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Posted by Cindy W on June 8, 2000, at 9:05:12
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
> To All My Friends in Babbleland
>
> I don't know if I should bother you with this, but we left for Disney World on Sunday and went to Magic Kingdom on Monday and had a fantastic day, even though it was incredibly hot.
>
> We got back to our resort and there was a message about karaoke on our voice mail. My older daughter, Suzanne, decided to go. At 11:00pm my wife began to worry. I said she was a big girl and could take care of herself; we didn't need to smother her.
>
> At 1:00am she still wasn't home, so my wife (Suzanne's stepmom) called the front desk. Karaoke ended at 10:00pm and the desk asked if we were from Canada. Suzanne has a different last name than ours. The desk said they were sending security over. At this point my wife freaked. She woke me up.
>
> I waited a couple of minutes and security didn't come, so I looked out the front door and saw several police cars and flares blocking the road and traffic being re-routed. I jogged over to the scene and two EMS guys and two Troopers were on me immediately. They asked who I was and I told them my name, but my daughter, with a different last name hadn't come home. They asked me to describe what she was wearing. I did and that was when they told me she was dead.
>
> It seems that she was coming back from the bar the where karaoke had been (they didn't serve her because she was underage and she had drank 3 diet cokes). This was at 11:33pm. She was crossing the road on crosswalk with flashing lights with a guy from the same complex we were staying at. The guy saw the truck at the last second and turned. He had obstructed my daughter's view. The big truck (a 4X4) hit the guy's leg and hit my daughter flush. She hit the road and it fractured her skull. She died instantly and probably didn't know what hit her (thankfully).
>
> We went to the hospital and I.D.'d the body and met with the medical examiner.
>
> The guy who hit her had minimal coverage ($10,000) and was 23 years old. He was in a hurry to get home from work and was driving aggressively (but police say probably not an excessive speed - he was cutting through parking lots to miss lights, etc.). His insurance will probably not cover the ambulance ride. We have some travel insurance, but we really don't know how much in a case like this.
>
> I am still in shock. I don't think it has really registered fully with me. I don't think I will be posting for a while, but I will lurk to get away from this, every now and then. We just arrived home about 2 hours ago. My 4yr. old sort of knows what is going on and she knows her sister is dead, but I think she is starting to come to the realization of what the implications of dead really mean. My wife is a mess, but she has called a few key friends and family who are handling the arrangements to get the body back home (and got us back home). We know some wonderful people.
>
> Please do not e-mail me, as I am trying to contact my dad, who is sailing somewhere near the Cook Islands and his e-mail only works in port. My e-mail fills up pretty fast and I don't want to miss his message.
>
> Thanks for listening; I know almost all of you care about me and I thought that I should share this with you.
>
> Sincerely - Cam.
Cam, I'm so very sorry! Wish I had the right words to say...just want you and your wife to know I care.
Posted by Gail on June 8, 2000, at 9:26:29
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cindy W on June 8, 2000, at 9:05:12
> Cam-
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. We will light a candle on Sunday. My heart breaks for you, her mother, your wife and the family. God Bless.
Gail
Posted by Archangel on June 8, 2000, at 10:00:53
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your daughter. No words can adequately convey my feelings right now. I’m so very sorry. I’m sitting here in my office crying over your loss. The help you have provided to so many people here to ease their pain is immeasurable. I know there is nothing we can do or say right now to ease the pain you are feeling. I feel compelled to do something in my own small way: I’ll be stopping at church tonight after work to light a candle and say a prayer for Suzanne, you, your wife and your family. God bless you all.
With warmest regards,
Michael
Posted by AndrewB on June 8, 2000, at 11:20:38
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
I am so sorry. I will say a prayer for your daughter.
I am not very good at grieving. Maybe it is male thing. I am good at fixing things but I have a hard time giving up control. But at sometime, maybe during some tear jerker movie, I will be overcome by the immutable pain of my loss, and I will abandon myself to my tears. I know this is a good thing. It means the grieving process has begun and my (long) recovery is underway.
AndrewB
Posted by harry b. on June 8, 2000, at 11:32:17
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam-I am so sorry about your loss. May the thoughts
and prayers offered by your friends help you and
your family.hb
Posted by Zannah on June 8, 2000, at 11:33:00
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
Deep condolence to you & your family. I have recently lost a close family member. I have one child, a 3 yr. old daughter. Your loss wrenchs my heart. I wish you strength.
Sincerely~Zannah
Posted by NikkiT on June 8, 2000, at 12:36:31
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
I've had a little time to get over the initial shock of your posting, and have a feeling I can't shake, and hope you understand where I'm coming from.
I would very much like to do something to honour your daughter, and I'm sure there are others here who feel like me.
If you were a friend who I knew in person, I would ofcourse send flowers, but this isn't really possible here.What I would like to know, is there anything your daughter would have liked, just something that maybe we could all do... Something as simple as planting a tree, or feeding a stray dog - I don't know. I'm not religious, so often find it hard to find ways of showing I care (like a lighting of candle).
