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Posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
To All My Friends in Babbleland
I don't know if I should bother you with this, but we left for Disney World on Sunday and went to Magic Kingdom on Monday and had a fantastic day, even though it was incredibly hot.We got back to our resort and there was a message about karaoke on our voice mail. My older daughter, Suzanne, decided to go. At 11:00pm my wife began to worry. I said she was a big girl and could take care of herself; we didn't need to smother her.
At 1:00am she still wasn't home, so my wife (Suzanne's stepmom) called the front desk. Karaoke ended at 10:00pm and the desk asked if we were from Canada. Suzanne has a different last name than ours. The desk said they were sending security over. At this point my wife freaked. She woke me up.
I waited a couple of minutes and security didn't come, so I looked out the front door and saw several police cars and flares blocking the road and traffic being re-routed. I jogged over to the scene and two EMS guys and two Troopers were on me immediately. They asked who I was and I told them my name, but my daughter, with a different last name hadn't come home. They asked me to describe what she was wearing. I did and that was when they told me she was dead.
It seems that she was coming back from the bar the where karaoke had been (they didn't serve her because she was underage and she had drank 3 diet cokes). This was at 11:33pm. She was crossing the road on crosswalk with flashing lights with a guy from the same complex we were staying at. The guy saw the truck at the last second and turned. He had obstructed my daughter's view. The big truck (a 4X4) hit the guy's leg and hit my daughter flush. She hit the road and it fractured her skull. She died instantly and probably didn't know what hit her (thankfully).
We went to the hospital and I.D.'d the body and met with the medical examiner.
The guy who hit her had minimal coverage ($10,000) and was 23 years old. He was in a hurry to get home from work and was driving aggressively (but police say probably not an excessive speed - he was cutting through parking lots to miss lights, etc.). His insurance will probably not cover the ambulance ride. We have some travel insurance, but we really don't know how much in a case like this.
I am still in shock. I don't think it has really registered fully with me. I don't think I will be posting for a while, but I will lurk to get away from this, every now and then. We just arrived home about 2 hours ago. My 4yr. old sort of knows what is going on and she knows her sister is dead, but I think she is starting to come to the realization of what the implications of dead really mean. My wife is a mess, but she has called a few key friends and family who are handling the arrangements to get the body back home (and got us back home). We know some wonderful people.
Please do not e-mail me, as I am trying to contact my dad, who is sailing somewhere near the Cook Islands and his e-mail only works in port. My e-mail fills up pretty fast and I don't want to miss his message.
Thanks for listening; I know almost all of you care about me and I thought that I should share this with you.
Sincerely - Cam.
Posted by JudithC on June 8, 2000, at 4:12:47
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam W.,
How horrible for you and your family. I am saddened by the loss of your daughter and I will be praying for each of you.
JudithC
Posted by Deb R on June 8, 2000, at 4:12:57
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dearest Cam and family
I am so, so sorry that you have lost your dear daughter, please accept my love and sympathy at this tragic time. Wish there was something I could do...
Deb.
Posted by NikkiT on June 8, 2000, at 5:36:07
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam.
Right now I can't find any words to express how I feel for you and your family. I could say the usual time wil heal etc, but I know that really isn't going to help you right now.
I want you know how deeply I am thinking of you, as I'm sure the others are.
You are very, very much in my thoughts.
An awful ot of love, and a virtual ((((hug)))) from my side of the world.
Nikki xxx
Posted by ChrisK on June 8, 2000, at 6:11:37
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
I am a 37 year old man who is not prone to cry much but I am writing this with tears on my face. I am so sorry to hear about this. You are a vital member of this community and we all value you.
Your daughter and family will be in my prayers today.
Chris Kelly
Posted by Tina1 on June 8, 2000, at 7:03:19
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by ChrisK on June 8, 2000, at 6:11:37
> Cam,
>
> I am a 37 year old man who is not prone to cry much but I am writing this with tears on my face. I am so sorry to hear about this. You are a vital member of this community and we all value you.
>
> Your daughter and family will be in my prayers today.
