THANKS AGAIN
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 21:31:45
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by gabbix2 on March 6, 2004, at 21:26:23
Thanks Gabbix2, I am just sitting here just NOT knowing what else I can/could do :( Thats sweet of you to say and thanks I just can't seem to do much right is all. But your very kind and thank you :)
HUGS
Posted by shar on March 7, 2004, at 0:24:16
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by gabbix2 on March 6, 2004, at 21:26:23
Oh, Gab, I do, indeed, like your style. You remind me of me...in my younger days, of course. Your points are good, accurate, and well thought out. I hope you never leave PB. What a loss that would be!
xoxo
Shar> hey hey hey...
> I don't know how long you've been aroung babble
> but please don't be so hard on yourself. If you look at the past admin threads you'll see how many people have been baffled by the "I" statement rules.
> I think it's the biggest ongoing subject on this board
> SO many people get tripped up by it and they aren't dense or even Uncivil in the true sense of the word most of the time IMO.
>
>
Posted by terrics on March 7, 2004, at 11:41:04
In reply to Re: Civility » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 16:10:41
Please think before you go. It is nice here except for an occasional trouble maker, and you are contributing alot.
Also thanks for looking for an SI site for me as SI has become a big problem. terrics
Posted by gardenergirl on March 7, 2004, at 13:54:12
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by terrics on March 7, 2004, at 11:41:04
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 18:53:37
In reply to I would miss you, Fallen! Please stay (nm), posted by gardenergirl on March 7, 2004, at 13:54:12
Thank you GG, SHAR AND TERRIC...It may not be in my hands we shall see and IF I go or have to I will really miss all of you youre all so sweet and funny :-)
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 7, 2004, at 20:09:38
In reply to Civility, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 12:50:51
> I am confused. I posted what is MY experience with my therapist
Sorry, it sure can get confusing here sometimes. The idea is not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down -- even if you're quoting someone else:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Even though that was your experience with your therapist, it could've led Apperceptor to feel accused or put down, so I considered it uncivil.
Regarding I-statements, see Dinah's post:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040112/msgs/320097.html
In short, as an example, turning "Dr. Bob has gone overboard" into "I feel Dr. Bob has gone overboard" doesn't make it into a real I-statement.
Does that makes more sense?
Bob
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 20:20:27
In reply to Re: Civility » Fallen4myT, posted by Dr. Bob on March 7, 2004, at 20:09:38
Thanks Dr. Bob I *think* I got it. To be very honest it's such a fine and gray line for ME to GET. I think i will just be very vague or something to be safe :D. Again I really am sorry I messed up. Won't happen again
HUGS
>>In short, as an example, turning "Dr. Bob has gone overboard" into "I feel Dr. Bob has gone overboard" doesn't make it into a real I-statement.
Does that makes more sense?
Bob >>
Posted by crushedout on March 8, 2004, at 20:14:49
In reply to Re: Civility » Elle2021, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 14:21:31
Posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 21:43:45
In reply to no fallen please don't leave i need you! (nm) » Fallen4myT, posted by crushedout on March 8, 2004, at 20:14:49
Posted by crushedout on March 8, 2004, at 21:46:58
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh..... (nm), posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 21:43:45
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 8, 2004, at 22:00:25
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh..... (nm), posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 21:43:45
Phil, you hot ticket are you back????WOW.
I think you might be.
How exciting life is!
I would freeze for you anytime.
You are too cool.
I am so pleased your back.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:09:08
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh....., posted by Jai Narayan on March 8, 2004, at 22:00:25
Posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:34
In reply to huh? can someone please explain the joke to me? (nm) » Phil, posted by crushedout on March 8, 2004, at 21:46:58
crushedout: I spent the last few hours going thru the archives and once again realized how many good people have gone...it hurts.
In fact, I wasn't joking...I wish I never had to see another good person leave here. It was my twisted way of saying that I'm with you.
I tend to joke when what I mean to say is,'please, don't go..it hurts to see you leave.'
I decided not to leave till they yell 'last call'. All of us here, in my humble opinion, need one another more than we know.
I wasn't looking to diminish your post but, looking back, I could have used a little better judgement. I apologize.Phil
Posted by Jai Narayan on March 8, 2004, at 22:31:03
In reply to Re: huh? » crushedout, posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:34
> I decided not to leave till they yell 'last call'. All of us here, in my humble opinion, need one another more than we know.
*Is that for real?
I, for one, am glad to see you back.
I have missed your sense of humor.
WELCOME BACK!
And I'm not kidding.
Posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 22:33:45
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh....., posted by Jai Narayan on March 8, 2004, at 22:00:25
Jai Narayan, You are way nice and I can use all of that nice I can get. Thanks for the welcome home.
I went back through the archives and saw that I have threatened to leave 66,000 times. I rode my pony, Trots, around the pasture and there just weren't any other watering holes so, face the music, y'all are stuck with me.
Hey!?? Where's everyone going? Wait up!!Thanks for the kindness, Jai. It means a lot to me to be able to participate here. It isn't perfect but what is?
If anyone left kind of on my behalf, I hope they come back. Please...I'll stop shooting spitwads.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:50:27
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh..... » Jai Narayan, posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 22:33:45
Phil you sound so fun and funny come on over to the psych boards I can see you'll make me lol a lot ...
Posted by Phil on March 8, 2004, at 23:00:09
In reply to Re: Everybody freeze, don't move. Ahhhh..... » Phil, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:50:27
Fallen4myT,
Last time I tried, I got lost on campus...is it left after Writing or right after Faith? This board is huge now. Dr. Bob has funding to build a Loop around this sucker. I'm the dumptruck guy.
You ever work w/ asphalt?Phil(DumpedBYmyT)
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