Or maybe there is a favourite charity I / we could make a donation to.I'm pretty sure I won't be alone in feeling this.
And never forget where we are...
N
xxx
Posted by Chris A. on June 8, 2000, at 12:38:54
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
May the God of all comfort be very near you. Please know that we are praying for you and your family. You have been an immense help to so many here.
May you know His presence and His hope during this difficult time.Love,
Chris A.
Posted by Margaret on June 8, 2000, at 12:43:02
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam, I am so sorry for your loss. You have helped me significantly with your information and I consider your wisdom a gift. I would like you to know that you are in my prayers. Take Care of yourself and please know you are in my thoughts.
Posted by Kath on June 8, 2000, at 14:02:46
In reply to Cam and family, posted by Chris A. on June 8, 2000, at 12:38:54
Cam - I am so very sorry that this has happened to you and your family.
My heart goes out to you in your loss of Suzanne, and you are all in my prayers.
Kath.
Posted by KarenB on June 8, 2000, at 15:14:38
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
I am so very sorry. I'll be praying for you and your family.
Karen
Posted by Rockets on June 8, 2000, at 15:42:34
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Oh no. This is a terrible tragedy. I am heartbroken for Cam as is everyone else here. This will take years. Our hearts go out to you Cam. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to ease the pain.
Posted by kellyR. on June 8, 2000, at 15:55:22
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
> To All My Friends in Babbleland
>
> I don't know if I should bother you with this, but we left for Disney World on Sunday and went to Magic Kingdom on Monday and had a fantastic day, even though it was incredibly hot.
>
> We got back to our resort and there was a message about karaoke on our voice mail. My older daughter, Suzanne, decided to go. At 11:00pm my wife began to worry. I said she was a big girl and could take care of herself; we didn't need to smother her.
>
> At 1:00am she still wasn't home, so my wife (Suzanne's stepmom) called the front desk. Karaoke ended at 10:00pm and the desk asked if we were from Canada. Suzanne has a different last name than ours. The desk said they were sending security over. At this point my wife freaked. She woke me up.
>
> I waited a couple of minutes and security didn't come, so I looked out the front door and saw several police cars and flares blocking the road and traffic being re-routed. I jogged over to the scene and two EMS guys and two Troopers were on me immediately. They asked who I was and I told them my name, but my daughter, with a different last name hadn't come home. They asked me to describe what she was wearing. I did and that was when they told me she was dead.
>
> It seems that she was coming back from the bar the where karaoke had been (they didn't serve her because she was underage and she had drank 3 diet cokes). This was at 11:33pm. She was crossing the road on crosswalk with flashing lights with a guy from the same complex we were staying at. The guy saw the truck at the last second and turned. He had obstructed my daughter's view. The big truck (a 4X4) hit the guy's leg and hit my daughter flush. She hit the road and it fractured her skull. She died instantly and probably didn't know what hit her (thankfully).
>
> We went to the hospital and I.D.'d the body and met with the medical examiner.
>
> The guy who hit her had minimal coverage ($10,000) and was 23 years old. He was in a hurry to get home from work and was driving aggressively (but police say probably not an excessive speed - he was cutting through parking lots to miss lights, etc.). His insurance will probably not cover the ambulance ride. We have some travel insurance, but we really don't know how much in a case like this.
>
> I am still in shock. I don't think it has really registered fully with me. I don't think I will be posting for a while, but I will lurk to get away from this, every now and then. We just arrived home about 2 hours ago. My 4yr. old sort of knows what is going on and she knows her sister is dead, but I think she is starting to come to the realization of what the implications of dead really mean. My wife is a mess, but she has called a few key friends and family who are handling the arrangements to get the body back home (and got us back home). We know some wonderful people.
>
> Please do not e-mail me, as I am trying to contact my dad, who is sailing somewhere near the Cook Islands and his e-mail only works in port. My e-mail fills up pretty fast and I don't want to miss his message.
>
> Thanks for listening; I know almost all of you care about me and I thought that I should share this with you.
>
> Sincerely - Cam.I'm so sorry for your lost,you & your family well be in my thoughts & prays.
Posted by Louisa on June 8, 2000, at 17:11:33
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
My husband and I will be thinking of you and your terrible terrible loss. My heart goes out to you and your whole family.
Louisa
Posted by brian on June 8, 2000, at 17:54:06
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Louisa on June 8, 2000, at 17:11:33
Cam,
While you probably don't know me, I've benefited greatly from the generous advice you have given others.
All I can offer you now is my deepest sympathy. I am very sorry for your loss.
Brian
Posted by Mead on June 8, 2000, at 18:32:54
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam - When you are ready....this site is recommended by friends of mine who lost their son.
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/
From their Web site:
"The mission of The Compassionate Friends is to assist families in the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child and
to provide information to help others be supportive.The Compassionate Friends is a national nonprofit, self-help support organization which offers friendship and understanding to families who are grieving the death of a child of any age, from any cause. There is no religious affiliation. There are no membership fees or dues, and all bereaved family members are welcome."
