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Posted by Maxime on August 21, 2010, at 18:00:19
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by morgan miller on August 20, 2010, at 21:24:45
Yes, I will earn enough money to pay for gas. However, I need to look at how much I will be making a month (it will vary from week to week based on the scheduling). If I am earning the same as on Welfare ... well, I am better off staying on Welfare and trying to find a more suitable job.
Posted by morgan miller on August 21, 2010, at 23:48:04
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre » morgan miller, posted by Maxime on August 21, 2010, at 18:00:19
> Yes, I will earn enough money to pay for gas. However, I need to look at how much I will be making a month (it will vary from week to week based on the scheduling). If I am earning the same as on Welfare ... well, I am better off staying on Welfare and trying to find a more suitable job.
>
I hear ya..Well I wish you the best of luck whatever you do. Hope you feel better soon. Hang in there.Morgan
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 22, 2010, at 15:51:34
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre » morgan miller, posted by Maxime on August 21, 2010, at 18:00:19
> Yes, I will earn enough money to pay for gas. However, I need to look at how much I will be making a month (it will vary from week to week based on the scheduling). If I am earning the same as on Welfare ... well, I am better off staying on Welfare and trying to find a more suitable job.
I dunno Maxie, even if the pay is bad, you could still benefit from the job. You would meet new people, do new things. If you like the shop, you might really enjoy it after a while.
Posted by Maxime on August 22, 2010, at 21:07:52
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 22, 2010, at 15:51:34
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> I dunno Maxie, even if the pay is bad, you could still benefit from the job. You would meet new people, do new things. If you like the shop, you might really enjoy it after a while.
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>I agree with you Ed. But I can't earn less than I make on Welfare because it's already very little money.
I do a lot of volunteer work so I do interact with people.
I feel so sad right now.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 14:07:02
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre » ed_uk2010, posted by Maxime on August 22, 2010, at 21:07:52
What hours would you be doing Maxie?
I think you need a hug right now.
Ed x
Posted by Maxime on August 23, 2010, at 14:27:39
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre » Maxime, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 14:07:02
> What hours would you be doing Maxie?
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> I think you need a hug right now.
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> Ed xI don't know. Would have to talk to the manager. I am feeling really sad about it all and that once again, I am a failure. :(
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 15:00:03
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by Maxime on August 23, 2010, at 14:27:39
>I am a failure. :(
Not if you go and get the job. That's a success!
Now Maxie, you need to arrange to do enough hours to make the job financially worthwhile. Perhaps you could talk the manager tomorrow? You did say you liked the shop.
Posted by Maxime on August 23, 2010, at 15:53:03
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 15:00:03
> >I am a failure. :(
>
> Not if you go and get the job. That's a success!
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> Now Maxie, you need to arrange to do enough hours to make the job financially worthwhile. Perhaps you could talk the manager tomorrow? You did say you liked the shop.
>My manager is on vacation and there is no assistant manager. But the manager will return this week and I will talk to her.
Thanks Ed.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 17:17:56
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by Maxime on August 23, 2010, at 15:53:03
> > >I am a failure. :(
> >
> > Not if you go and get the job. That's a success!
> >
> > Now Maxie, you need to arrange to do enough hours to make the job financially worthwhile. Perhaps you could talk the manager tomorrow? You did say you liked the shop.
> >
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> My manager is on vacation and there is no assistant manager. But the manager will return this week and I will talk to her.
>
> Thanks Ed.
>Excellent xx
Posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 14:23:49
In reply to Re: Back from Crisis Centre, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 23, 2010, at 17:17:56
Trapped. Can't out. Don't know what to do anymore. This has been my life for as long as I can remember. I want to die. I want to OD. I do not want to live.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 25, 2010, at 15:08:19
In reply to trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 14:23:49
(((((Maxie)))))
I think you really need some support in person. Do you think you need to go back to the crisis centre?
xx
Posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 16:18:12
In reply to Re: trapped » Maxime, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 25, 2010, at 15:08:19
FML. I just found out that I have lost my job. Who loses a retail job in 2 weeks? I AM A LOSER. PATHETIC. FAT PIG. DON'T deserve to live.
Posted by chujoe on August 25, 2010, at 17:36:21
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 16:18:12
Maxime, you are so helpful and supportive toward people on this board. Your kindness shines through your pain. Please know that there are people here who care about you.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 25, 2010, at 17:45:57
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 16:18:12
> FML. I just found out that I have lost my job. Who loses a retail job in 2 weeks?
Why did you lose it Maxie?
Please be kind to yourself and don't forget that a lot of people lose retail jobs very quickly. I know someone who manages a shop and many new starters don't stay for very long. For one reason or another, they aren't suited to the job. Of course, this doesn't mean that they wouldn't be suited to a different job. Because of the shortage of jobs at the moment, managers have become extremely picky.