>
> Chris KellyCam--I have no words except that I'm sorry but it's not enough. Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and my sincere condolences go out to you and your family. Love you--Tina
Posted by SLS on June 8, 2000, at 7:45:59
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
I am sorry.
With Love,
Scott
Posted by Noa on June 8, 2000, at 7:59:39
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by SLS on June 8, 2000, at 7:45:59
Cam, I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Much love,Noa
Posted by Greg on June 8, 2000, at 8:14:44
In reply to Re: Cam, posted by Noa on June 8, 2000, at 7:59:39
My Dear Friend,
I know that I cannot give you the words to help you find solace in this time of tragedy. I can only imagine what you must be feeling. I, like others am writing this thru tears.
I believe that Suzanne is in a place where there is no pain and she will be loved, cared for and protected forever. I hope that someday you can find some comfort in knowing that.
Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and if there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to ask. My sympathies go out to all of you.
My love to you and your family,
Greg
Posted by LD on June 8, 2000, at 8:20:39
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by SLS on June 8, 2000, at 7:45:59
Cam, I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
LD
Posted by Ant-Rock on June 8, 2000, at 8:33:03
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
You'll be in my prayers,
Anthony
Posted by lizzie on June 8, 2000, at 8:56:28
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
I am not much more than a sometime poster here
but please accept my condolences on the loss
of you daughter. I am so *sorry*.
Posted by Abby on June 8, 2000, at 9:00:45
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Ant-Rock on June 8, 2000, at 8:33:03
Cam,
I too am very sorry. I know that I would be very angry ---at that stupid driver and even at the traffic signalling set-up. I am glad you have such good friends to help.
Abby
Posted by CarolAnn on June 8, 2000, at 9:03:27
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam, my heart goes out to you and your family. I live in Orlando, right outside of Disney property. If I can help in any way, let me know and I will give you my phone number (I don't want to just post it here). I feel horrible, because when you were saying you were coming here, I kept meaning to offer myself as a local contact, and I just never got around to it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please, please, take me up on my offer of help, anytime. You are all in my prayers. love, CarolAnn
Posted by Cindy W on June 8, 2000, at 9:05:12
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
> To All My Friends in Babbleland
>
> I don't know if I should bother you with this, but we left for Disney World on Sunday and went to Magic Kingdom on Monday and had a fantastic day, even though it was incredibly hot.
>
> We got back to our resort and there was a message about karaoke on our voice mail. My older daughter, Suzanne, decided to go. At 11:00pm my wife began to worry. I said she was a big girl and could take care of herself; we didn't need to smother her.
>
> At 1:00am she still wasn't home, so my wife (Suzanne's stepmom) called the front desk. Karaoke ended at 10:00pm and the desk asked if we were from Canada. Suzanne has a different last name than ours. The desk said they were sending security over. At this point my wife freaked. She woke me up.
>
> I waited a couple of minutes and security didn't come, so I looked out the front door and saw several police cars and flares blocking the road and traffic being re-routed. I jogged over to the scene and two EMS guys and two Troopers were on me immediately. They asked who I was and I told them my name, but my daughter, with a different last name hadn't come home. They asked me to describe what she was wearing. I did and that was when they told me she was dead.
>
> It seems that she was coming back from the bar the where karaoke had been (they didn't serve her because she was underage and she had drank 3 diet cokes). This was at 11:33pm. She was crossing the road on crosswalk with flashing lights with a guy from the same complex we were staying at. The guy saw the truck at the last second and turned. He had obstructed my daughter's view. The big truck (a 4X4) hit the guy's leg and hit my daughter flush. She hit the road and it fractured her skull. She died instantly and probably didn't know what hit her (thankfully).
>
> We went to the hospital and I.D.'d the body and met with the medical examiner.
>
> The guy who hit her had minimal coverage ($10,000) and was 23 years old. He was in a hurry to get home from work and was driving aggressively (but police say probably not an excessive speed - he was cutting through parking lots to miss lights, etc.). His insurance will probably not cover the ambulance ride. We have some travel insurance, but we really don't know how much in a case like this.