Even those of us who don't really know you are so saddened by your loss and touched by the unique, loving suppport offered here.
Mead
Posted by Cass on June 8, 2000, at 18:33:56
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
This thread will help you remember that everyone is thinking of you and your family. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. Be well.
Posted by Steph on June 8, 2000, at 18:35:16
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
> To All My Friends in Babbleland
>
> Please know that you have my sincerest sympathies. You will be in my thoughts this week and especially when I attend church this Sunday. Peace
Stephanie
Posted by Phil on June 8, 2000, at 18:45:10
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Steph on June 8, 2000, at 18:35:16
> > To All My Friends in Babbleland
> >
I'm absolutely heart-broken for you and your family, Cam. Stunned. I promise, you are all in my prayers. I'm so sorry...Phil
Posted by shar on June 8, 2000, at 19:24:07
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam and family,
I am very, very sorry to hear about the death of your daughter. Cam, you, your wife, and your daughters will all be in my thoughts and prayers.(I have a couple of good people and one GREAT Border Collie already up there--I will make sure they find your daughter, bless her, and comfort her.)
Shar
Posted by Sara T on June 8, 2000, at 20:14:35
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Phil on June 8, 2000, at 18:45:10
Cam -
I'd like to join the rest in expressing my deepest sympathy for you and your family. The loss of a child is one of the deepest lossed I can think of. I am so sorry this happed to you.
Sara T
Posted by Jade on June 8, 2000, at 21:27:41
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Sara T on June 8, 2000, at 20:14:35
Dear Cam,
My heart goes out to you!! I wish you and your family much strength at this time!
Love Jade
Posted by Brenda on June 8, 2000, at 21:33:12
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
> To All My Friends in Babbleland
>
> I don't know if I should bother you with this, but we left for Disney World on Sunday and went to Magic Kingdom on Monday and had a fantastic day, even though it was incredibly hot.
>
> We got back to our resort and there was a message about karaoke on our voice mail. My older daughter, Suzanne, decided to go. At 11:00pm my wife began to worry. I said she was a big girl and could take care of herself; we didn't need to smother her.
>
> At 1:00am she still wasn't home, so my wife (Suzanne's stepmom) called the front desk. Karaoke ended at 10:00pm and the desk asked if we were from Canada. Suzanne has a different last name than ours. The desk said they were sending security over. At this point my wife freaked. She woke me up.
>
> I waited a couple of minutes and security didn't come, so I looked out the front door and saw several police cars and flares blocking the road and traffic being re-routed. I jogged over to the scene and two EMS guys and two Troopers were on me immediately. They asked who I was and I told them my name, but my daughter, with a different last name hadn't come home. They asked me to describe what she was wearing. I did and that was when they told me she was dead.
>
> It seems that she was coming back from the bar the where karaoke had been (they didn't serve her because she was underage and she had drank 3 diet cokes). This was at 11:33pm. She was crossing the road on crosswalk with flashing lights with a guy from the same complex we were staying at. The guy saw the truck at the last second and turned. He had obstructed my daughter's view. The big truck (a 4X4) hit the guy's leg and hit my daughter flush. She hit the road and it fractured her skull. She died instantly and probably didn't know what hit her (thankfully).
>
> We went to the hospital and I.D.'d the body and met with the medical examiner.
>
> The guy who hit her had minimal coverage ($10,000) and was 23 years old. He was in a hurry to get home from work and was driving aggressively (but police say probably not an excessive speed - he was cutting through parking lots to miss lights, etc.). His insurance will probably not cover the ambulance ride. We have some travel insurance, but we really don't know how much in a case like this.
>
> I am still in shock. I don't think it has really registered fully with me. I don't think I will be posting for a while, but I will lurk to get away from this, every now and then. We just arrived home about 2 hours ago. My 4yr. old sort of knows what is going on and she knows her sister is dead, but I think she is starting to come to the realization of what the implications of dead really mean. My wife is a mess, but she has called a few key friends and family who are handling the arrangements to get the body back home (and got us back home). We know some wonderful people.
>
> Please do not e-mail me, as I am trying to contact my dad, who is sailing somewhere near the Cook Islands and his e-mail only works in port. My e-mail fills up pretty fast and I don't want to miss his message.
>
> Thanks for listening; I know almost all of you care about me and I thought that I should share this with you.
>
> Sincerely - Cam.Dear Cam and family,
I can't stop crying from the sadness for you and your family. I read your posts always and those from your wife.
My heart goes out to you,
Brenda
Posted by me-but-not-me on June 8, 2000, at 23:04:38
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Brenda on June 8, 2000, at 21:33:12
You give so freely of yourself here to help us. I wish we could help diffuse your pain and sorrow in some minute way. I sincerely wish you and yours peace and comfort in this dark time... If you need us in any way we are here for you.
Posted by Alan on June 8, 2000, at 23:12:08
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Brenda on June 8, 2000, at 21:33:12
Cam,
I am so sorry about you most tragic of losses.
Please accept our outpourings of sympathy as expressions of our love for you and your family.
Alan
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