Love Ed xx
Posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 18:57:15
In reply to Re: trapped » Maxime, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 25, 2010, at 17:45:57
I don't know why I lost it. I just received a call today to tell me not to bother coming in for the rest of the week and to call my manager on Monday (she is on holiday now)
Posted by emmanuel98 on August 25, 2010, at 19:10:32
In reply to Re: trapped » ed_uk2010, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 18:57:15
That doesn't necessarily mean you lost the job, if they told you to call the manager. It may be they just didn't need you on the schedule this week, which happens a lot in retail and in the restaurant industry. My daughter works in a bar/restaurant and they're always cutting her hours or calling and telling her not to come in because it's too slow.
Posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:18:44
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by emmanuel98 on August 25, 2010, at 19:10:32
Sadly, it does in this case. I asked them if I was being fired and there was a long silence at the other end. I guess they don't have authority to tell me. I was going to quit the job because I would have been earning less than what I get on Welfare. However, I was going to wait until the Manager was back. I wish I could have beat them to the punch because now, even though I was going to quit .... I HAVE BE FIRED. I am so ashamed. AT this point I really would be better off dead. I am a loser and a burden to those around me.
Posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:22:58
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by emmanuel98 on August 25, 2010, at 19:10:32
I don't know what to do.
Posted by Zyprexa on August 25, 2010, at 23:52:04
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:22:58
> I don't know what to do.
Look for a better job! Closer to home and better pay if possible.
Posted by emmanuel98 on August 25, 2010, at 23:55:36
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:22:58
Can you go to a hospital and tell them you're plajnning to OD? Or to the ctisis center
Posted by Phillipa on August 25, 2010, at 23:58:19
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by emmanuel98 on August 25, 2010, at 23:55:36
On line school? Medical field? Don't laugh just a thought. Phillipa
Posted by morgan miller on August 26, 2010, at 0:12:00
In reply to trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 14:23:49
Maxie, you have to get someone to help you. There has to be some free counseling service.
What about a psychiatric hospital stay? Do you have insurance? I didn't like my hospital stays much but they did help get me started on getting better.
What about family or friends?
First, you need a med or meds to help you feel better. That's why I suggest admitting yourself to a hospital.
Have you ever applied for disability? Are you on it now? A friend of mine has been on it for 4 years. Most of his hospital stays and doctor visits are paid for. And, he gets paid a certain amount of money every two weeks, it's only $250 I believe, but it's better than nothing. I'm just thinking that disability may be a good thing for you until you get better.
Hang in there, things will get better. You have to reach out for some help.
Morgan
Posted by violette on August 26, 2010, at 7:27:47
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:22:58
"I don't know what to do."
Maxime,
Do you have a college degree? If not, Phillipa had a good idea-how about going to school? If there is a local community college near you, you could even do work-study there (they place you somewhere on campus-it's not like 'applying' for a job), working part time doing something easy like paperwork at the financial aid office. Sure beats retail! The college environment is really laid back and I have found that in college, people are generally nice to be around, and having your curiousity aroused takes your mind off bad feelings. And at community colleges, there are a mix of people-different ages, single moms, younger kids, senior citizens, people who go to 4-year university, people on welfare....
And if you are on welfare, you'd be eligible for the full govt. grants which would exceed your tuition. You get to pocket the rest. My son gets about $3000 in cash per year just from leftover grant money. In addition to that, you can also get student loans to live on-that you don't have to pay back until you graduate. And there are tons of private scholarhips where you just write essays, and if you are selected, can get checks for $1000, $500, whatever, and keep the money.
Plus, it works well if you have mental health problems since you can miss classes when you are not feeling well. Or you could arrange all your classes in 2 days a week sometimes, esp. during your first year. It's not ideal to miss classes, but if you do your homework and study you can still get good grades. And when you start, the classes are generally very easy.
There are 12-month programs or 2 year programs-some pay $20 an hour after graduation, such as an MRI technician, there's non stressful jobs like medical billing coder, more... There are free programs for welders and machinists since they are in short supply. The community colleges have partnerships with businesses that hire the graduates.
It could build your self confidence too, you would get a sense of accomplishment each semester from earning credits towards a degree. You could start off with 2 classes the first semester maybe and ease yourself into it, and do work study. Either way, going to school can pay more than retail, if you include the loans and excluding the private scholarships you can get.
Screw retail. Could school be the change you need? I survived years of college with mental illness, at times it was real bad. It's a way out....Be hopeful. :)
Posted by floatingbridge on August 26, 2010, at 14:55:04
In reply to Back from Crisis Centre, posted by Maxime on August 17, 2010, at 19:36:25
(((hugs))), Maxie
Some possibilities suggested in this thread, school, distance learning, counseling. (Though free counseling may not always be the best, you could get lucky.)
We're all pulling for you.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 26, 2010, at 15:48:41
In reply to Re: trapped, posted by Maxime on August 25, 2010, at 19:22:58
Some good ideas for Maxie.
Maxie, you said you were a burden. Why would you even think that? Aren't you the one who is caring for your mother? You are not a burden on anyone.
Love Ed x
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