>
> I am still in shock. I don't think it has really registered fully with me. I don't think I will be posting for a while, but I will lurk to get away from this, every now and then. We just arrived home about 2 hours ago. My 4yr. old sort of knows what is going on and she knows her sister is dead, but I think she is starting to come to the realization of what the implications of dead really mean. My wife is a mess, but she has called a few key friends and family who are handling the arrangements to get the body back home (and got us back home). We know some wonderful people.
>
> Please do not e-mail me, as I am trying to contact my dad, who is sailing somewhere near the Cook Islands and his e-mail only works in port. My e-mail fills up pretty fast and I don't want to miss his message.
>
> Thanks for listening; I know almost all of you care about me and I thought that I should share this with you.
>
> Sincerely - Cam.
Cam, I'm so very sorry! Wish I had the right words to say...just want you and your wife to know I care.
Posted by Gail on June 8, 2000, at 9:26:29
In reply to Re: Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cindy W on June 8, 2000, at 9:05:12
> Cam-
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. We will light a candle on Sunday. My heart breaks for you, her mother, your wife and the family. God Bless.
Gail
Posted by Archangel on June 8, 2000, at 10:00:53
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your daughter. No words can adequately convey my feelings right now. I’m so very sorry. I’m sitting here in my office crying over your loss. The help you have provided to so many people here to ease their pain is immeasurable. I know there is nothing we can do or say right now to ease the pain you are feeling. I feel compelled to do something in my own small way: I’ll be stopping at church tonight after work to light a candle and say a prayer for Suzanne, you, your wife and your family. God bless you all.
With warmest regards,
Michael
Posted by AndrewB on June 8, 2000, at 11:20:38
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
I am so sorry. I will say a prayer for your daughter.
I am not very good at grieving. Maybe it is male thing. I am good at fixing things but I have a hard time giving up control. But at sometime, maybe during some tear jerker movie, I will be overcome by the immutable pain of my loss, and I will abandon myself to my tears. I know this is a good thing. It means the grieving process has begun and my (long) recovery is underway.
AndrewB
Posted by harry b. on June 8, 2000, at 11:32:17
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam-I am so sorry about your loss. May the thoughts
and prayers offered by your friends help you and
your family.hb
Posted by Zannah on June 8, 2000, at 11:33:00
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Cam,
Deep condolence to you & your family. I have recently lost a close family member. I have one child, a 3 yr. old daughter. Your loss wrenchs my heart. I wish you strength.
Sincerely~Zannah
Posted by NikkiT on June 8, 2000, at 12:36:31
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
I've had a little time to get over the initial shock of your posting, and have a feeling I can't shake, and hope you understand where I'm coming from.
I would very much like to do something to honour your daughter, and I'm sure there are others here who feel like me.
If you were a friend who I knew in person, I would ofcourse send flowers, but this isn't really possible here.What I would like to know, is there anything your daughter would have liked, just something that maybe we could all do... Something as simple as planting a tree, or feeding a stray dog - I don't know. I'm not religious, so often find it hard to find ways of showing I care (like a lighting of candle).
Or maybe there is a favourite charity I / we could make a donation to.I'm pretty sure I won't be alone in feeling this.
And never forget where we are...
N
xxx
Posted by Chris A. on June 8, 2000, at 12:38:54
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
May the God of all comfort be very near you. Please know that we are praying for you and your family. You have been an immense help to so many here.
May you know His presence and His hope during this difficult time.Love,
Chris A.
Posted by Margaret on June 8, 2000, at 12:43:02
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam, I am so sorry for your loss. You have helped me significantly with your information and I consider your wisdom a gift. I would like you to know that you are in my prayers. Take Care of yourself and please know you are in my thoughts.
Posted by Kath on June 8, 2000, at 14:02:46
In reply to Cam and family, posted by Chris A. on June 8, 2000, at 12:38:54
Cam - I am so very sorry that this has happened to you and your family.
My heart goes out to you in your loss of Suzanne, and you are all in my prayers.
Kath.
Posted by KarenB on June 8, 2000, at 15:14:38
In reply to Holiday Tragedy, posted by Cam W. on June 8, 2000, at 2:37:54
Dear Cam,
I am so very sorry. I'll be praying for you and your family.
Karen
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